I love that you're interested in the subject. I'm a loooong time spanko and I'm glad to answer these and any other questions:
Do you like to spank, to get spanked or both? I love to spank. It's my favorite form of foreplay.
How do you usually do it (positions, hands or objects, how severe)? Positions: Over the knee (OTK), bent over a piece of furniture, up against the wall in what I call the T&A position: hands up on the wall, back arched to thrust tits toward the wall and ass stuck out behind
I spank with my hand but prefer a variety of paddles of varying materials and thicknesses. I also love to use various kinds and sizes of canes as well as straps, crops, and whatever else come to hand.
I spank pretty hard. I want her to know the sting and know it well. I may bruise if she bruises easily but nothing that lasts more than a few days. Same for welts for the cane.
And how do you initiate spanking with a new or present partner, if you are into it? Before I get intimate with a woman the first time, I sit down with her to have a frank conversation about what I want and what I need AND what she wants and needs. Her limits are also discussed. She knows she's gonna get spanked so I may just manhandle her over into position or command her to assume a position. I'm a very dominant lover so it's a natural thing.
What do you like about it? I love the sadistic nature of it since I"m very into S&M. I also love the dominance and control aspect. Great lovers enjoy struggling and resisting so that I need to "beat" it out of them, much to the delight of all.
Does that answer your questions? Feel free to update here or better yet, message me.
Thank you! That was very insightful. I love being spanked but would like to learn to like doing the opposite for my partner (s) too since I know they want it. I can be dominant, but sadism doesn't seem to work for me at all. I don't want to hurt anyone even though I know they'd like me to.
Then don't try to be a sadist. How about if you view spanking them as more about dominating them in a visible way, "making" them submit to you as opposed to punishing or hurting them?
If she's cool with it, I'm going to lightly smack her buttocks when I give her a butt massage. I'm going to lightly smack her so I don't hurt her. Then after a little bit of that, I'm going to rub her butt with lotion while I give her the massage.
Now it's my turn. I want her to shave my buttocks and smack them not too hard. Then she'll take the lotion and squirt in not into her hands like I will. She'll squirt a lot onto my butt and work it in well. Then it's time for and I'm going to finger her while she gives me a handjob.
I like getting spanked and I also like to spankmy partner.
I personally do it to be flirtatious with my partner. Some form of "cheeky behaviour" a good thwack on he's bum when I walk past him with a grin on my face (also a good way to introduce that to a new partner)
Him spanking my bum during sex is what I like. Repetitive. But not to the point where it leaves a mark on my ass is fine with me
Depends on the moment and how i'm feeling. He knows when to do it
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I've been spanked enough as a kid lol , no more pls.
It's usually people who have never been spanked as a kid who're into spanking I've noticed lol
I think only weird people do it who are very very bored.
In that case Im a weird person, but Im not bored at all!
noooo
In that case, why do you not like it?
just cause its weird to me like I get weirded out
I do like spanking, getting and giving
I usually use either my hand or a paddle, I've been spanked with hands, brushes, and paddles. Everything from teasing to bruising both giving and getting.
I just take a friendly swat, just lightly if she responds well, then... if not then...
It's fun, I'm not sure that I can explain any further.
Thank you!
I love spanking. It's definitely part of my relationship. I prefer to spank my partner, but sometimes it's fun to be spanked. :)
What do you like about spanking your partner? My partners like to be spanked and I'd love to be able to make them happy, but I can't seem to get myself to hit them. Even though I love being spanked too and know what it's like.
I like the dominance it shows. "This is mine, and I'm making sure you know." And I really enjoy the fact my partner gets enjoyment out of it.
1. I love to spank a girl.
2. Usually either bend her over my knee or bend her over a counter/ table.
3. I have only usually done it with partners i have been dating for a while and when we are comfortable enough together I just go "Wanna try spanking?"
4. Not sure why i like it but it is such a HUGE turn on.
I like doing the spanking.
How? depends on the moment. if during sex, then it's gotta be random. ... As hard as she wants.
if someone new, I'd just do it, but nothing too hard.
I like the reaction from being spanked, and her liking it ;j
oh i love to spank her ass, breasts, her thighs and inner thighs
i can literally do that all night
What do you like about it?
giving her the pain with pleasure
and then hearing her moans on every spank
I like neither.
Spank during doggie to show her wildness, trigger the mood and even Spank make her cum.
It's never happened to me, but I fantasise about being spanked by a girl, the idea really turns me on!
Sometimes it's necessary when my wife isn't acting right, refusing to keep the house cleaning and have a meal prepared for when I come home from work. I tried to discuss her disrespectful behavior but she flew into a rage and attacked me so I grabbed her and put her across my knee hitched up her skirt pulled down her panties and with the palm of my hand spanked her bottom as hard as I could for 10 minutes. Her ass was red raw and she couldn’t sit down for a week. She ran home to her parents who were discusted by her behaviour and her father threatened to take his belt to her. After a week she realised how wrong she had been andrawn apologised, we had amazing make up sex. Ever since she's been as good as gold putting maximum effort into our marriage and is now pregnant. It was all just a classic shit test to test my limits and of course if I hadn't disciplined her she would not respect me.
That sounds horribly conservative, like a woman should be a man's slave. I meant erotic spanking
It turns her on to know I'm dominate in the relationship and the bedroom. Most women don't respect a husband who's a push over.
I like both spanking and being spanked. In both cases, I prefer just a hand on the bare ass of the one being spanked while they bend over the knee. Telling him during a sexual situation that you've been naughty and need to be punished is a good way of telling him you want to be spanked.
When she initiates it on me, I like her to take control by telling me I've been naughty and ordering me to bend over her knee. Then, after I do, she can pull down my pants and underwear and spank me.
never tried but would like to
I don't get it myself. Nothing arousing about it to me, giving or receiving. I've asked a similar question here and women's responses are interesting. Still don't get it but interesting lol
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2240649-ladies-especially-why-do-you-like-to-be-spanked-for-those-that-do
I like the sensation of being spanked because it just feels good. Just like massages or kisses on sensitive body parts can feel good. I also like the rush of hormones (endorfin etc) when the pain gets increased gradually. And I like the submissive aspect, of being at the mercy of my partner and going through that for them. Trust like that creates a strong emotional bond.
Ah ok. For me, once any pain comes it I'm immediately turned off not turned on. But that's just me. A lot of people feel like you do :)
I like to do the spanking over the knee with my hand. Depending on what she is wearing i start over her jeans then pull them down and spank her on her panties then pull he panties down and spank her bare bottom. I like to be dominant and this is a great way to express that and she can express her sub side.
How did you first start acting dominant? I've wanted to do a lot of things but keep being too scared to tell partners or to ask them to do certain things to me.
I start with small things when we're out like putting my hand on her back and leading her. At some point you just have to have a conversation about what you both like sexually what you want to try and what you are comfortable with. I get it can be hard to do that but for specific things like this it can be very hard to just get it to happen spontaneously. Do you want to be dominant, submissive or both?
Both, but mainly submissive, especially in the beginning. I find that both in dancing and sex it's easier to be led than to lead when you're unexperienced. I can be submissive and a masochist but am picky with my dominants as I need to trust them. I've tried and liked dominating partners too, but don't like inflicting pain or doing it when Im not 100% comfortable.
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