In the bedroom specifically. I feel like our sex life is just dead now. Everytime we have sex, it’s really short, awkward and uncomfortable. And I feel like I’m the only one who’s trying to suggest new ideas for us to try, and the only one who’s trying to reignite that intimacy spark.
How long have you been with your partner? It’s normal to feel the spark starting to fade away when you are with someone for so long , because it feels like it’s the same thing over and over it’s ordinary . So if you are both still in love with each other , the best thing to do is to not focus on sex , focus on each other , by finding ways for you and your partner to reignite that spark again , still have sex but try to approach sex a different way then what you both are use to , surprise him with things in the bedroom that you never really did before , start finding ways to get closer to each other again , start planning trips together , try things that you both never experienced before and , get to really know each other again , put all of your ordinary responsibilities aside and focus on each other start planning dates together , start doing spontaneous things , don’t wait for him to come up with a plan , it’s ok for you to surprise him on spontaneous dates as well and surprise him with something new in the bedroom that you both never really never did before , don’t talk about it just do it , Most people like to be caught off
guard and don’t know what to expect , I don’t know what you both do in the bedroom but whatever it is , change it and surprise him , don’t talk about it , just do it , plan romantic trios as well that just focus on the 2 of you whisper in his ear and tell him you want him to do naughty things to you , tell him you found a place where you both can fuck all weekend , most guys’ love that stuff trust me lol , find out what he enjoys what makes him happy , what turns him on , tell him what turns you on and the things that make you smile , Ask him what kind of sexual fantasies does he have , and don’t get upset if he says something that you don’t agree with , try to fulfill that fantasy for him as long as it’s nothing to do with bringing a 3 rd party into your relationship , that’s clearly up to you to decide if you want to go down that road , but usually it’s not a good idea , 3rd wheels can damage the relationship even more , Ask him to fulfill your fantasy as well , things that turn you on as well. Most couples wait until their partner decides what they want to do like they are suppose to read your mind. We can’t read each others’ minds so try focusing on things that you both can do together with no interferences and excuses , Tell your partner to request some days off from work because you have something planned just for the 2 of you , make love to each other that whole time you are both away , don’t let any negative thoughts ruin that time away together , make it about each other , after that time away , tell him it’s his turn to surprise you , tell him not to tell you anything just to surprise you. If he loves you he will. By you doing that for your partner is already ignoring that spark again. Most couples only think about themselves and what makes them happy , when you put that aside for your partner it makes it easier for your partner to do that for you. That’s the best advice I can give if you want your relationship to survive. Remember it’s you and him verse the world nobody else should get in the way what so ever
Welcome to the club
Wife of 5 years (dated since 2016), already had a low sex drive
Post-two under 2 👨👩👧👧 + sleep exhaustion + breastfeeding = a dead sex drive
Last time we had relations was not fun.
Declining of the excitement it is inevitable.
Everyone experiences this eventually, especially for couples long together.
The only thing that helps is how much friendship you have with your partner.
There are alternatives.
Never stop having dates every now and then, appreciate even the smallest things, talk about anything even the hardest topics, do not take your arguments negatively eventually see eye to eye later on, have individual time, have time as a family, have time as a couple.
Do not forget to still have fun every now and then.
Balance of everything will help.
I hope this helps.
@sabinav this sounds good but mostly not work once you start to feel frustrated.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Keep having romantic dates. Maybe go for a weekend getaway? Wear some lingere. Obviously he does his part of course.
Not to be mean. But could be that his interests are elsewhere. Most guys dont lose interest in a woman who is engaging in sex regularly.
Next time you meet, put electrodes on her nipples or on his testicles. That should put the spark back.
Anal and urethral play. Learn about them before you try them.
18-24 for age list. How long have you 2 been together?
meeting em irl
sorry I read ldr
maybe communicate more or planning for a fun date
Have you tried any roll play?
It is not easy. It seems to come and go. We are really busy a lot of the time and sometimes we have to purposely make time for us.
People are still having long term relationships? 🤣yikes...
You could try some rope play, different positions or bringing in foodstuff ;)
Is he on any antidepressants?
Lose weight suck dick, or eat pussy more than you watch TV.
Got to be willing to try new things. Ask him about a fantasy he has, or have him ask yours
Are you married?
Not yet
Um... Just saying. You may want to give that some thought.
Give what some thought?
The spark is to be together i think. I have no erection and cannot satisfy a girl
Have u tried anything so far?
Thats a sad part of relationship, marriage and vanilla sex.
Open up and explore new ideas for sex
Have to be able to communicate and express how you’re feeling and your concerns. He doesn’t know what you are thinking so you need to communicate those thoughts and feelings good or bad. As for your sex life try asking him if there is anything he wants to try he might just be nervous as to how you might take the idea of what he wants to do or that you might judge him by his suggestion.
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I'm a boy, but I have a tendency to be the girl in an intimate relationship with girls, but I won't try this before. I want any of you to understand that privately I need a help
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