How do you tell a female her sex is whack without hurting her feelings?

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normalice · Accepted Answer

I find the thing that makes a girl good in bed is how often I can get her off. But the factors that affect that aren't just how physically attracted I am to her. It's also how much she trusts me or how comfortable she is around me. And the things that effect that can number in the hundreds and are generally unique to each individual girl. This is possibly why it's considered "taking advantage" when older men date younger women: because younger women are more trusting of adults automatically and older men have learned through osmosis how valuable trust is to women. Having that trust without having to earn it in the same way younger men would have to is greedy. And there is no more definitive way to fail to earn said trust than to take advantage of having it.

I guess I'm kind of describing "groming." But the bad kind. The point I was trying to make is in a natural normal relationship, two people groom each other. And once whatever insecurities a girl has are weeded out or she can trust the guy not to judge her for them or however the girls trust-puzzle is arranged gets solved, the sex gets better. But it's still up to the guy to take the relationship seriously in the first place. In my case, if I'm unwilling to untangle a girls trust puzzle, them I'm unwilling to be in a relationship with her. The fact that the sex won't get better is more symptom than cause, but we'd have to break up.

Angelo75 · Accepted Answer

Well if she's really into you and want to have sex, give her the usual top-tip-top method.
Start with a sincere compliment, then try to tell her about what you're missing in the sex, then finish with a sincere compliment.

Give her a chance to "learn". Who knows, you might get urself a good sex-student with which you can even experiment all soft of stuffs. (submissive?)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Simply you don't we have an emotional reaction to everything as you guys all know!

So saying anything will hurt our feelings so instead teach us or show us how to do better in a sweet gentle way.

But guys will just scream out you suck in bed!

purplepoppy · Accepted Answer

The rider shouldn't blame the horse.

katiesmuff · Answer

I don't think it is going to happen just as it wouldn't happen the other way around.

FancyPantz · Answer

Ha! I seem to have completely missed the meaning of this question. I thought you were asking, How to tell your woman that her sex, i. e the female gender, is insane without hurting her feelings.

AviatorTom · Answer

You're gonna hurt her feelings... get over it!

Dargil · Answer

The answer is on your name. Coach Her. Like a flight instructor.

Unit1 · Answer

You don't. Or else you'll risk having to find another girl for sex and that risk is too high.

Yannae · Answer

I just looked at this question and imagined myself get struck by her using a frying pan. But I don't think it would be a problem. I can tell her things that would offend others, we've been together for a bit, we understand the other, communicate well. Two sane, respectful people who can take constructive criticism. If you understand your partner you know how to send the message in a way she can or will receive it... well. But straight up telling her that her sex is whack would get me the frying pan.

Nifrayu · Answer

Just tell her without using an insult.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Try this method  even if it is trash make her feel like she’s the best you ever had and you should have her wide open for you

DB1973 · Answer

May sound really weird BUT let me put it this way…Put whatever activity with whoever and whatever gender: Feed a man a fish and you have fed him for a day. TEACH a man to fish and feed him for a lifetime.
There are some things that are not instant.

LEGENDARY4200 · Answer

Talk to her. She may be willing to learn. Then the real fun starts

Slim57 · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

Ridiculous! why do you NEED to tell her?

if she's your life partner then try to improve it, and how do people get better at ANYTHING? PRACTICE!

Practice makes perfect.

There are no geniuses, only people who do a lot of one thing and others that don't.
if you do something a lot you eventually become good, very good, pro, and genus!

if you don't do it a lot, no practice only sometimes, you' will likely always be average or suck at it. that goes for anything in life not just sex.

if she's just a female as you say, and you'll just move on to the next, not life partner, etc, then there is absolutely ZERO reason for you to even comment on that, she will eventually get better with someone else as her experiences will take her to discover new ways to do more things with different people etc. that's life.
why hurt someone saying you suck at this blah blah blah? for what? , everyone sucks at one point and they get better with practice, especially if they like it!

when she finally finds the guy/man she's super in love with, or into, trust that she will likely become a pro at it because she will want to practice it more and more with that said person.

there's no reason to comment anything on it really. if you like her practice! more and more.
Unless your aim is to just hurt people emotionally? if that's your sole intention then it doesn't matter HOW you say it if you say it straight, on a note, with flowers and kisses, or just in any way, it will hurt any person on this planet that can understand the language you speak. so if that's your intent then it doesn't matter HOW you say it, it will do what you intend to do, hurt the person.

Anonymous · Answer

put a clothes peg on your nose before going to bed

Anonymous · Answer

You can't criticize a woman coach. Anything you say to a woman anytime is navigating a minefield.

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