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So - surprise! He agreed to a formal courtship. (It still feels weird to be in a relationship again...)
Anyway, he's kind of shy and unconfident in himself, so I don't think he'll initiate anything - he hasn't even kissed me yet. The thing is, every relationship I've been in, HE'S the one that initiates it!
So how long into the relationship should I try to start something? When (now that he's never tried anything) should I go for a first kiss? And how would I go about doing so?
So far, it seems like there hasn't really been "a moment" for it, mostly because our dates are usually in public, and he doesn't walk me to the door.
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11 61Just say something like " do you want to kiss me"
Whenever both people are comfortable doing so
Depends on the woman. I always try to walk the line between persistence and pressure. Inserting the general message of "whether or not we do this is in your control.. but that doesn't mean I won't chase."
Some might look at this and call it coercion. Just means they're not for me.
U should go for sex after marrage tbh. Well kiss isn't bad. Dont make go further after marrage if its serious relationship.
wtf is a formal courtship? hell, whats a regular one?
Lol you’re asking about sex and he hasb’t even kissed you 🤣
I'm just planning ahead! But yeah, the kiss is part of it...
Baby steps
To be honest I'm not sure? I relate very much to you "boyfriend" if that's what the label is. I'm very shy and awkward and have never reslly done anything so I myself would not know when or even how to first begin the initiation.
Third date
If he's a virgin I would wait 6 months, at least. If he's not, then 3. The beat way is to tell him that you are willing to do something anytime after a certain time. For example, you could tell him that if he wants to kiss you then you are okay with it whenever he is comfortable doing so.
Sooner the better. Sex is nice, do nice things.
When you both feel comfortable. There is no specific time.
I say well into knowing them. Not so much a timeline, but just getting to know them. Bottom line, if you want to, go for it.
3rd date...
For me it would probably be a few months and also building up to full sex slowly..
I'm really really sorry I can't be more help, ice never been in a relationship. So I can only really answe what my thoughts are. Also I hope you don't mind my asking but do you think my thoughts on it would be problematic in a relationship?
I don't really know either! Most guys I've been with have gone for it sooner, but they've varied from like the night we started officially dating to three months after
Hmmm that's interesting from what I've seen and heard I kinda assumed most guys went for sooner. I can't even put a time line idea it's about comfort and things like that but also well it would be slow progress through roughly 8 sort of stages. And it worries me a. bit as a close friend when I said that I would need to wait before sex said that it would only be so long in a. relayikns. before. it would be an issue and would be something sort of in the first few months of a relationship.
I bet most guys do, but I make my opinion on sex before dating pretty clear.
That makes sense. I guess my views are really odd especially when you consider that I've kinda had to break it down into 8 steps of progression. I always would have to make my views clear. But well. for. a first relationship I feel like it could be really awkward. As talking about sex in person makes me really uncomfortable. And embarrassed.
Whenever both people are comfortable
I say once their trust them 99%.
It's funny how I thought of that just yesterday. I thought about a woman I like who had almost hopped from one relationship to the next one. I told myself that I wouldn't initiate anything intimate for a while so she could have a break from that cycle.
I'd wait for her to feel ready for intimacy, but I'd show her I'd be as ready for that whenever she'd show slight signs of that, e. g. if she'd put her head on my shoulder, I'd look at her and somehow make a first move into kissing and I'd follow. Like she'd hint into initiating, but then I'd be the one fulfilling that. If you know what I mean.
3 6 9 months not a year for sure
As long as it takes for you both to be comfortable with the idea
It's up to you and how comfortable you are with him and chemistry you to have. He's a lucky guy and I'm so jealous! 😉😉😉😉