How far into the relationship should sex be initiated?

So - surprise! He agreed to a formal courtship. (It still feels weird to be in a relationship again...)

Anyway, he's kind of shy and unconfident in himself, so I don't think he'll initiate anything - he hasn't even kissed me yet. The thing is, every relationship I've been in, HE'S the one that initiates it!

So how long into the relationship should I try to start something? When (now that he's never tried anything) should I go for a first kiss? And how would I go about doing so?

So far, it seems like there hasn't really been "a moment" for it, mostly because our dates are usually in public, and he doesn't walk me to the door.

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  • Soon as you feel comfortable

  • first 3 minutes

  • Do what you are comfortable with.

  • I’ve always been first date lol

    • For both kiss AND sex?

    • Yep!

  • Good luck, he sounds hard to read

    • He is! :(

    • Go with your comfort level

    • It's not MY comfort I'm worried about - it's his.

  • I guess when you’re both calm bubble and feel it’s right

  • In the wedding bed.

  • After marriage.