How important is sex?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been a 4 year relationship with my girlfriend and sex was usually spontaneous but recently she’s like it needs to be reserved for special days

[PrudentGuy]

Sex is definitely important (though not the most) in a romantic relationship.

But what I know is, after the "honeymoon period", girls tend to want commitment.

And one way they ask for commitment is to be the "gatekeeper".

I think she knows what she wants. And she probably wants you to take the relationship to another level. Why not ask her?

[Asker]

Well I have proposed but she says she needs to be stable in life

[PrudentGuy]

There... you got your answers. Go into details what "stability" means. Money? House? Career? business? Marriage? ... When you and her can agree on what constitutes "stability", then you may plan. PS: my 2nd girlfriend "stability" was so complicated that we had to part. Do not assume she views life similar to you.

[Anonymous]

It’s an important aspect in a relationship in my opinion but it shouldn’t be the main factor. You should also have other interests and activities in common you share and do besides just sex because cmon how good is the sex gonna be if you lack things in common. It’s more like you’d be just in the relationship to fuck? Maybe she just wants to spend time with you bonding in other areas.

[DavidFox]

Could be that. But it’s more likely she is having sex with another guy and wants to keep the two guys separate in case she gets pregnant. Aside from cheating being bad, as a woman isn’t it logical to sleep with two guys on different days? So you would know who impregnated you?

[Asker]

Ok first thing you can rule out some other guy coz she’s spending the whole week at my place and secondly it’s not about spending time as she’s using that time to sleep

[jabberwocky00]

It’s 100% important and if there wasn’t an actual good reason why I’m not getting penis often from my man I will leave. I can understand if something has happened mentally/emotionally/physically that things slow down but it would need to be talked about , if there is no reason then I’m out.

[Anonymous]

Busting a nut up in that sht is important as air and food. Blue balls are painful.