How long can you wait (years) before you can have sex with your lover?

[Anonymous]

Considering your girlfriend is a virgin and still ain't ready for penetrated sex, how long can you wait? The maximum.

[TurboKid]

I don't know, a couple of months if we were really clicking and getting along well? Mostly I want to know how we vibe in the bedroom. It's like I wouldn't mind waiting for all the way until marriage to have sex a second time if we had sex just one time and it turned out we were very sexually compatible.

[TurboKid]

Well, I didn't fully catch that "penetrated sex" part. I think I could wait longer if we could at least act like lovers short of intercourse, like lie naked together, kiss, touch, shower together, etc. I think lovers could determine their sexual compatibility reasonably well without intercourse.

[Asker]

Okay sir, thank youu

[TurboKid]

In that case, maybe I could wait for all the way until marriage if we can do a lot of things to try to determine our compatibility short of actual intercourse. I just don't want to end up marrying and then on the wedding night, figure out we're totally incompatible in the bedroom.

[Asker]

Can u expound what incompatibility means in that aspect?

[TurboKid]

I'm a vanilla type of person so, for example, if the girl is into very kinky things, that is very incompatible with me. I'm into this kind of mind-soul connection, as cheesy as that sounds, in the bedroom, and I feel like kinky fetishes and roleplaying stuff get in the way of having that deep and intimate connection there. Actually, with my now-wife and also one ex-girlfriend with whom we were so sexually compatible, we actually laughed in the bedroom a lot which might sound like a turn-off to most people but it wasn't for us... it's like we'd bump heads trying to kiss each other at the same time and laugh, and that felt very sweet and almost like we could read each other's minds.

[TurboKid]

Kinky stuff is an extreme example but I had some exes with whom we were getting along very well, having a great time on dates, feeling like the best of friends, able to share our deepest thoughts, but when things heated up and we went to the bedroom, it's like something flat-lined. We lost that connection there, and from my standpoint, it started to feel like masturbation using someone else's body. It's difficult to describe, and it's something I never would have been able to guess or tell in advance outside the bedroom with how well we got along. Sometimes things can click and click and click and then in the sexual context, not click.

[TurboKid]

A lot of people change character in the bedroom in my experience. I'm one of the few that don't. What you see is what you get with me. But many women I dated seemed to turn into totally different people in the bedroom, and I didn't like that. It's like, "Who is this person? I don't feel like I know her now. She seems so different from the woman I was dating."

[Asker]

Ohh okay, i get it sir ☺️ I'm still a virgin and my boyfriend said he can wait until 1-2 years only. I want it to do with him already, but I'm very insecure of my body.

[TurboKid]

I think you can take it slow and ease into it, like just cuddle and touch each other, slowly undress each other, and also he should be gentle since it might hurt a bit the first time. And please use protection!

[Mark-IV]

I can honestly wait for years if she truly is as committed to me as I am to her, I don’t know how I’ll hold out, but I admire girls that wait until marriage for sex

[NamerOfStars]

Years would definitely be pushing it. If it's just penetration that's a problem though, that's a little different. Depending on what else is on the table, I can be content with moving pretty slowly, but years might still be a bit much.

[OlderAndWiser]

At my age, that scenario is not going to happen, but I would wait maybe 18 months for the right girl, but then we would either have sex, get married and have sex, or I would get too frustrated to continue waiting any longer.

[slatyb]

About 8 weeks. After that I'll assume she just isn't all that interested in sex.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I don't have a maximum. I'll happily go the rest of my life without sex if my partner is never ready

[ThinkerShell]

Say few or several months. Like 5 months
I can strongly say I would stay as longer as needed if she's the person I want
And if she's not, I won't going to do anything in bed with her

[LeoTheCar]

I'd wear a chastity belt as long as she wanted.

[AmeerX]

Till marriage

[dudeinohio]

max... second date.

[dudeinohio]

I'm sorry... I mean.. third date

[COMMODOREII]

1 month

[Twalli]

2 years

[Xoirwinkan]

Until you get married.

[Joshua0213]

If she was the right girl, 2-3 years max as long as everything else was good

[anylolone]

In my experience the longer I've waited was a month, because I insisted on it.

[2021biguy]

I can wait as long as she wants. But life is short so don't wait to start having intimacy with someone you love.

[Seppel]

Two month Maximum

[JesseJayNeak]

Till marriage if necessary

[Anonymous]

A few months

[Anonymous]

Years? Plural?

[Anonymous]

I could wait until we are married. I wouldn't date someone for more than a year without proposing to her and then assuming a maximum of a year for the engagement. So I guess about two years. Granted that doesn't include the amount of time before we started dating. So since I am currently single and 37. If I met her tomorrow that would be about 39 years of waiting. Clearly patience is my vice.

[Anonymous]

1-2 months

[Asker]

What if she's still not ready enough after that time frame? Will u break up with her?

[Opinion Owner]

I've never been in a situation like this. My partner was open to sex from the beginning. Do what you're comfortable with.