How long does it take for a girl to have an orgasm for the first time? Is it something that happens quick? Tips?

[Anonymous]

I am a virgin I’ve never had intercourse but I’ve been sexually active (gave had, received head, been fingered) in all these occasions I’ve never orgasmed before. Right now I am in a relationship and I am dating a mature respectful older guy. he’s all about pleasing and pleasuring me first. Which is new to me. I’ve made him bust a nut but he hasn’t gave me an orgasm. Every time I literally stop him. Now he doesn’t understand why is it that I fight him about getting an orgasm. He’s confused. So am I. I’m 20 years old and I’m really not sexually experienced I’ve never orgasmed even on my own from masturbating (for masturbating I don't know my hands don’t turn me on it’s like I know it’s my hands )
The other night he was fingering me while also giving me head and I swear to god the feeling was so intense but I don't know I couldn’t stand the fact that I was feeling like that GOOD for a while. Its was soooo good but I was like “listen I don’t think I’ll have an orgasm for a minute and i’m not capable of waiting that long while feeling this good.” Part of me is afraid that he puts all this work in and I’m not capable of having an orgasm. I’m running away from embarrassment. Is it possible for a woman to be unable to have orgasm? I don’t know how this works. Next time I want to actually let him give me an orgasm but I’m afraid that I won’t have one and he’ll just have me there feeling very good on edge for a long time till I can’t take it no more n I stop him. Someone…especially girls help me out😅😅 I don’t want to be a Weirdo. Girls give me tips that helped you orgasm before? Is there some thing I should be focusing on or doing while I’m in the moment to make the process happen faster and easier. And don’t think the guy doesn’t know what he is doing he knows exactly what he’s doing it’s just that I stop him every time because I can’t stand that intense pleasure. Like oh god how more longer 😅😅 he’s calling me a scary cat now. Am I weird for being like this?

[Starrisunset]

I didn't have an orgasm with a man until years after I started having sex. I had to be really comfortable with the person. I'd been dating them for over a year before I was able to get off with them. Your first time you're probably going to be really nervous and honestly it's probably going to hurt. I wouldn't expect any orgasms right away.

[PrettyPriya]

Lot to unpack on this one. Before I give you an opinion, is your basic question how to orgasm during oral? Fingering? Is it him doing it or how you do it to yourself?

Some clarification will make my response much better. Thank you!

[Asker]

Fingering, him doing it. Him giving me head

[PrettyPriya]

@asker thank you for your clarification. Ok, so let us literally dive into this one. You mention that you don’t like doing it yourself and have never given yourself an orgasm. Unfortunately, this is exactly where I’m going to tell you to start. You really need to know how to get yourself off before you can communicate that to him. There is no magic one size fits all technique. All girls are a bit different in what they like. It is best to figure out yourself first. Do you like teasing first? Do you like finger inside? Two? Do you like a lot of pressure on your clit? Do you like him to rub fast, slow? What direction? Is it raining outside? You get my point. That is my best advice is to bite the bullet as they say and do it yourself and they tell him: Faster, no! Now slower. Put two fingers! Or less pressure, etc. what it really comes down to is you are inexperienced. We were all there!

[Asker]

Thank so for answering like this! It really helped. Now with masturbating Do you have any tips and suggestions? Like I’ve tried before and I’ll touch myself but my hands don’t turn me on😅😅😅

[PrettyPriya]

I have tons!! May I answer you at another time? I would absolutely love to help but the hour is very late/early. I’m only on to help a friend in a bit of a crisis. Please do know I will gladly help. ❤️

[Asker]

Thank youu!! And yes girl no problem.

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for mhg 🙏❤️

[not29imp]

Did you solve this yet? I'm trans so I can't really help from a body perspective, but I did help another girl figure this out a while ago. Might be able to help you the same way. I'll say for starters it doesn't happen quick... need to let it build up.

[Asker]

Not yet tbh 😩

[not29imp]

Aww... it's okay, you'll get there. I could try and help you out here, or you can DM me if you'd like that.

[cleareyes]

Every girl is different. Do you masturbate and orgasm?

[Asker]

I’ve masturbated before but I stopped because it wasn’t just doing it for me so I have came to the conclusion that I won’t get turned on by my own hands and my imagination just not that good for me to think that my hands touching me is a man hand and get turned on by that

[cleareyes]

Pm me?

[IncognitoBandito]

Depends how easily you orgasm

[Yellovv]

Depends on girls and how horny they are, some of them are getting wet very quickly..

[MasterKS]

practice and more practice.

[Anonymous]

If you haven't had orgasm by masturbation or oral probably you won't have it by the first time as well.

[Anonymous]

mine seemed to happen really fast, maybe 5-10 min

[Asker]

And that was your first time

[Opinion Owner]

the first time yea

[Anonymous]

TLTR; Everyone is different. The first time can be nerve wracking and you can't orgasm. Just relax and enjoy every sensation that you receive from your partner and you'll be cumming like crazy. Remember sex starts in the mind.

[Asker]

For how long though? Yes I’m relaxed and I’m enjoying it but how long