I always gave vocalized consent in my single, fooling around, days. Even when i had a friends with benefits relationship, i always gave vocalized consent.
Now that I'm in a relationship, it's MOSTLY implied consent, but some days im extra frisky & want to vocalize it to my SO.
Very few & far in between do i tell my man I'm not in the mood, but that usually means "try & get me in the mood, don't be lazy" he's caught on to this too, which is amazing. I usually get a full body massage when this occurs & he is rewarded with a nice romp.
In response to your update: No, i don't feel like giving or asking for consent is a "bitch move", but rather that it shows that both parties are sure before progressing. Normally verbal consent is given in the very slightest of ways, but you were still given verbal consent.
Look, I never had sex, but I refuse to believe that consent should be this complicated, when I hug my mother or my brother, I know when they are accepting me or not, even when they don't say anything.
When you're going to have sex I suppose the same happens, either your partner says "nah not right now", "I'm not in the mood", or you'll be able to tell simply because they are your partner, you know when they will be uncomfortable, you know them, am I wrong?
Or am I to assume that somehow you can have sex with your girlfriend, she playfully kisses you back and all that, and at the end she tells you "nah you just raped because you never asked me to vocalize it", I'm sorry but that sounds hella stupid.
if its a relationship its fine i guess. but if not then a vocal yes should be required yes
Either way, C seems more rational.
I still disagree, nothing is set on stone in this sense, people are social beings, they mostly know when consent is given, of course, I agree with you that vocalized consent is a good way to keep things safe when you don't know your partner. But at the same time, not every one-night stand without vocalized consent is rape, it doesn't work that way. But yeah I'm pretty conscious about it right now, that's why I'll never have sex with a partner who drank even one single cup of alcohol, even if they really really want it, just to keep things safe, for me and themselves. But I'm fully aware that drunk sex is not automatically rape, this is just something I created for myself, due to influence of all the massive importance that today's society gives to consent.
I prefer women who are very possessive, pushy, and grabby in the bedroom, the type of girl who doesn't let me say no and is hyperaffectionate.
The whole verbal consent thing makes no sense to me, you either love the person and are all over them or you don't.
I go by the old way if doing it, I'm hers and she's mine and thats that, no need for formalities, scheduling, asking permission, etc. If she asked my permission each time I'd feel like she was questioning my feelings for her, it would be a huge red flag.
I feel like if you need to do all that you don't trust the person or love them and are too scared of them to let your guard down and let them love you.
I mean when me and my man get it on we just kinda start kissing and go from there. And then from that point on he kind of directs it. For example he'll tell me to go down on him and I'll happily oblige. Though I guess it's different if you're in a relationship with someone. If I'm not in a relationship though? Then yeah if we're both attracted to each other we'll flirt and ask what each other likes in the bedroom and go from there. 🤣
how did it happen at first though? when you first did the deed? ;)
I'll tell you in pm 🤣
ohh ;) as you wish
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I guess there is some need for "consent" in society. But I've never been close to that type of situation. For me personally, total turn off. Read the room, man. It's obvious. And don't have sex with girls who are so drunk they'll never remember it, and don't rape. I find all this other talk just fear-based irrational nonsense.
i still like to hear the word. and it does turn me the fuck on when she says "i want you to fuck me" or anything along those terms lol
Oooh you looking for that phrase? Oh hell yeah. I'm right with you on that one. (I can't even imagine NOT saying it. It just leaks out of you...)
both can be fine or not, depending how its done
It is in the silences which punctuate conversation that meaning is conveyed.
Also if a guys standing there with a hard on it's pretty obvious what he wants. Unless she she says something like "sorry not tonight I've got the painters in" then it's safe to assume consent.
Interesting. What if it's the morning and the guy has a raging boner.. is it safe to assume what he wants? He may need to take a leak.. which in that case he better hurry and get going I hear painters like to get to the trim early..😉
Guys can get boners even when they're not horny, so it's not really safe to assume that would be consent.
Not a turn on, not a turn off. Lemme pm you.
pm me consent? hell yah! ;)
Check your pms lol
@jackmackity why should I pm you?
Communicate before you fornicate ✌️
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Typically, it's been talked about before the event, so there's no need for it to be said during. But if they want to say it during, it doesn't bother me
Voted C. I've never had sex but I think it's important to make sure that both parties are ok with that.
And no, I don't agree with anon.
What your saying is completely right and not complicated to understand, the fact that so many guys in this thread think otherwise is alarming 🤦🏽♀️ Consent needs to be taught in schools sex ed
Would you classify a 'purrrrr' as vocal consent?
I have, and it was an indication of consent.
Lol.
I have actual legal documents to be signed, I copy drivers licenses and I have 24/7 CCTV recording with sound and I make them say they consent before I even physically touch them. No sign no sex. I've considered also requiring raised embossed birth certificates to copy.
I've never been in a situation in which explicitly stated vocalized consent has been necessary... but I've only been in committed relationships so never had this "verbal contracts"... I don't know, I just never seen it this way.
But I can see why would it matter and it how it would be important for other settings, I just never had it that way.
Consent is important, but it doesn't have to be verbalized. If you don't have sex with drunk people, this is mostly not a problem. If my partner is uncooperative, I stop. That way I don't hate myself in the morning.
That was a bit understated. If my partner is not actively cooperative, then I stop and check to make sure she wants to continue.
Should always know what the other likes beforehand and therefore from there can just use common sense than need it to be actually vocalized. But vocalisition is also good.
I like to make sure whoever I'm with is 100% okay. It's a turn off to either not know or not have consent.
Depends on the relationship and or what is "planned" but i enjoy talking and a lot of time a form of consent is verbally fitted in in a playful way
can you give an example?
"How would you like if I did x to you"
hmm ok. a little bit of a grey area for some people though.
C sounds good. But that cartoon is both accurate and hot.
yes i love it when the girl says what she wants from me. i must oblige hehe ;)
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I want us both to consent it vocal while singing a tune LMAO
Love me some enthusiasm.
Hell yes
If it is Saturday night, consent is a given.
It's neither a turn on or a turn off but it is important to me that vocalized consent is given rather than implied consent where one or both (or all) parties involved aren't sure when consent has been given
lol heyyy i wrote that!
No, you didn't...👀
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