Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Normally I only go out with women I know I am attracted to before I even get to know them, but recently I was thinking that maybe I'm missing out on meeting the right woman if I do that?
I moved into a new apartment a while back and a woman lived across the hall who would always flirty with me and it was obvious she wanted me to ask her out. At first I had no interest in asking her out at all. She is in decent shape, but not great, never wears dresses or skirts (she said so), and she never does anything with her hair, just either straight or in a pony tail. However one evening I ran into her and we flirted playfully like we always do but I was kinda horny so I went ahead and asked her out and we went out. She was really cool and we had a lot of fun, though she had a lot more liberal moral beliefs so I never asked her out again.
I still enjoy our conversations and playful flirting if we run into each other taking our dogs out, and sometimes I even find myself wanting to ask her out again, but I have to remind myself it would never workout because our beliefs are too different. However, it did get me wondering, are looks really all that important?
On the one hand I think, if I can put in the effort to be muscular and lean why can't she? If I can dress fashionably, why can't she? If I can learn how to style my hair, why can't she? On the other hand, I think that if I can be attracted to a woman who doesn't even wear dresses or style her hair once I get to know her, then maybe I should give other women a chance who do dress and act like women, but just aren't quite as attracted as the women I normally go out with.
When you guys date an attractive woman, do you stop really caring how attractive she is after a while and it just matters if she's fun and feminine? Have you ever given someone a chance that wasn't as attractive as you normally date, then ended it because you lost interest?
Guys, How much do looks really matter in a long term relationship?
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What Guys Said
(31)Men care more about their potential partners being attractive but as compensation, men tend to have a MUCH, much broader range of things they find attractive, there are men attracted to tall women, men attracted to fat women, men attracted to bodybuilder women, men attracted to tiny women, men attracted to hairy women, you ask five guys what's attractive, you'll get 20 different opinions. Women are much more uniform in their tastes, I think. Pretty much no woman is attracted to shorter men, for instance. No man would care about height if women didn't care about it SO MUCH.
I choose A.
I just broke up with someone I wasn't really attracted to but liked her personality. I really wanted to make it work and was being optimistic, but the lack of physical attraction made it hard to continue.
Was she slightly less attractive or a lot less attractive than women you normally date? Was it a specific feature? Personally I just can't deal with overweight women, which im sure is common, but also the "gummy smile".
I will go with option A. This group has very little things in their favor , yet they live their lies well and make their marriages successful. They prove to others that looks and other wonderful things in life don't matter much. Love in the hearts of the partners can overcome all odds.
It's always the same: the qualities one need to get a job aren't the same you need to function in that job.
The qualities one need to get a S. O. aren't the same you need to keep and be happy with that S. O.
the honest truth is, if you date someone you aren't physically attracted to in no way, shape or form then you are just fooling yourself and living a lie. you can't be with someone who you dont find attractive. That spark isn't there, there is no physical attraction. You find people attractive for a reason.
Nope. They don't gotta be the most beautiful girl out there but at least somewhat attractive/decent. If I'm not physically attracted to them, not even remotely, then kissing them and sex would be awkward.
I would never date somebody I'm not attracted to.
I just don't think a relationship like that can ever work out.
I know I'm not Chris Hemsworth, but I can and do get 8s.
Relationships are a big investment risk, no way I'm going to waste time and effort with somebody who doesn't tick my boxes from the beginning.
I have dated someone who I wasn't attracted and we have broke up due to this very reason.
If I'm not attracted to you, I won't even approach you, let alone date you