Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health How much does it bother you if your boy-/girlfriend finds someone attractive that looks different than you in some way?
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It could be that their ex looked different, that they compliment someone's appearance, that they masturbate to that person, etc.
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33 18My ex used to do this to me after I had an allergic reaction to the pill (had to stay on it for longer as he refused to wear condoms) I ended up doubling my weight and he wouldn't let me loose it anyway he would always make an effort to point out the things he loved on other girls that he knew I was insecure about and would often tell me that he would 100% leave me for a certain person if he got the chance but generally until I met him I wasn't a jealous person so I wouldn't find it a big deal everyone likes to look it just depends on the circumstance
How cruel of him. Sorry to hear that.
It's all good everything happens for a reason
How would you even know? I would find it ruse if my SO was talking about other women or looking that way. I think he only has his eyes on me, and me on him. I can see if somebody is pretty but to me it does nothing I only eant my man.
Maybe you can them Looking or they just Mention something
I have never tried that before and I wouldn’t like it. I don’t care if they think it on their own, just don’t show me, tell me or let me feel it. :)
That is how it should be, IMHO. Doing it openly is hurtful
It's natural. As long as she's loyal it's fine.
Do you know meaning of pure rage, animalistic to the bottom, that is how I felt, actually I was with one girl who was complimenting their exboyfriends in front of me, I take it for about 2 months, after that... They will ban me from this site if I quote myself on the day of break up.
No one should ever do that to a Partner. She should have kept her thoughts to herself.
Totally agree on that
Terribly. I understand that he can find different hair or eyes colors attractive, cause they all can be attractive. But If he ever complimented a girl with big boobs I would consider breaking up, so he can be with a girl with big boobs then
He shouldn't compliment her aloud anyway, but it doesn't mean that he considers her better than you.
The problem is not what he says, but what he thinks. If he is fantasizing about other woman, then he clearly doesn't love me
As a guy, I would disagree with that, because you don't just love a woman because you like part of her body- love means something else entirely than that (which is lust). I do understand how you feel, but I would urge you not to worry about that.
I would feel "not good enough" for them and would have a lot of self doubt and possibly lose confidence
That's understandable, but I would urge you not to let it bother you. She shouldn't say it aloud anyway, but if she does, just remember that she is with you.
Also, if your partner says it out loud, talk to them and ask them to keep those thoughts to themselves :)
If the difference is something I have an insecurity about then I feel bothered, if it’s not then not at all.
Appreciate the honest response
You’re welcome.