Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health How often do y'all have sex in your relationship? Is there a "normal"?
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IT IS NOT ALL ABOUT SEX. I get that but is it normal to be lucky if I get it once a month? He's stopped me from getting on he really only wants oral but won't give it. Cuz he's "waiting for a special day. " he almost is never instigator. I think the last time he was the instigator it was about 5 months ago... also I only remember him being sober 2 of the 12 times we have had sex within the length of our relationship. (Been together 10 months)... I just wanna feel wanted physically by him...
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37 58Once a week it would be more if we were able to get more privacy or live together
Anything bellow your sexual satisfaction is abnormal. The quantity isn't important as the quality.
Hun, I was in a similar situation. You don'tt gotta stand that crap. If after a long talk about the issue (because its an issue for the relationship), the same story goes on; better do what's best for you. Only you know what it is. I personally won't commit the same mistake If I was more awake. Saying so, I meant to say that I would breakup sooner than later.
What you said doesn't sound normal.
And guessing nothing would change it either...
You need someone that likes you more, most guys want to go down on a girl as much as possible.
We're LDR right now, so we aren't having much sex lol
But when we're together, we're all over each other:) definitely more than once a week haha
More than once a week if I am dating. What is wrong with your boyfriend?
Is he addicted to porn or having sex with other girls?
As far as I know he doesn't watch it anymore he has no need to according to what he has told me. I truly do not know if he's having sex with someone else. He randomly shaved a few weeks ago but I got stopped from doing anything until about a week later.
I had the same reaction lol
@zaharuh Weird. I hope you stop tolerating this sooner than later.
I'm assuming you meant to reply to the anonymous person
@zaharuh I can only keep trying lol. He talked a lot of big game about having high sex drive n all this. I even warned him I would want it often cuz of my own high sex drive and he told me "we'll see" and now he stops me and tells me the longer he makes me wait the better it will feel for me but it's not like it lasts all that long either. I've only finished once and that was because of a toy...
@asker That's so sad honestly, I don't think I could be in a relationship like that.
@zaharuh I wouldn't see the point.
@zaharuh I was just trying to reply and tagged your name sorry bout that. But yeah I don't know I thought I was the crazy one... you know making an issue when there isn't one. I really don't want there there to be an issue I am just so confused. I appreciate your time and thoughts on the topic.
When I'm in a relationship. 1 - 3 times a day majority of the day's in a year.
There aren't any normal.
Each couple have to go with what works for them otherwise can it destroy the relationship over time.
The thing is that it must work for everyone involved.
And it can't be a chore.
Every night.
Several days a week
It's only less than once a month becuase we don't actually live together and I am in danger of dying from COVID-19, also my girlfriend works with unvaccinated people (not their fault, they're 7). However, when we're together we have sex at least once a day.
you tested positive for Covid-19?
@IHateBeingaMan no, but since I am severely immunocompromised and the vaccine didn't take I will die if I get it.
He may be gay? Usually once per day minimum if y'all live together.
What I thought
once a day
More than once a week usually but sometimes more sometimes less really depends from couple to couple
More then once weak. Unless she on her time of the month she doesn’t like to be touched then.
find someone else is your best bet, he is not going to change and the longer your relationship goes on the less chance it will happen.
Sex should be daily once at least! Or twice to 3 times every two days or more.
I liked HAHA
I mean, as long as I get an equal amount of cuddles, then I'll give an equal amount of sex.
I don't really find any pleasure in sex and have only liked it whenever she also likes and shows enjoyment.
I don't always get cuddles either. he's Sleeps facing away and pushes me off if Im cuddling up to him. I get what he wants when he wants. It's one sided on stuff like that most of the time
Damn, that must really suck. To be honest, I couldn't love a person who did that. I really like to be loved and held, ya know?
Sounds like my needs wouldn’t be met in that relationship
As often as she wants to, usually 5 or so times a week
I actually have more sex when I’m single., when I get to know a girl I lose interest in wanting to have sex with her.
Girls never ending arguments puts me off.
Before C0ViD I used to smash a new girl every week.
Since C0ViD it’s better hard plus I wanna stay from those who took the jab.
I feel you... I am the opposite. I always Instigate and there I always an excuse why we can't have sex... not even oral.
I'm sitting on 3 times this year haha 😢