I am never ever e er doing anal. I understand it Can feel good if done right. I also know many guys like it bc it’s painful and or Bc it reminds turn of having sex with a Virgin ( which In reality shouldn’t be done So quickly and I don’t like thinking how it would’ve been for whoever first had sex with them 😐)
so I’m turned off both by the idea of doing it and by the idea of him wanting it.
i understand people can enjoy all kinds of things including pain or being humiliated. I don’t shd I won’t do I’ll never do it snd any guy I’m with will definitely know that up front. If he requests it later I’ll dump him bc I’ve been clear Where I stand, and he’d already face told me yes not into it- which means he lied.
I wouldn’t date a person who enjoys the idea of casting me pain. Regardless of what form that comes in. If a sexual act is painful And a partner Doesn’t want it, I don’t see it any different then any other domestic violence... but That’s Me, I like lavender love and vanilla sex 🤷♀️
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VIVANT
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He’s * Causing* Sorry sloppy I’m on the move atm 😐
VIVANT
+1 y
Oral is fine every time, If everyone showers first. I’m not a direct to contact person 😁🤷♀️
Samantha_17
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I have never experienced pain during anal. The guys I've been with knew how to do it I guess :)
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Sweetnessxoxo
+1 y
Same anal is gross to me
Kelly6
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It’s only painful first few times
VIVANT
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Lol I write that quick And it sounds like I’m quite upset lol sorry No I meant to be careful in saying I do understand it can be nice for people and I think that’s fine for everyone involved to do stuff they both want. I just can’t trust it bc I know, while their can be can be genuine interest in mutual pleasure.. it is also often about control. And I’d never really know for sure. Too many studies of guys impaling their partners while she or he is literally crying in agony— just for fun.. that just keeps me far from it. Plus I Honestly simply Really don’t have any interest. Even if it was amazing.. I don't know the whole prep and what not. Kills the mood 🤷♀️😛 But I definitely absolutely wasn’t having a go at people who like it.
Samantha_17
+1 y
Thanks :)
VIVANT
+1 y
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Stacie3
+1 y
I felt pretty much the same way at your age.. but after years with the same man and falling into a rut.. as we tried to spice things up we tried other things including anal.. over the years and a after a few new partners.. I learned that not only do I need to feel relaxed about it.. they have to take it slow and easy with a fair amount of lube.. any guy that I have allowed to do anal has listened to my instructions as to how to do so with me.. and had no problem stopping if it wasn't working for me..(to painful) the prep isn't so bad as I do it only if I am feeling that I could get aroused from anal.. I know my husband likes it.. and qhen done right I to can enjoy it but not to often as I love vagina sex and hate missing out on it for anal..
likelyOK
+1 y
It really kind of sickens me that there are men who like it bc it's painful to woman, if the men that like it have not caused pain that's different.
likelyOK
+1 y
Lots of studies of women being coerced into it or assaulted and not realised it was assault. I have even seen people on here comment "he keeps slipping it in and I cry" or I cried and he kept going 🤢🤢🤢
VIVANT
1 y
@likelyOK Yes it’s really this part that bothers me tho it does seem sone people really have worked it out to a mutual benefit. I wish when women answered they would add whether they like it or just do it for him. Gay guys too it’s whomever is receiving.
TiffannieXper 4
+1 y
I have done it twice but failed at the third time because it's super painful :/
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Samantha_17
+1 y
Did you use lube?
Tiffannie
+1 y
Yeap 😂 I would want to do it again though because it feels really great LOL oops
CurlyGirl42Yoda
+1 y
have oral maybe 90 % of the times we have sex. I don't have anal sex, at most a finger in, maybe 10 % of the times.
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ClaireluvskarenYoda
+1 y
Oral all the time, Anal once a week, and that goes both ways, I love getting to peg my husband.
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katiesmuffMaster
+1 y
Oral happens quite often, anal doesn't happen with this girl ever!
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loves2learnMaster
+1 y
Oral, daily. Anal, when the mood strikes us.
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Morgan_99
+1 y
@loves2learn do you give oral without anything in return?
loves2learn
+1 y
@morgan_99 he would never leave me high and dry. You?
Morgan_99
+1 y
@loves2learn I give oral all the time with nothing in return
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loves2learn
+1 y
@morgan_99 why is that? Do they not offer?
Morgan_99
+1 y
@loves2learn *dumpster*
loves2learn
+1 y
Hmmmm? Lol
Morgan_99
+1 y
@loves2learn just think about it…. lol
YouryeodongsaengExplorer
+1 y
I've never had sex; I am waiting to have sex when I am in my late 30s.
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VIVANT
+1 y
Cool Can I ask why 😊
Youryeodongsaeng
+1 y
One is either because I don't think I'll be ready in my 20s and two, I might not like sex at all.
VIVANT
+1 y
Faye points 😊
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VIVANT
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Fair*
CoffeePossumXper 6
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I dont have a SO so I dont know about oral sex lol but I never have and never will have anal (unless he really wants to be the receiving end)
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Ellenrocks2001Xper 2
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I tend to avoid anal due to the hygiene of doing it. I do oral almost more than sex. When I've been with partners we don't always have sex but may do oral if we are sleepy or one of us isn't massively in the mood
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(173)I am never ever e er doing anal. I understand it Can feel good if done right. I also know many guys like it bc it’s painful and or Bc it reminds turn of having sex with a Virgin ( which In reality shouldn’t be done So quickly and I don’t like thinking how it would’ve been for whoever first had sex with them 😐)
so I’m turned off both by the idea of doing it and by the idea of him wanting it.
i understand people can enjoy all kinds of things including pain or being humiliated. I don’t shd I won’t do I’ll never do it snd any guy I’m with will definitely know that up front. If he requests it later I’ll dump him bc I’ve been clear Where I stand, and he’d already face told me yes not into it- which means he lied.
I wouldn’t date a person who enjoys the idea of casting me pain. Regardless of what form that comes in. If a sexual act is painful And a partner Doesn’t want it, I don’t see it any different then any other domestic violence... but That’s Me, I like lavender love and vanilla sex 🤷♀️
He’s * Causing* Sorry sloppy I’m on the move atm 😐
Oral is fine every time, If everyone showers first. I’m not a direct to contact person 😁🤷♀️
I have never experienced pain during anal. The guys I've been with knew how to do it I guess :)
Same anal is gross to me
It’s only painful first few times
Lol I write that quick And it sounds like I’m quite upset lol sorry No I meant to be careful in saying I do understand it can be nice for people and I think that’s fine for everyone involved to do stuff they both want. I just can’t trust it bc I know, while their can be can be genuine interest in mutual pleasure.. it is also often about control. And I’d never really know for sure. Too many studies of guys impaling their partners while she or he is literally crying in agony— just for fun.. that just keeps me far from it. Plus I Honestly simply Really don’t have any interest. Even if it was amazing.. I don't know the whole prep and what not. Kills the mood 🤷♀️😛 But I definitely absolutely wasn’t having a go at people who like it.
Thanks :)
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I felt pretty much the same way at your age.. but after years with the same man and falling into a rut.. as we tried to spice things up we tried other things including anal.. over the years and a after a few new partners.. I learned that not only do I need to feel relaxed about it.. they have to take it slow and easy with a fair amount of lube.. any guy that I have allowed to do anal has listened to my instructions as to how to do so with me.. and had no problem stopping if it wasn't working for me..(to painful) the prep isn't so bad as I do it only if I am feeling that I could get aroused from anal.. I know my husband likes it.. and qhen done right I to can enjoy it but not to often as I love vagina sex and hate missing out on it for anal..
It really kind of sickens me that there are men who like it bc it's painful to woman, if the men that like it have not caused pain that's different.
Lots of studies of women being coerced into it or assaulted and not realised it was assault. I have even seen people on here comment "he keeps slipping it in and I cry" or I cried and he kept going 🤢🤢🤢
@likelyOK Yes it’s really this part that bothers me tho it does seem sone people really have worked it out to a mutual benefit. I wish when women answered they would add whether they like it or just do it for him. Gay guys too it’s whomever is receiving.
I have done it twice but failed at the third time because it's super painful :/
Did you use lube?
Yeap 😂 I would want to do it again though because it feels really great LOL oops
have oral maybe 90 % of the times we have sex. I don't have anal sex, at most a finger in, maybe 10 % of the times.
Oral all the time, Anal once a week, and that goes both ways, I love getting to peg my husband.
Oral happens quite often, anal doesn't happen with this girl ever!
Oral, daily. Anal, when the mood strikes us.
@loves2learn do you give oral without anything in return?
@morgan_99 he would never leave me high and dry. You?
@loves2learn I give oral all the time with nothing in return
@morgan_99 why is that? Do they not offer?
@loves2learn *dumpster*
Hmmmm? Lol
@loves2learn just think about it…. lol
I've never had sex; I am waiting to have sex when I am in my late 30s.
Cool Can I ask why 😊
One is either because I don't think I'll be ready in my 20s and two, I might not like sex at all.
Faye points 😊
Fair*
I dont have a SO so I dont know about oral sex lol but I never have and never will have anal (unless he really wants to be the receiving end)
I tend to avoid anal due to the hygiene of doing it. I do oral almost more than sex. When I've been with partners we don't always have sex but may do oral if we are sleepy or one of us isn't massively in the mood
Oral... sometimes...
Anal... never !!!