Sexual Relationships 
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Its so frustrating getting turned down every night and it makes me want to just give up. I’ve never had an issue like this before with any exes and he’d honestly be okay having sex maybe once or twice a month. He is mostly focused on hanging out with his friends and bullshitting. The ONLY time he’s affectionate towards me is if he’s been drinking.
I've told him my concerns and how it makes me feel and he gives me “promises” to change and be more attentive but he never follows through. When I touch him or try and kiss him he gets irritated and annoyed and tells me to stop. When I tell him how this makes me feel he apologizes profusely and says that’s not how he feels at all and that he loves me. If he tells me I try and initiate sex too late one night I’ll try earlier the next night and he has a different excuse.
I hate feeling unwanted by the one person I want to be wanted by. I don’t think I’m unattractive, but I can’t help but feel insecure. I used to try to initiate every night but the rejection was so bad I only try once or twice a week now and I still get turned down. Right now it’s been 17 days since he’s shown any interest. This absolutely sucks! We’re both young. We should be in our prime right now. And before everyone comes at me saying he’s tired from work etc that’s not the case. This was still continuing when he was unemployed for 10 months and I was working 2 jobs.
What am I doing wrong? What would you do? When I do finally convince him (sometimes after begging if I’m very desperate) to have sex he enjoys it but only lasts about 15 seconds. What’s even more irritating is I’ve tried to buy toys to satisfy myself but he doesn’t allow it.
I dont want to be stuck in a relationship like this for the rest of my life.
What Girls & Guys Said
1 25Yes. Some men just aren't interested in sex as much as people claim men are.
what, I can't imagine that. you look very attractive
You are beautiful. Sounds like he has someone else on the side.
I’m the second girl he’s been with and there have been no indications of cheating so far, he goes to work and comes home. (We work at the same job but different departments.)