I am scared of having sex what can I do?

[Anonymous]

I have a boyfriend he is hella horny and i love him and i feel like sex is our way to connect but i am scared. Its just my first time i feel bad and shy. He is so patient and understanding but its about timeeee except i am terrified. I can’t stop thinking about pain and if it’ll be painful or not i am so convinced it’ll be hella painful. When i saw his nudes he has a “big dick” that scared me even more lmao and now i never wanna have sex what should i do😭

[MrKinktastic]

Do it at your pace/with you on top and make sure to take your time with it. It should only hurt if you go too fast and deep without taking time to warm up and relax into it.


Most women can take 8-10 inches when they’re warmed up so it’s just a matter of warming the muscles up like any other muscle in your body that has to stretch a bit.


Your fear/anxiety and tensing up may cause some discomfort though so practice breathing deep breaths and maybe try some pelvic floor stretches so you get more familiar with what that muscle feels like to relax/contract so you can be conscious of it if you start to tense up.

[Red_Arrow]

If you have been doing sexual touching for pleasure, you would already have held his dick and he would have been fingering you. That way you would be more secure about going to the next step. Sounds like you are trying to go from no touch to full sex in one giant leap. Take your time and get familiar with each other's bodies before full sex. It will make you more ready (being lubed and being horny).

[purplepoppy]

First of all forget looking at his nudes get the real thing out and have a proper look. Have a squeeze and notice that although its hard it does have some flexibility and padding.
Next explore options like oral and thighjobs, they'll keep him happy and help boost your confidence until your ready to have sex.

[Anonymous]

dont force it to please him. if you are religious pray for strength to resist temptation. Do you know Jesus?

[doe9de]

Just do it don't think about what scares you. There is nothing to fear but fear itself. Yes it will hurt a bit your first time with a little blood but it won't last long then it's all pleasure. After your cherry pops your good to go. Just enjoy it. There is nothing to fear.

[Recurrence]

Therapy honestly

[Yourfriend2021]

Use a vibrator first to loosen yourself up or start playing with one every day to feel better about it.

[Mac-One]

That would be a mistake for her as it would her pleasure of first sex.

[Mac-One]

reduce her pleasure

[Wise4myage]

Discuss this with him and see if that helps, and just accept the fact that its gonna be painful. Don' t you have any female friends you can talk to about this?

[TheFlak38]

nice turn off you are.

[vald9inches]

Just take it slow beautiful! ❤️

[noohair]

It is supposed to be about love. I knew a guy in college. He was hung. When he left his girlfriend, she could never get satisfaction with another guy.

[Twalli]

It probably will hurt, but only at the beginning and the rest will feelngoid.

[KrakenAttackin]

Get a bottle of good lube.

[In_Trance]

Don't have sex

[Luckycharms12]

Sex isn't all that painful go slow make sure loads oral before you get down to sex and just go slowly having sex might be bit sore but nothing major

[The_Naughty_Guy]

Just have once. Most people are nervous before sex but once they do it, they love it. You too have it without any fear

[anylolone]

Just be the one in control, easy.

[2021biguy]

Have you thought about anal sex?

[Jmmmfi4]

Don't do anything till you're sure you're ready

[harishragav]

First touch his private parts like cock and butts without removing his clothes 😉

[pratikE]

Well its your choice, but if you are just scared due to the size, you should let him know maybe you both can use some small sex toys before the real sex

[Anonymous]

Take it slow and get used to each other. If you haven't already given him hand jobs or blowjobs, start there and get totally used him. Have him eat and finger you for many weeks before you more onto intercourse. Have him just insert the tip of his dick inside you to start if you're ready to move on.