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Sexual Health I am the office slut at my new job. How do I handle this?
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So I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years, which was hard, but I got a new and really good job. My friend said that it's best not to mourn to much and make a good impression at my new job, and to immediately get to know new guys. On my first day I got way more attention than I hoped for from guys, but one guy made a best first impression, pretty cocky but in a charming funny way. He said we should hang out, and I invited him over for dinner. It was very clear that there were no feelings between us, but he was clearly there for sex. He has a way with words and 1 minute after entering, we were talking about my butt and he got me loose easily. So we ate, and in an hour he was fucking me all over my appartment. Honestly, this kind of thing never happened to me, but it was like a pornmovie and without expecting it, it felt amazing. It was the kind of sex where I couldn't even think straight and got a note from my neighbor to keep it down, so yeah. The day after he told everyone at the office that he fucked me and told every detail. Positions, how I moaned, everyting. Everyone is now laughing at me, although not in a mean way, it's emabbassing. I don't even work there for a week and already this. Now one of the guys even said "here's our pornstar" to me. Again everyone just sees it as something funny, but I'd like to get rid of this situation. What should I do?
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I'm not going to file him for sexual harassment. I really think no one should be able to do it in a situation like this. A woman these days can sue anyone, and it goes to far. Same when you're drunk, get fucked and regret it the day after, you can sue the guy for rape. This mentality destroys all the fun and freedom in flirting and hooking up. And no the situation isn't THAT bad for me. Just annoying and embarrassing. I don't feel sexually assaulted at all.
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And after a couple days, I can say that the situation is being taken really well by everyone. Of course I kinda made bad name and it will never really go away, they still laugh about it sometimes, but they really appreciate me as a person and they invite me to their personal parties and make me feel welcome. It's a good friend group and they do everything to let me fit in, even if they make a joke. I do however have guys at my desk like constantly trying to have a chat with me which isn't bad.
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What Girls & Guys Said
13 33You kind of screwed yourself. You can go to HR but that's not going to make people respect you any more than they do now and they'll all just mostly hate you and give you the cold shoulder from that point forward and you'll be known as the girl that's easy AND starts crap with people.
Rule 36 of life: Don't f**k or date people you work with.
Find a new job and keep your panties on next time.
If you'd invested more than a week in this job, I'd suggest sexual harassment charges, but in your situation that would only cause hard feelings on top of the bad first impression you've already made. You'll be seen not just as the new girl slut, but the slut that fit their buddy disciplined/fired.
You haven't had a chance to earn anyone's respect and you probably won't be given one, so nobody other than an HR manager is likely to take your side. I can't see how it's worth sticking out a work environment like that with no stock of good will built up.
there might be a solution to stop the talk at work... but what has been spread around the office will never stop or be forgotten... you can throw yourself into your job and hope to ignore these people.. or sadly look for a new job and take this as a hard learned lesson.. i truly hope it works out for you..
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Well done. And on your first day too. That takes some real skills.
1. Well, don't shit where you eat (don't sleep with co-workers)
2. Work hard and get your standing back. Honestly, them dudes are pretty immature.
3. Take it HR about what they are saying about you. However, it will not stop it from spreading to new employees.
Fucking one dude hardly classifies you as an "office slut" - The guy that blabbed his mouth is a prick. The others are just jealous.
Talk to him and ask him to knock it off if he doesn't, I'd talk with your boss and hr. Just cause you slept with him doesn't mean he gets to treat you bad around the office.
I would go to HR and file a sexual harassment complaint. It was probably poor judgement on your part for hooking up with someone you barely new. But there is no excuse for the kind of ridicule you are receiving at work.
Report him. You were kind enough to give yourself up to him. He has no right to just go around talking to people about the sex you both had. He is committing sexual harassment against you. I highly doubt your new office has ethical workers.
I mean personally I think being being labeled a slut just goes hand in hand with being a female so I don't see a problem here
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Well technically the damage is already done and there isn't really anything you can do about it. Considering it is true, I guess the only thing you could do is be proud of how good you were in bed, hah!
I know but the damage seems to be quite ok still. And yes, I guess I'll be proud of my skills and take the jokes as compliments. lol
Yes, that sounds like the healthiest way of handling the situation
So what was that "... pretty cocky but in a charming funny way". A combination of these words make no sense. In retrospect i'm thinking you know this wouldn't end well. I never understood how people are mislead by seemingly obvious assholes (especially women).
I mean it's no ones business who your fucking. I can't even STRESS how fucked up things get when coworkers sleep with each other. Nothing gets done and the work environment can get hostile. This guy sounds like an idiot He's threading that fine line of getting fired because he can't stop gossiping. This guy is gonna' cost your work a sexual harassment lawsuit eventually, a pattern has already been established.
The thing is 'alot of people end up meeting there SO at work. So i can't fault you for that. Only mistake i see is that you sleep with an asshole and by doing so have just reinforced that his douchiness' works with women.
It's nothing wrong with SEX!!! But that guy is douchebag telling other people that he had sex.
I wouldn't tell anyone. Sex Is SEX and it's nothing wrong with that!!!
What kind of thing did he say to make you loose easily?
If it was me I would start looking for another job simply because you're never going to get that respect back that you've lost. Or else just kind of start living on the straight and narrow making sure that you don't you know leave surprises in the place where you eat. You learned an important lesson you never have sex in the workplace amber and I speak that from experience myself it just never works out. I'm sorry this happened to you but I bet you grow from it.
You made your decisions, but seem to be trying to put the blame on him "knowing what to say". You are a grown girl, you said yes when you could have said no. He is an asshole for telling everyone, but since you gave it up so easily, he probably assumed you do that stuff all the time. Therefore he never really gave you much respect.
You seem to be a road to disaster. I would suggest you do you best to not associate with males from work outside of work.
do you like big cock btw?:)
Chance are he does it to all the new girls so just wait it out