Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I don't give bj's. Never have. Never will.
I Don't expect oral in return of course, and have refused the gesture from earlier boyfriends.
The boyfriends I've had all say that they are okay with this in the beginning, thinking they can persuade me into it later. When they fail to do so, they sour and act as if I have done something wrong. I broke up with my last boyfriend due to him not respecting that this is something I'm unwilling to do.
Is this a dealbreaker for a lot of men out there? Why? isn't it enough that you get to be with a girl you care about?
I don't give bj's - is that a dealbreaker?
MsSunGifu Xper 2
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We've had a breakthrough: Do you think that a girl who does not want to do bjs isn't attracted to you? Is this why its so sensitive if a girl says no to this specific sexual act?
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The main question I get is why i do not want to perform BJ's. The reason is simply that it does not turn me on/come off as romantic, nor do I find it morally right (someone pointed out this might be a reason, and to be on my knees is something im definitely against). Not trying to deprieve men from any kind of pleasure, just respecting and being true to my own sexuality. by the way, I'm Swedish, so if my Language is weird I apologise!
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What Girls & Guys Said
15 97Completely a dealbreaker.
Thanks for your reply.
Updates: A girl who won't suck dick is basically similar to a guy that won't hug, or won't kiss, or refuses to make a single romantic gesture. Sure, a girl might be with that guy for a few hours, days or maybe weeks. But it just flat out won't last. Now whatever reason you choose not to give a blowjob. Well, just ask if it's worrh it because you will be missing out on chances with a lot of men.
I see. Thanks for sharing, I'll take my chances
The truly hilarious part is that if you french kiss you are sticking your mouth and tongue into a far dirtier environment than a freshly showered cock into your mouth. Do some internet research on bacterial levels on skin versus inside the mouth. You might be surprised at what you find.
I can't help that I do not like it and find it off putting. And I won't force myself into something I do not want to do.
A girl who doesn't give blowjobs? No thanks. ✋
I see. Thanks for the reply.
Sexual compatibility is essential in any long term relationship. Most guys love bjs. If you're not giving bjs then anal is a must. 2 of 3 are ok with me. 1 of 3 places for the cock to enter, boring.
I see. Thanks for your reply. Will bear it in mind.
I'm guessing you've never done anal either.
Nope
Your close mindedness will be a deal breaker then.
it hurts to hear that, but I can't be any different. I won't force myself into things im not comfortable with. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
I don't care for sexual acts so it makes no difference to me whatsoever
Sorry if my language is weird. Im Sweedish.
No, I understand you perfectly, your English is good. You guys speak it better than most other Europeans ;) :D
good, thanks!! :-))
I don't really care if she doesn't give bj's, though if she doesn't accept oral from me... it kinda kills a part of the foreplay.
There used to be a joke going around "The only hair between your legs should be my beard" :P
I see. Thanks for the reply:-)
Total deal breaker...
You'll eventually find someone out there. !! The reason so many guys say otherwise, is because there's to many other girls who do this... so you're kinda expendable tbh
Thank you for the reply.
Thank you, hopefully I will.
well i dont see it as a deal breaker, but it is kinda bad i guess.
Why? We all have our preferences, and his are not any more important than mine. shouldn't my sexuality be respected even if Im conservative?
well yes it def should be respected.
but its a sexual desire you know, your boyfriend can't do that with any other girl, it would be cheating. maybe thats why they break up with you
I see. Might be. Thanks for your input.
No prob
if a girl doesn't like to give Bj's then i won't think that she's not attracted to me, i'll just assume that she doesn't like that
Nice to know, thanks:-)
No prob my friend
It would really suck (ha get it?) but I would hope you would be willing to do other things
Funny... 😳 Yes, ofcourse.
I don't care as long as you'd be into anal and other kinky shit.
... and if I was pretty regular?
Well if anything you might be okay for a fling and nothing more.
I see. Thanks for the input.
are u out of your mind
Apparently, to a lot of people 🙈
Not if the guy doesn't like blowjobs.
Very true:-)
U can be my girlfriend and I'm fine with that.
Aw thank you, nice to hear:-)
You can always be replaced
I know?
If she loves me then it's not that big deal but yep BJ's feels amazing so if she can offer me something else then it'll cover everything up :P
You poor young incoccent bastard. If she actually loved you, there's just about nothing she wouldn't do for you unless it caused her actual pain or went against her morals (not giving a bj is not against her morals, she just thinks it's yucky). Save yourself a lot of trouble and remember that. Think about it. You know how justin bieber has all those crazy fans that are obsessed with him. If he chose a girl that wasn't into giving head and he asked one from her do you really think she'd say no when she's so obsessed over him? I think we both know the answer to that. A girl that actually loves and cares about you will make your happiness a priority in her life and will do everything she can to fulfill it. Obviously it's a two way street.
@guy532 How can a bj be the symbol of a womans love, or a measurement of it? I find this insane...
MsSunGifu He means that if a girl would really love you then she would do anything to please you
Whether I will carry your children and raise them into strong independent humanbeings shows my love for you. Whether or not I choose to stand by you in tough times, that shows my loyalty and dedication to you. Do not ruin nice young lads with such shallowness.
Ok ok don't fight with me I just explained what he's trying to say 😂
Haha, omg, sry. This post has gotten so many replies I have trouble keeping track. Sorry :-pppp * slightly embarrassed*
Hahah 😂 It's alright chill
Believe me I won't have to ruin nice young lads like him, I'm sure there will be a girl out there who will eventually do a good job at it. He should learn to respect himself enough to never be with a woman who doesn't make him and his happiness a priority in her life. I wanted to tell him that, I feel like it's an important lesson he should know since a lot of young lads like him, especially the really sweet and caring ones like this guy end up getting used and taken advantage of by selfish girls. The thing is, if you're not willing to do everything you can to make your partner happy, I highly doubt you'd stick around during tough times. I've seen that happen multiple times. That's the reason why not giving a bj is a deal breaker for me, because I don't trust you to be with me during the tough times because there would be nothing in it for you, just like there's nothing in it for you when you give head.
@guy532 Sorry, i will not hurt myself in order for a man to have orgasms/be happy. Thats just not a request grounded in reality. Agree to disagree?
I honestly wouldn't care if we wouldn't be lacking in other fields too.
Nice to hear. Lacking in what?
not at all
Good to hear!
Nope, not as long as there's still regular sex that's not negotiable
I see. Thanks for the reply.
Yes so as long as regular sex is still included in the relationship then I would still be with her
You're welcome
It's a deal breaker !
It is for me, plenty others do, I'd move on.
I see. Thanks for the reply.
"The boyfriends I've had all say that they are okay with this in the beginning, thinking they can persuade me into it later. When they fail to do so, they sour and act as if I have done something wrong. " <--- Sounds like something I would do lol
I still feel like if we were dating and you liked me enough, I could get you to start giving me oral at some point. But if I knew right from the start that there was no chance of it ever happening then yeah, definite deal breaker. Blowjobs for me feel better than vaginal sex, so I wouldn't be able to go without it.
I'd happily go along with your request that I don't go down on you though :P
Thanks for the reply. I would not expect you to either, that would be quite unreasonable, and getting upset because of it totally justified and understandable :)