I don’t know what to do?

[pink_and_inlove]

I have strict parents and I have been sexually active with my boyfriend and all we use our condoms and I need to take birth control so that we could be safer but the only way for me to get birth control is to tell my mother that I need it and for her to take me somewhere because I don’t know anything about birth control and I am very afraid to tell her that I have been sexually active my boyfriend because she told me to wait a year of dating to have sex and my boyfriend have only been dating for five months and I wish really badly that I could talk with her about this but she has a terrible Temper and I think she’ll tell my dad who doesn’t believe in sex until marriage I am very scared because this is something I’ve never had to go through and I don’t even know how to bring this up my mom is really angry all the time and I just want to get birth control to be safe and I can’t get them without her if I don’t know if I should wait until March 31 to tell her because that will be a full year know or if I should tell her now I really wish that I could just talk to her about this normally but she’s a very angry person And I really wish I could share this with her because I usually tell her everything like my first kiss all of that but I’m so scared because my parents are very strict I can’t even have my dad find out because he could have a heart attack and she might not allow me to go to my boyfriends house again because that’s where we do it I don’t know what to do can anybody help please I just wish I had a mom to talk to about birth control and all and I want to be able to talk to her about my experiences and if it’s normal to feel this way/ for sex to hurt but instead I’m keeping this a secret I wish I could tell her though I really do but I’m really scared about how she would react she has a very bad temper. I feel a bit sad too

[tquamina3]

I think you are suppose to be old enough to get birth control yourself without the need of a parents consent or a parent at all because as far as I know its a law. And how come your parents know where you go and what you buy? Do they Have some tracking device on you or something? Ask someone else you trust to accompany you to go get birth controls or even see if your boyfriend will see for a way to go with you because after all he too is involved in the situation. If you feel you can't talk to your parents about this part of your life then you don't have to let them know or share anything with them, just see if you can speak with another trusted person to see what they can do for you, you can even try your boyfriend's mom, she might have a better understanding than your mom because you desire to use protecting while you are having sex and I don't think there is anything better than that.

[pink_and_inlove]

I don’t know how to make an appointment for myself my insurance or anything I don’t know how to do it without her

[pink_and_inlove]

I feel sad because I’ve always told her everything and I can’t share this with her :(

[pink_and_inlove]

I think she’ll beat me up and ban me from seeing him

[tquamina3]

First off, you don't have to feel bad about nothing, parts of your life you have the rights to not share with others no matter if its your mom or not, even your boyfriend you don't have to share every part with (I mean its in reference to if you are not ready as yet to share parts you may have not yet shared in the times you guys have been together). You don't have to feel obligated/forced to share a part of your life with anyone if you don't want to because ITS YOUR LIFE AND YOUR STORY and others have to respect your wishes to not share part of your life until you feel like you are ready. If you know your local planned parent hood or clinic or facility you have in mind to get the birth control you need from, go do some digging and see what the hospital/clinic has to say about making appointment, you will be sure to find something. And if you got questions about the insurance, call them. They will provide you info without the need of your mom knowing or simply go on the insurance website to find out more. Or what you can also do is simply walk into the clinic and get your questions answered there from the people at the front desk, be sure to show them your insurance and let them know what your concerns are, they won't turn you away, you got this.

[ushagomez]

I would hope that in the US you have some free sexual health clinics that you can contact. We do here in UK. They will always help.

[magiusX26]

you do not have to tell your mom at all. especially seeing as you are over 18. call your doctor or better yet look up a community or free clinic and go to one of those. you have a legal right to full privacy and access to birth control. the local health department works too. expect to be given a pregnancy test though, its a routine thing.

[pink_and_inlove]

We always use condoms

[magiusX26]

you said you wanted to get on birth control on top of the condoms. by the way, health department will give you condoms for free too.

[dreamstar72]

Just say hey mom I think I should start taking birth control now to be ready for sex in six months. A friend, who becoming a RN, told me you should find out how you body will react to the pills. Hey male here so know nothing about birth control pills. My wife tried them for some reason her body reacted funny

[pink_and_inlove]

How did it react?

[dreamstar72]

Just made her weird and feel weird, nothing really weird. I know what I said might not make sense but it happened that way. So she stopped and she was back to normal herself. Sorry for telling you what’s below. We were extremely lucky or my mind control worked, because we didn’t want a kid right away. So I used the withdrawals method then after four years we wanted a child and my wife became pregnant. I told her that we was going to have a daughter and a eight (early) months latter she had a beautiful daughter. I say it was mind control my friends tell me i was lucky, ok they are correct. So DO NOT listen to me. LOL. Go to college and became someone great and I hope you and you boyfriend stay true to each other. Have fun and be happy. Smile life is precious

[ZackBan]

I think you need to outsource for this one.

If you got the money for it find a sexually active friend and have her buy you some pretending it's hers with your money, hard for your parents to track that

[sammy1537]

Don't you see gynecologist? Try ask them. They know more about birth control than your mom ever did. Of course, I'm assuming that your mom is not present during the consultation. Plus, most states allow birth control pills to be prescribed to 16 .

[pink_and_inlove]

She’ll get suspicious if I suddenly ask to see a gynecologist

[sammy1537]

Just say that it's normal to see one annually starting at the age of 16.

[Sevenpointfive]

trust me they know what's going on. they don't want to hear about it. you live with the consequences that you make. you don't want to get pregnant then don't have sex, tell your mom or keep using condoms.

why is sex hurting you?

[pink_and_inlove]

Insertion he’s big and thick and I am very tight he uses lube but it still hurts me

[pink_and_inlove]

No they don’t they still think that I’m a virgin. And my boyfriend said that he doesn’t trust condoms alone and that I should use birth control so I told him that we should wait to have sex again

[Sevenpointfive]

no guy wants to use condoms. if he doesn't want to use them then no sex. also you aren't lubricating naturally preparing yourself for sex. the vagina can stretch if you are turned on. he's not turning you on

[pink_and_inlove]

But I am already wet when he inserts I get naturally wet around him

[pink_and_inlove]

And last time I was rubbing myself I don’t know what’s going on

[Sevenpointfive]

you need a warm up. he needs to finger you to warm up the interior so it can stretch. possibly use a dildo if that isn't opening you up enough.

[Wizzbang]

Condoms are pretty durable unless you're using your nails to stretch it over the dick. Otherwise you should be fine, I'm not sure why your boyfriend would be so paranoid? Condoms I think statistically prevent more pregnancies than being on the pill

[asshole_]

I think you're too young to have a boyfriend, but that's just me

[pink_and_inlove]

I’m 19 and he is four years older than me.

[boyfriend1915]

Talk to her over a phone or message her.

[Anonymous]

At age 19 you should be able to get birth control by yourself.

[pink_and_inlove]

My parents are very strict

[pink_and_inlove]

Im not even supposed to be having sex

[Opinion Owner]

Gotcha. You could try an iud. It's very discreet (nobody will see anything) and offers better protection than the pill. You could even have sex without a condom with an iud if you were comfortable.

[Anonymous]

So you let your boyfriend shoot his cum inside your vagina?

[pink_and_inlove]

No never condoms

[Opinion Owner]

No you never use condoms or you never have let him shoot his cum in you?

[pink_and_inlove]

No we always use condoms

[Opinion Owner]

What position do you usually do?