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I don't like being black?

So, all my life I've been picked on for having bad hair. My hair is thick, kinky, afro hair, the whole 9. Whenever I hear people talking negatively about people who have hair like mine I just stop caring for my hair. Right now my depression is so bad I'm literally fighting to even groom myself everyday. I never thought I'd fall this hard in my life. Never did man. I know that my hair is different. I'm ashamed of it. I don't want to go to a hair salon because I feel like I'm just going to get harsh comments on how bad my hair looks or how I'm not caring for it properly. I can't deal with life anymore. I'm just dying on the inside.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Well you just about did it I'm a big old boy some say nice guy and if forced a bad ass,, but you just broke me down my eyes watered , I don't know what to tell you I don't see black and white I see people I see the same in all, love hurt pain happiness giving ,, life, with a smile , I can't tell you whst to do or who to be I can say love your self within because that's who you really are each one of us has a TEMPLE that houses our Energy soul Spirit, when we die we leave our shell out house our temple behind and the person with in leaves our body ,, I can say this God made 5 Races,, God created us equally our loving God used common since when making all 5 Races for different parts of the world and environmental factors he gave us all 97 % of the same DNA 3 % of DNA that could be changed in time by harsh ELEMENTS of environment the 3 % is skin eye hair color ,, we as human adapt to our environment your here for a reason and just because some dumb fuck years ago was so brain dead and couldn't think passed his nose and though he was better than even one else and then the rest of his dumb fuck family bought in to something. And all this time has passed. And know has you thinking the way they did fuck that your better than that stop right now if i dont like something about me i change it i dont allow people to tell me who i am or who im going to be ,, its my choice the day we are born we all so all get choice on who we want to be ,, and thst is done by what we say and do, it's your choice on who you want to be I'm sorry you have allowed color to make you feel as if you don't like yourself. Your the only one that can like you so do it make a choice to be you and love your self

  • Look don't let other people have the power over your feelings. I have been picked on because I was fat. Then I decided to change but not for them screw them I did it for me and I felt better. See you got to make a decision here. You keep let them talk which you can not stop but stay to yourself and be proud of how your hair look a like or you canhe by making it because you decide to make it for yourself. There is no decision to do nothing and let them make you feel bad and sad.

Most Helpful Girls

  • You should appreciate your heritage and differences and not care what others think. Honestly, if you try to live your life to please others then you’ll never succeed and your bound for a life of depression. 🤷🏻‍♀️Appreciate who you are! And you know what kills me, is that so many people of minorities try to fit in (for example, I don’t even know of a female black celebrity who doesn’t do her hair like a white woman) and then complain that they are not appreciated. Stop trying to fit in, and be yourself. When people see that you appreciate who you are and where you come from, they just might give you the goodness you deserve.
    And I say that for my own minority too, as I am Hispanic. Us giving up Spanish and trying to fit in is a shame as well.
    People are not going to appreciate you f you don’t appreciate yourself.

  • Start looking at natural hair videos on youtube on how to groom your hair the right way. It's fun! I hated my hair too it was thick but breaking off and until I found my curl patterns and all the lovely products my hair loves I started having fun with it! Plus you can always get a relaxer but I'd do natural hair care first. And a salon will deff help you feel prettier if you get it done professionally!

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  • Maybe you should get a relaxer or just get it flat-ironed.

  • I sympathize with you. I have often wondered how black women make their hair look nice. I suggest you go to the salon as they can give you tips on how to care for your hair when between salon visits. Also YouTube.

  • Some of those people are black too? anyway you can't choose your gender or race.

    • They're black same hair as me

    • Well I am not surprised, black people tend to talk negatively about other black people a lot.

  • So you gonna hate yourself because other do?
    We all we got. Fuck em.
    Get to the salon. Learn how to take care of you hair. at least you're learning to take care of it.. My mother is a big Black woman. She does all this crazy voodoo and has hair down to her shoulders.

  • Do not go by the beauty standards of Caucasian or Oriental girls. There is beauty in every race. Yours favors short and curly. She is as beautiful as any.

    I don't like being black?

    I have had the pleasure of running my fingers through hair just like this.
    Down below, too.

  • Read this

    https://www. girlsaskguys. com/social-relationships/a63593-as-minorities-in-america-we-need-to-appreciate-ourselves-first-before

  • Wearing a wig could be a sensible, temporary solution to try out.

    Just remember that if you are going to try to please everyone else, you will fail and you won't please yourself either.

  • there's worse situations we can be in always remember that when your feeling down☺

  • You're made in the image of God, their is no higher form of beauty.

  • If it makes you feel better, I used to want to be black lol

  • Get it over it hon. You were born black and you are going to die black. Focus on loving yourself a lot.

  • You are at a time in your life were you are becoming an adult woman.
    Hormones are probably messing with you too.
    You have to realize you are human, with wants, needs, and feelings.
    Accept the things you were born with, only change the things you can’t.
    A woman that is confident in her femininity and her sexuality, and who loves her body,
    Are the sexiest type of girls.
    Learn to love your body, don’t listen to any criticism by stupid people.
    Be the best you can be!

  • About me i love black girls more

  • At least it’s just your hair you have an issue with, I’m white and losing my hair on top, you can just braid it or cut it short and wear a wig, at least you age better than white people too

    • I have a issue with a lot of things and I don't like how people are telling me people have worse issues don't feel bad. It's fucking bullshit Anyway, I'm going to do my hair today. My sister has a rat tail comb so I'm going to suck up my pain and use it

    • My daughters are biracial and they do braids and corn rows at times

  • Black girls are hot, you'll definitely find someone.

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