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Sexual Health I fake an orgasm so that my boyfriend doesn’t know I can’t cum from just penetration. 80% of women can’t, so what do the rest of you do?
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That is not uncommon at all.
You really need to talk to him about what you need to finish what was started.
My wife can not cum just from penetration either, so we tried a few things and founf "buzz" her favorite vibrator.
Used in conjuntion with penetration in various positions she has no issues cumming.
The one that works best is her on the bottom, me kneeling with her legs up in the air.
I can pull up on her ankles while thrusting and she is using buzz, which by the way feels good to me, or she can have her feet in my face so I can suck on her toes as well as tickle her feet which she says increases her stimulation.
She is really ticklish so most times I have to hold 1 ankle so I can tickle her foot with the other hand, and sometimes she helps out by tickling her other foot as well, all while keeping buzz in a strategic position to assure that she will have a mind blowing orgasm.
Her record is 6 happy endings, but in all fairness she was tied to the bed, and after the 3rd orgasm she couldn't remember her safeword, much less form a complete sentence, so since she was balling her hands into a fist or trying to grab air with her hands, and her toes were curled under I just kept going.
So if we never talked about what she liked, what really turned her on, and what she needed to get her to her happy ending (s), we both would be missing out on a lot.
I don't fake it. Who is that helping? I get head and he doesn't stop until I'm done. He uses a vibrator on me. Or I'll rub my clit while he is penetrating me. Sometimes all 3 😌
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Maybe he's just not pushing the right buttons. Have you ever tried telling him what you want done to make you cum/ I'm betting THAT'S 80% of women!! I don't know why but they just WON'T tell him what they want done!! Why is it such a big secret? Whatever it is, chances are, we'll do it if you'd just TELL US what it is! You want a baby elephant shoved up your ass? Okay!! We'll do it!! You want us to set a $20 bill on fire? Okay, we'll do it!! (As soon as we find your purse.)
He'd be insulted when he finds out about this. Better to be honest about your body than faking an O.
You're right, I think honesty and true expression of body experience is needed to achieve enjoyable orgasms. Tell your partner what you need, I works for me.
Exactly
Just tell him the truth and talk to him. Work something out.
Tickle the clit.
Honey, mature adults can communicate their needs. Time to get with the program. Just don't do it in the bedroom.
"80% of women can't"
I have to call bs on that.
so basically your basing this part of your relationship off of a lie. that is a recipe for a failed relationship. the logic of "faking it so his confidence doesn't go down" is a lot like a doctor not removing a bad body part (such as a burst appendix) because cutting the patient open may kill them (bloodloss etc) when not doing it is guarenteed to kill them. because eventually he will find out you faked and that will definitely crush his confidence (possibly permanently) where as this little set back has a good chance of building it higher. the triumph of knowing he was messing up somewhere but afterwards learned how to be better at it usually skyrockets our confidence (ego) .
I can tell when an orgasm is real, the same way I can tell when a smile is genuine.
I tell my husband what I need.
Yknow, it's stupid we have to fake it. They should know its not them, it's our bodies. But most men have the most fragile fuckin egos smh. If they can't make you cum from penetration and you let them know, it becomes all about them even though you're already beating yourself up about it. Annoying af
When my wife and I were first getting the swing of things, we bought a vibrator that we still use every once in a while. One that I put on my dick that pressed against her clit when we’re penetrating. Be committed to a good sexlife instead of pretending everything is perfect. Social media and magazines have deceived us into thinking that if everything isn’t perfect, there’s something wrong with us. But come one, we’re smarter than that. You both deserve a partner who makes an effort to fulfill each other.
In a sexual relationship, especially a long term committed one, faking an orgasm is dishonesty. It’s a great way to keep getting more of the same because it seems like it’s working. It’s like saying “wow babe I loved that recipe” when you didn’t like it. You lie like that, that’s a great way to get a meal you hate on your birthday. You need to be honest and both see your orgasm as an achievable goal. And stop seeing sex as penetration. Sex is the erotic expression of affection, including penetration. Don’t compare yourself to movies where people are both orgasming at the same time and then ready to go again 5 mins later.
If I don’t cum from his dick. He will make it happen in other ways
I am 1 of the 20%, I orgasm very easily. I am lucky or unlucky depending on when it happens
Stop faking. Have a conversation with him and tell him you want to enjoy sex more and can show him how you want to be touched. Lots of women prefer oral sex over intercourse as that is direct stimulation where you need it. So enjoy oral and intercourse mixed in with all the other parts of making love
Also let him know intercourse still feels really good so that he doesn’t feel deflated. The more you communicate with each other the better it can get.
That's a horrible idea. You are reinforcing bad habits. If he doesn't know that he's not doing what it takes to get you off, then tell him. Or better yet, show him!
This just does nothing for you or for him. He should get you off before penetration first. Have you tried with you on top?
He doesn't know how to eat pussy? Tell that bum to put his tongue down there and get to work.