Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I FAKE ORGASMS WITH BOYFRIEND?
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I’ve been doing it since we’ve been dating a year ago. I don’t think he can make me cum. He is pleased with himself thinking he is satisfying me, but he isn’t. HELP. Am I too deep in?
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10 27Why fake it or lie you like useless child sex lol
Well I can't see any future in a relationship where you're not getting sexually satisfied. So I'd say it time be honest with him and get out while you still can.
Well its your mistake not his... You made him realized that he is satisfying you, Right?
Yes I lied to him about it
Right
Yes.
as long as you keep faking he will not improve
Stop faking your orgasms! Why do women do that? You are misleading him. I would much rather know the truth about my methods of fucking you than be led to think that I'm some sort of stud.
I think many women do that because, I might be mistaken, but most women struggle with reaching orgasms with their partners... Many don't even know what it's like to have an O with someone else.
I can reach climax, but it takes me longer and I’m sort of aware that boyfriend doesn’t last too long, so I don’t even try.
@marilynjuana What’s the solution?
I think it has a lot to do with the mindset you have. If you KNOW you won't reach it then there isn't even a point in trying to reach it. Your best bet is to tell your partner honestly and start finding ways he could help you. Longer foreplay, ways he could satisfy you better etc etc. Being honest and knowing you're both trying might give you a good push.
"I can reach climax"... if I was your boyfriend, I would appreciate it you talked to me about your experience. I would then slow down my thrusting or change something else in my method of fucking you so that I wouldn't cum so quickly and thereby allow you to "catch up" and climax. Your climax is as important to me as it is to you because the more times you cum, the more sex you want.
What sir Wizard said. Don't do something that's untrue because you feel like "this is how it should be". Hell no. You're keeping yourself from pleasure you COULD reach.
@Marilynjuana "What sir Wizard said"... that's cute. Have a GREAT day! ;)
@marilynjuana I can’t tell him because it will hurt him that he can’t please me. I’ll sort of casually suggest that we try new things and see how he takes it.
No offense but you fucked yourself over. You gotta tell him the truth and see if you can find ways to improve his performaces
Change the boyfriend
You’re in a tough spot now. Deception usually doesn’t have a good outcome. You’ve got two options here. You can come clean about the past year, hope that he isn’t too angry about being deceived, and start over sexually. That means finding alternate ways he can make you cum, like manual and oral stimulation, longer foreplay, or experimenting with positions to find one that helps him last longer. The other option is to live with the status quo or try to reinvent your sex life without him getting suspicious, which will be difficult to say the least. At this point, I’d just be honest. His ego will be understandably bruised but it will be the only realistic way to have a chance at fixing this. Now if that doesn’t work, there’s no shame in deciding the two of you just aren’t sexually compatible and moving on.
My girlfriend struggles too, tbf she's never touched herself and isn't sure what an orgasm is. She was abused as a kid so isn't sure whether that trauma has affected her sex drive. But she's been open with me about it in the sense that she really enjoys it but doesn't know whether or not me or anyone has ever made her climax.
So we talked it over and decided that when she wants to she uses toys and takes some time to herself to figure out and get used to what she likes. Once she knows what she likes and whether that will make her climax, she can guide me to enhance her experience.
You really shouldn’t be faking it, for your own sake. You don’t have to tell him you’ve been faking it, just try and direct him silently to what you want him to do and how in order to get you off.
You should stop doing that; and teach him how to make you actually orgasm.
Lol. Idiot.
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Probably. If you fake an orgasm you are only cheating yourself. How will he know that he needs to do better?
you made your own bed by lying
Shit I'm so sorry babe I had no idea. You should have told me sooner. I can do better. We can try the bull horn thing again?