I feel no pleasure at all from penetrative sex?

Question

i only derive pleasure from foreplay and i haven't talk about this with my boyfriend yet... we have done it only like 15times.. does it get better with time?

ohshee · Accepted Answer

You really have to talk to him about it even though he should know it just by the look on your face when you're having sex if a guy can read your face read the color of your cheeks read your eyes your body language the way you move the way you moan then he knows everything that you want him to do at that given moment and if he does not you know how to do any of the above it has to suck really bad for you that's the first thing I would notice that's the first thing I would feel having sex with you and I would have just I would do whatever it took to connect with you because that's one of the biggest things in the world is to take you someplace where you've never been before to have you feel something that you've never ever felt before that's the beautiful part about making love or having sex I mean before you even have sex and you're having four play are you holding hands already has you pushed up against the wall and his lips touching your lips loaded in your cheek to your neck there is a connection that we all have with each other its energy and when you can feel somebody's energy it is the most beautiful thing you will ever feel in your life a lot of people call it love it's not love its energy that you need to communicate to him so you can fix it and make it good for you

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You are not alone. This is actually very common. My x only once started to really feel wonderful from penetration. I was absolutely ok with that. I delighted to go down on her. I loved being there in the warmth between her thighs. To me it was rapture to watch her orgasm that way. Truly satisfying.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It can get better with time and experience but the majority of women do not orgasm from penetration. You may be one of those. Definitely talk to him about it. You may need manual stimulation or oral sex to be satisfied. Most guys do want to please so hopefully he’s willing to experiment and find what works for you. Another tip…. I’m sure you’ve masturbated before. Try rubbing your clit while he’s penetrating you. That works for me most of the time.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Well, if what he's doing isn't working, then him doing it more won't help. Either suggest some things to do differently, or just experiment to find what works.

Remember that he wants you to enjoy it, too, and if you don't, you won't.

purplepoppy · Answer

You need a bigger friend with decent dick skills

MagicCarpet1 · Answer

Maybe you have a sexual disability from too much flaming hot cheetos. Ever tried going Keto?

Berethor · Answer

It's the lie back and think of england trope, you are asexual and it would get worse as you age.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Could it be a medical issue?  A lot of women favor oral over penetrative sex, so maybe that is something you’d agree with as well?

slatyb · Answer

Do you masturbate? If so, how?

ManOnFire · Answer

Hopefully it will. It is probably just a case of you needing to more mentally relaxed and opened up to it. This will take some time and work that you both can be involved with.

LiamSawyer · Answer

You just need more foreplay including oral

josephinelcajon · Answer

I prefer masturbation due to more stimulation

Th3ft · Answer

You need to tell him maybe you can get some vibrators that will help during penetration. It also sounds like he needs to work on his penetration skills.

TenkRealist · Answer

From what I've heard, no. Some people feel better from foreplay.

Massageman · Answer

Your body has more nerve endings in the clit, nipples, and perineum (that plateau between your rectum and vagina). Your body is actually doing things the right way - lots of foreplay, inside the thighs, etc., and save the PIV for the final quick encore.

genericname85 · Answer

what is it during foreplay that gives you pleasure that you don't get during the fucking?

Rizwan_khan · Answer

It's okh you are not alone in that situation many girl found pleasure in foreplay or pussy eating but not in penetration you can talk about it to you boyfriend. Foreplay also good in fact i like more foreplay then penetration i do fuck in the last pahse of sex whole time i like to froeplay pussy eating and amny more.

Wise4myage · Answer

You're boyfriend needs to know, so why aren't you telling him? Nothing is ever going to improve if you remain silent.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Women think their orgasm is the most important thing in the world.

kellytheman · Answer

It could and just take time and practice. There is certain women that can only get sexual pleasure from different kind of sex weather it be oral or penetration sex or even anal. I probably tell your boyfriend and tell him it not his fault and he might find out if there is anything he can do to make penetration sex pleasurable.

Johnnyroyyall · Answer

I'm sorry to hear that that's unfortunate

RuthlessAggression · Answer

You might make him feel bad about having sex with you ever, even foreplay. You can certainly tell him, I'm just telling you what you might expect back. He may not ever want to sleep with you again. So, lets hope for the best