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I have a big fear about losing my virginity?

I feel like I can’t emotionally handle losing it. I feel like I’ll lose my mind.

I feel like he would be taking a part of me that I can’t get back. That scares me

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  • It is completely normal to have fears or concerns about losing your virginity, and it is important to take your time and make the decision that feels right for you. It is important to remember that losing your virginity is a personal and unique experience, and there is no right or wrong way to approach it.

    It is also important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your fears and concerns, and to establish clear boundaries and expectations regarding your sexual relationship. It may be helpful to take things slowly and gradually build up to sexual activity, and to prioritize emotional and physical safety and comfort.

    Remember that you have the right to make decisions and set boundaries regarding your own body and sexual experiences, and to communicate those boundaries clearly to your partner. It is important to prioritize your own emotional and physical well-being, and to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals if needed.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Well all of that sounds reasonable enough if you're someone who hasn't met the right guy. If you feel like you've got the type of relationship where you're close in a way that you feel you SHOULD be in a place to handle it emotionally, that's different.

    But if you're not in love, then this doesn't sound all that weird to me. Losing your virginity is an emotional experience. It is taking something you can't get back. So, it's a matter of feeling close to someoen in a way that makes you feel good about giving that piece of yourself away.

    I suppose it all depends on just how extreme these feelings are for you. But unless you're in a long-term committed relationship with someone you love... I don't think this is all that weird.

    Really depends on your situation I suppose. Sorry I can't give you a better answer without knowing more. 🙂

Most Helpful Girls

  • that's why you make sure you'll be with the person forever and until you know that he's the one and when you're ready. i don't regret it, but then again i'm thankfully still with him. it changes the closeness between you and him and it can be a good thing if this is a serious long term relationship that you see a future with.

    • also, just a note, virginity is a mental thing. the hymen is not even a big deal physically.

  • That’s a little weird. Its sex, not your social security number.

    • 😂🤣🤣

    • But I have to say that it is a a lot different when you have sex then when you have not had sex before I am a virgin and new to ever thing and I am scared to have sex and I am very shy and very nervous about it

    • @virgincountryboy If you have never done it how are you in any position to tell other people what it is like?

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  • That's like being afraid of losing your childhood because you can't get it back.

    What's the value virginity, anyway? Why wouldn't you be happy to become an adult and start living life?

    Don't you like your five senses?

    What happened to make you so inhibited and fearful?

  • Is this who I think it is?

  • It make sense to fear losing your virginity to a wrong man, you can wait until marriage. :)

    I have a big fear about losing my virginity?

    • Yet we have a divorce rate approaching 50%, so there's no guarantee that the marriage will be a lasting one.

    • And 70% of divorces are filed by women, a virgin woman is not likely to file a divorce.

    • No, but she won't be a virgin after sex for the first time. So if it's all about saving it for the person you're meant to be with for life, there's no guarantee that's the first husband.

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  • Make sure it's the right guy when you do.

  • you're not 'losing' it, you're giving it away!

  • Just make sure it is with someone you are likely to be compatible with long term and actually cares about you.

  • When you find a guy you are truly in love, you will want him inside you, like taking him directly into your heart. That's why you should wait.

  • You're right. So make it count. It's ok to be nervous. Anyone who tells you otherwise can fuck off.

  • Sounds like a form of mental issue to be honest. Maybe talk to a psychologist about it?

    • How so?

    • Well does it sound normal and mentally healthy to you?

    • I don't know, I didn’t think about it that way I just can’t cope with feeling abandoned after sex not sex itself

  • Don't be weird. It is just sex.

    • It is a lot different than when you have already had sex then when you are still a virgin I am a virgin and I am very shy and very nervous and everything hell I have never even masterbation before or anything

    • @virgincountryboy I was a virgin once too you know. It is not a big deal.

    • I was just wondering about if that we could sit down and get to know each other better and I was just wondering if we could talk and get to know each other' more close and better and everything

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  • Loose it only when you feel ready. Only you know and feel when the right time is.

  • Simple. So don't give it to him.

    Trust your instincts. Your heart is trying to protect you from harm. Listen to it.

  • That’s normal because you’re not married.

  • I am in the same boat as you I think because I am a virgin And every thing and I am new to ever thing and I even have never have masterbation before and I am new to sex and everything to I was wondering if we could talk and learn about everything together since we are new and still virgin and everything

  • That's why you should wait until you're with someone you fully trust. Also don't think of it as losing it or someone taking it. Think of giving it to someone else, like a gift or present. I would also recommend trying it cowgirl first because that gives you the most control, and then it's more like you're having sex with him than vice versa. You get to control the speed and depth (mostly) in cowgirl.

  • We all are for the first time we all feel like that used me for a sample about this just change that you got to buy condoms different sizes and styles and lube and I had to put them on in the first time it will hurt but after we do it for a while it will turn into like a drug and you will learn about coming and squirting

  • You should wait until the time is right. Once your comfortable with the guy you're with your fear will disapate immensely. The right guy will come along and make it enjoyable. Good luck to you!

  • I have trust issues so. Yeah same

  • Trust me when I say that once you give up that ghost the better off you'll be.

    Looking back afterwards, you'll wonder what the heck was the big deal.

    But do it with the right person at the right time, NOT before!

  • It isn’t something you lose it’s something you give

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