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I have some fucked up thoughts in my head... how fucked up is too fucked up?

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  • You need to like... actually post what thoughts you're having for us to be able to answer this question well.

    Regardless, fucked up thoughts aren't really a problem and honestly most people have some pretty fucked up thoughts.

    Actions are what matter.

    Do you feel like you might act on these thoughts? Are they causing you to be a danger to yourself or others?

    If no, then it's fine.

    Some examples of fucked up thoughts that people get:

    Some women have fantasies about getting raped. That does not mean they want to be raped. Some men have fantasies about raping women. That does not necessarily mean that they want to actually rape anyone.

    In a healthy relationship, some people agree to act out these fantasies with a lover they trust. Many of them use safewords or discuss boundaries carefully before hand so that they can both be comfortable with what's happening. Consent can be established on words other than the usual ones so that we can pretend not to have consent when actually we do.
    These are kinks and there are some that are even more fucked up; as long as you're not hurting other people because of your desires (or at least, not hurting them without their positive consent; BDSM is complicated), you're not doing anything wrong.

    People also get intrusive thoughts; like a sudden urge to throw a crying baby at a brick wall, or an idle plan to set fire to a building full of people. These are disturbing and you should reject them, but they're ultimately also pretty normal and almost no one acts on such thoughts. They aren't who you are.

    You decide who you are by the actions you take.

  • Well if it's not illegal + Sin.. it's not fucked up..

    Thinking of fucking interracial sex partners..
    Fucking someone who is already married.. Or your hot school teacher..
    Thoughts of having Incest sex or watching such porn.
    Thoughts of having Zoophilic sex with animal..

    These are just intersections of our thoughts..
    People wouldn't talk about it..
    But it's okay.. As long as you don't act upon them..

    It's okay to think, because thinking cannot be controlled especially when you are a teenager with raging hormones.

    But it's not fucked up as long as you don't act upon it..
    Just talk.
    And find people who are open to your opinions and open minded to conversation..

Most Helpful Girls

  • We all do sweetheart, nothing is too fucked up, beyond fucker up would have to be beyond our human comprehension

  • I have some too. I think it's harmless and natural. Don't feel ashamed. I'm here if you want to talk!

    • Hmu I followed you.

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  • Doesn't it depend on the audience?
    If you think about it, each person you surround yourself with increases the chance of one of them finding your mind set to be too much.

    But then try going to an asylum for the mentally insane, over there you would be considered normal to all the others.

    It's all about who you surround yourself with.

    The term "Fucked up" is often just societal rejection to the minorities opinions.

  • depends on the person and situation. Are they fucked up morally or ethically?

  • That honestly depends on what kind of thoughts go through your head.

  • Well you need to give an example and it deoends look at some they have become movies books...

  • Can you elaborate? Your question is the same as me asking, "Is it OK what I am thinking right now?" How can anyone answer that when they do not know what I am thinking?

    Are we talking sex, violence, or something other? Do you have any friends here you can PM and ask for their personal confidential opinion?

  • Fucked up how? Like you hurting people? People getting hurt? Sexual?

  • Bigotry.. racism.. pedophilia.. suicide (there is help out there).. *personal opinion aside* It is more than alright to think the thoughts you have in your mind because it's not in control of the fabric or makeup of your character. The process of thought is brought on by so many things, the more important aspect of thought are the actions taken afterwards or during.

  • when you can't tell reality from your imagination

    when you don't know right from wrong.

    or if doing wrong things (injuring, causing suffering to other humans or animals) feels good to you.

  • As long as you don't act on them thoughts are harmless

  • You are only as sick as your secrets.

    • Cool if we chat?

    • I want a woman to fuck whoever she wants

    • Even more than 1 at time...

  • I used to do a lot of story writing, so I have a habit of letting all kinds of crazy stuff ride through my mind without filtration. When creating evil characters in a story, it helps to read up on what goes through the minds of serial killers. So there are no limits. Point is not to act out on that madness because it's mean and against the law. Yet it's not unlawful to think what you want and just keep it to the theatre of your mind.

    • Yeah I wrote a story... never did anything with it but the worst part was a torture scene that involved plunging someone's hand into a fryer

    • @jamesgoldman One thing I learn about serial killers, or just any abusive guy, is that they were abused as children. So there is a revenge factor attached to their personality. They also notice, subconsciously, how abusing someone gives them dark power, the kind of power their childhood abuser felt, which they wanted. Therefore this gives them some kind of control into their past. That abusive power shuts off their past fears and desires they don't want, and shadows it.

  • Well how really messed up is it?

  • Need details

  • What are we even talking about? There's no possibility to give a proper answer without some knowledge behind.

  • Unless you are seriously plotting violence it's not as fucked up as you think.

  • just ask anonymously and put what you did, that's what I be doing

    • go for it

  • What are they?

  • It’s too fucked up if it’s focused on harming non consenting individuals.

    it’s too fucked up if it’s focused on permanent harm.

    It’s too fucked up if the pursuit of it would prevent a relationship with a partner with compatible kinks.

    I don’t think you’re a bad person if you have turn ons that hit those categories, but masturbating to those fantasies is probably a bad pattern for you personally.

  • Depends. Is it kinky or murder? You can give me examples.

  • I'm the same, can message if you dont want to say what on here?

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