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Sexual Health I just found out that I am pregnant? Should I tell my mom? How do I tell my boyfriend? Should I get an abortion or keep the baby?
Emika2003 Xper 4
I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 17 and is a senior this year and I'm gonna be a sophomore. We have been dating since I was 12 and he was 15. I believe he truly does love me. He writes me love letters and sings me love songs that he wrote. He always brags about me on social media. His mom and I get along real well and go shopping together or mani-pedi. I am over at his house every Saturday and we hang out Friday nights. He works during the week. He likes to try and cook spaghetti or alfredo for me at his house. My mom doesn't allow us to be upstairs alone together and she works two jobs so she isn't really here all that much. I have two younger siblings I watch during the day. A couple months ago, we were talking about getting married and having kids together and we both really liked that idea. We decided to have sex with no protection and he came inside of me. Both of our moms have lectured us about safe sex and I am on birth control but purposely stopped taking it for about a week or two before we had sex. My mom will be pissed! His mom probably won't be happy either considering she yelled at us for grinding at a concert. I mean cmon. I don't know if I should keep the baby or get an abortion. I don't know if we are ready to have kids. I do know that he is the love of my life. He literally wrote a song about me when I was on a weekend school trip about how he missed me and sent it to me on Snapchat and was crying. He is super sweet and thoughtful. I do know that my mom will be furious if she finds out and his mom probably won't be happy either. We came up with baby names as well a couple months ago. I think my boyfriend will be happy. How should I go about telling him and my mom? Should he tell his mom?
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I don't know how to tell my boyfriend about it, although I think he will be excited! We were coming up with baby names before we decided to have sex and we also talked about getting married. I don't have a job because I'm 14 but my boyfriend does. My mom and his mom are also all for abortion so they will probably want to do that. How can I bring the news up to my mom? How can he tell his as well?
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Also if I don't want to abort the baby, can my mom make me get an abortion since I'm underage? I texted my boyfriend and he's really excited and he wants me to come over to his house. I just know both of our mothers are going to be super pissed. I also don't know how to take care of a baby. I don't know what to do. Should I abort it and wait until we're older and try again? Or should I just have the baby? Does my mom have to take me to get an abortion or can my boyfriend?
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11 19You should tellbuour boy friend an have himhelo pay if you get an a bortiob but if you decide to have the baby you can find a couple to adopt it even sum 1 that would take you in to let you have the baby for them
Abortion.
You are pregnant with another human being. NOBODY on here can tell you what you should do. It's Your body and your choice. There is no right or wrong answer. If you guys feel that you can't support another human life and care for it - abort. If you guys want to take on the responsibility then keep it. Definitely tell your mom and have him tell his mom. Yes they will be mad but you can't hide a pregnancy
Not to be rude but reading your updates you both really don't seem to have the maturity or right mind set. He is also almost an adult and could get charged with rape. 17 is the age of consent, so technically you legally can't make any decisions for yourself. You have no say as you are a minor and your brain is clearly not developed that well. Please talk to your mom about this, go with him and talk to his mom, talk to a counselor, talk to as many adults as possible and go over all options before you make a decision. This is a big step and I don't think either of you can grasp the reality of the situation
Thank you for your response. My boyfriend and I had plans to get married and are in love and wanted a baby. I am not sure if keeping it would be a right choice since we have no idea how to take care of one and both of our mothers will be pissed. I will take your advice though and talk to many people as possible to see what advice they can give
@Emika2003 you should have thought about that before you started having sex and especially before you stop taking birth control
YOUR BOYFRIEND IS LOWKEY A WEAK ASS PUSSY. WHO TF WRITES LOVE LETTERS AND LOVE SONGS! THATS FUCKING WEIRD!! HE CRIED CUZ U WERE ON A SCHOOL TRIP AND HE MISSED YOU? DOES HE HAVE BALLS? HE NEEDS TO MAN UP he's ACTING LIKE A WEAK ASS GIRL NOT A MAN. YOU NEED TO ABORT THE KID! YOU can't HAVE A BABY AT 14!! STOP BEING A TRASHY SLUT AND OPENING YOUR LEGS AND GETTING PREGNANT! IDC IF he's THIS OR THAT AND U WANNA GET MARRIED UR 14 U DONT KNOW WTF U WANT LITTLE GIRL
You're really out of line here. She's a little kid, and she's scared. If you're the "adult" your page says you are then act like it. This little girl is acting more mature than you.