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Sexual Health I love my boyfriend but he has bad hygiene, what can I do?
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I love my boyfriend and I've been with him for 2 years. I need to rant that he has bad hygiene. Problem, he doesn't think so. Living with him made me realize how dirty this man is :( I spoke to him couple times regarding his hygiene but he doesn't agree with me. He just don't think he has bad hygiene. Shower is a big problem with him. He is always too lazy to shower. If he doesn't go out, he doesn't shower. He can go on without shower for 3-4 days. He has body odor and I have to admit it's a bad one. If he doesn't shower for 1 day, he already smells like armpit and feet. He also loves to wear a thick sweater indoor and make himself sweat. The entire sweater smells like strong body odor and it is gross. But, he can wear it for a whole week without washing. His balls and penis also smells like it hasn't been clean for days! At that point, I avoid being next to him. It makes me angry that it turns me off! The worst is, when I ask him to shower, he refused to. Once, I had to yell at him saying that "you smell like complete s*** & you stink! How is it fair that you want me to smell your body odour!! I don't even want to be near you. It makes me disgusted!" Then, he immediately shower. He works outdoor and doesn't shower after work. He change to his pajamas thinking he is clean. There's so many dust and germs and on top of that, he is full of dry sweat. He doesn't even shower after going to the gym or going to a beach. That is why I don't like going to the beach with him. He comes home and hop to bed with his feet black and his body full of sand! Disgusting! Once, I forced him to shower after working out! But he did not use any bodywash & just rinsk with water! I really don't get it. Also, he only brush his teeth once a day in the morning. If he doesn't have work or don't need to go out, he can live without brushing his teeth for "days"! Help! I love him but his hygiene is terrifying! It takes him 5 minutes to shower and 3 minutes to brush his teeth! I don't get it!
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I have to add that he can shower and, wear the dirty clothes again! :(
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What makes me angry is he keep on anticipating that he is not dirty and that I am being ridiculous.
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What Girls & Guys Said
38 49He is like my father. I hate him sometimes. I think about how his mother was a bitch to not raise a proper hygiened guy.
Girl I don't know how you even lasted with him for 2 years? I would have been left him he sounds so GROSS hell nooooooo... dump him fast. I am a very clean person that is a BIG no no in my book. Let him go you been talking to him for so long. Just the thought of it makes me want to vomit. I am sorry I sound so rude but I can't deal with that.
Omg he has to learn good hygeine I don't know why you're still with him. Seriously too lazy to take a 5 minute shower? Wtf get him deodorant, and make him take a shower if you have to... Someone's gotta teach him, or tell his mother about it.
take a shower with him from here on now
How long has this been bothering you? For two years? I'm sorry but if I started dating someone and discovered that they had bad hygiene, that'd be a deal breaker
The reason why he smells is because of what he eats.
Kick his ass that is gross
LOL!
Does he not work? Like wth dude people can smell your stink. I sometimes take 2 showers a day.
He has a huge problem! He needs to learn to take care of himself!
That's absolutely disgusting I could never be with anyone like that, I couldn't even be their friend. You have to either have a serious talk with him or leave him, because that is just gross.
Oh hell no...
Scientifically a person can go without a shower for one-two days. Three-four days is too much.
Please talk to him about it. As a grown man he should know better... :\
Opposite day
Talk to the doctor he might have a huge problem
Just tell him to take better care of himself, tell him it's important to you and if he can't respect that then he probably isn't the guy for you
Dump him already
You're clearly allowing him to get away with it, so of course he's not showering. You're not acting like a mom telling him to shower, you're acting like a bad mom who lets him walk all over you. Leave him.
just tell guy nicely I'm sure he will change
Slap him and break up with him.
Your boy is nasty
lol so weird, i smell my own balls from time to time and if it smells bad i wash myself.