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Sexual Health I love my boyfriend but he has bad hygiene, what can I do?
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I love my boyfriend and I've been with him for 2 years. I need to rant that he has bad hygiene. Problem, he doesn't think so. Living with him made me realize how dirty this man is :( I spoke to him couple times regarding his hygiene but he doesn't agree with me. He just don't think he has bad hygiene. Shower is a big problem with him. He is always too lazy to shower. If he doesn't go out, he doesn't shower. He can go on without shower for 3-4 days. He has body odor and I have to admit it's a bad one. If he doesn't shower for 1 day, he already smells like armpit and feet. He also loves to wear a thick sweater indoor and make himself sweat. The entire sweater smells like strong body odor and it is gross. But, he can wear it for a whole week without washing. His balls and penis also smells like it hasn't been clean for days! At that point, I avoid being next to him. It makes me angry that it turns me off! The worst is, when I ask him to shower, he refused to. Once, I had to yell at him saying that "you smell like complete s*** & you stink! How is it fair that you want me to smell your body odour!! I don't even want to be near you. It makes me disgusted!" Then, he immediately shower. He works outdoor and doesn't shower after work. He change to his pajamas thinking he is clean. There's so many dust and germs and on top of that, he is full of dry sweat. He doesn't even shower after going to the gym or going to a beach. That is why I don't like going to the beach with him. He comes home and hop to bed with his feet black and his body full of sand! Disgusting! Once, I forced him to shower after working out! But he did not use any bodywash & just rinsk with water! I really don't get it. Also, he only brush his teeth once a day in the morning. If he doesn't have work or don't need to go out, he can live without brushing his teeth for "days"! Help! I love him but his hygiene is terrifying! It takes him 5 minutes to shower and 3 minutes to brush his teeth! I don't get it!
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I have to add that he can shower and, wear the dirty clothes again! :(
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What makes me angry is he keep on anticipating that he is not dirty and that I am being ridiculous.
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What Girls & Guys Said
38 49Leave him.
Knock him out and give him a shower, lol
Or soak him in a bathtub, that might be a better idea, lolol
Hahaha!
" Also, he only brush his teeth once a day in the morning. If he doesn't have work or don't need to go out, he can live without brushing his teeth for "days"! " You are exaggerating in this situation probably. How do you know him that he doesn't brush his teeth? Maybe he brush his teeth 2 times per a day.
They live together so...
threaten him : you don't change your hygiene, no sex
he will change overnight ! xD
Cut him off sexually. He'll shower.
Dafuq? I can't even go showering one day because it ruins my luscious hair so that's really gross
Bye...
Eww. That's so gross! 😷 My boyfriend is kinda a pig & im a neat freak. Every time I came over his house crap was all over the floor bed was never made up. It was just gross, but I put a stop to it & told him look dude, you need to clean your room or Imma stop coming over here. Now every time I come over things are really neat bed made up I'm not tripping over anything. It took me like three or four times to tell him before it got to him.
Ewwww! I'm sorry but that's sick I could never be with someone like this I'm really big on hygiene!!! I don't know either leave him or except it.
The horror. Mine is a bit like that (nowhere near as bad) and i make him smell his shirt, then he realizes he needs a shower and if he doesn't i nag nag nag untill he has one. None has to live with this levels of filth
When he falls asleep empty a box of Arm & Hammer baking soda on his ball sack.
Does he have any mental health issues?
And... Why do you stay? I once dated a guy who chewed his toenails. Nice guy but not for me... bounced within 2 weeks.
Does he drink a lot or smoke a lot of pot? I'm just wondering if that is making him lazy. // You are right, wow his hygiene is awful.
Sounds like a shtty boyfriend
having your balls scorched by a hot flat iron will show him that showering is a good idea
Offer to shower with him?
It's funny... going to the club wearing suits, ties nice cologne and being a particularly neat guy in general... I always see women dating the least hygienic men out there. You did this to yourself. Deal with it.
who does his laundry?
when do you have sex with him?
do you live with him?
I do the laundry! yes we live together and we do have sex when he is clean.
I don't think i can put up with this. makes me feel like i am living with a homeless person. can you move out and live with someone till things change? unless you are okay with it.