I’m a virgin and I want to have sex really badly with my boyfriend but I’m very shy and not sure how to tell him?

[Helppleasemaybe]

Im always thinking about what sex with him would be like. And not only am I horny often, but I also feel a lot of curiousity about what it feels like to have sex, and I’ve been fantasizing about it for a long time. It will be our 3 months together and this Friday he already invited me to his room to give me oral and I didn’t come probably because what I really wanted was for him to be inside me last time I asked him if he had a condom and he didn’t so I will probably need to tell him to buy it too. I might have made a mistake like two weeks ago I told him that I wanted to wait a few months to actually have sex but now I changed my mind because I've been wanting it for so long and I know that he is the right guy

[bluehen46]

It sounds like he is respectable and that is good. You are a bit young i say that as i waited until i was 19. Many girls get off on being ate out. Does it seem like he knows what he is doing? Much of it can be touching and carressing. i personally like to lick around a girls legs and stuff with kissing and blowing and then start licking maybe a finger inside and such. Whatever he does unlike men for some reason it seems when women are close going faster does not help and can throw it off.

Now do you love this guy and vice versa or do you figure its a here an now? Your virginity is a gift and you want to ensure a guy is worthy and yes i am old fashioned and a bit mushy.

You could get some ideas from porn but google porn for women as much of it is more tasteful as most porn is about fantasy and really is just not realistic. or google romantic sex and maybe that will show you more loving and intimate example.

Make sure you have condoms they are not that expensive and when you said room did you mean college? I know often you can get them free. They can be expensive, but I think target it the travel section where they have like travel size shampoo and shave gel they were like 2.99 for 3 of them. Make sure you know how to use them

I once had a girl give me a box in it that had a piece of paper that said I want to try to swallow as in she was ready to try it. It was hot and we did the normal and she swallowed.

[Helppleasemaybe]

I love him so much and he is always talking about how he knows that I’m the girl that he’s going to marry. I hope that that actually comes true.

[Orangeandturquoise]

You should just tell him you made a mistake in telling him you wanted to wait "so long". He'll understand. And if he's a kind person (which I'm assuming he is) he'll actually appreciate you saying that and he'll be more than welcome to try going at it for the first time. :)

[Helppleasemaybe]

Im scared that he will lose interest in me

[Helppleasemaybe]

If I tell him that I want to have sex with him

[Orangeandturquoise]

Don't need to plan it like "oh it should be one day ahead" but just tell him whenever you feel it's right. But of course say it in enough time so he can buy a condom :)

[Helppleasemaybe]

Like I should text him “ i think I’m ready”?

[Orangeandturquoise]

@helppleasemaybe he won't. I mean not if he's equally interested in having sex as you are. And if he's not a dick. I mean, I'm just assuming he's a good guy from what you've said so I'm assuming he'll not be turned off

[Helppleasemaybe]

He is a very sweet guy to me. I’ve been wanting sex for the longest but I’ve never said anything out of fear

[Orangeandturquoise]

Don't fear that. Really. If you're in a healthy relationship, you *should* be open to talk about this freely with him without judgement. Breathe girl. You're both humans. :)

[Orangeandturquoise]

And yeah, tell him "I think I'm ready to take the step"

[sejla]

Remember being mature enough to have sex means you have to be willing to have open conversations with your partner. A lot of people don't communicate about sex well. I mean people of all ages.

I think you need to get your birth control set up. Just using a condom isn't really a 100% plan. You need either a second form of birth control like pills or spermicide. It takes a full month pill pack to be protected taking them every day. Until then you could either wait and do other stuff or use the condom with a spermicide.

Also, if he has had sex before you probably need to ask him for some labs. You don't want to catch something the very first time you have sex.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Tell him the truth in person

[Gwenhwyfar]

Then plan to do it the next time

[Helppleasemaybe]

He will be coming to my parent’s house this week lol so we won’t be able to do anything because my parents are always walking around but should I still tell him so he’s ready a week before I go to his house?

[Gwenhwyfar]

Yes! Defo tell him.

[AustinMan]

Kind of a mess. What would you think about getting on birth control first since you're clearly gonna blow through the condoms once you get started.

[RetroAlpha]

If I was a young woman, I guess I would try to plan on my protection.

1. Morning After pill
2. Condom

Then on the day I was going to his place to chill, I would trim up the hedges, and shower. When you get to his place, chill for a bit. If he gets handsy, tell him you wanna shower first (you see, the 1st shower already made sure you're all shiny and whatnot). Take off some or all of your clothes and walk away from him.

If he doesn't follow you, his dick is missing.

[bluehen46]

Also supposedly warn bath or shower are not a good idea when you are trying to have kids. So in theory it can't hurt if you are not ready.

[RetroAlpha]

@bluehen46 yeah, hot water is bad for testicular health... Not sure about women.

[RasmusAiken]

Don't just expect it to happen. Tell him you want to have sex. Then talk about what that means in terms of emotional bonding (you want the intimacy) as well as birth control issues.

[integrale77]

Just text him telling him that you think you want to take thing to the next level and to get some condoms in for next time you meet up

[Elliegirl]

Tell him you’re ready and want to in person and bring your own condoms just in case he didn’t get any.

[DrippingHoney]

I think asking him if he had a condom should have given him the clue. Maybe ask him by text before you go to his house if he got condoms yet. I'd that doesn't get him to try, maybe he's not ready for sex yet.

[TadCurious]

Have you thought about getting on birth control first to be really safe about pregnancy? And still use condoms as well for safety from STIs?

[Helppleasemaybe]

Just condoms only because a lot of women get pregnant with birth control

[Helppleasemaybe]

If he doesn’t use a condom I will not have sex with him

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

As long as you know he is the right guy, there are a lot ways to take away
your horny feelings without having cock inside you, once he buries it deep
inside your going lay there staring into space as he fucks the shit out you
after that, your pussy will throb and cum and orgasm

[Drumlin2001]

Buy some condoms yourself. Get them out when you get there, he should get the hint

[Helppleasemaybe]

I can’t because I can’t drive and my parents are always with me everywhere they also can’t find out that I’m going to have sex because that will be a problem

[Drumlin2001]

You're not allowed out on your own?

[Drumlin2001]

You're an adult

[magiusX26]

you can get the condoms instead. better if you do because that way you know they are there.

[Helppleasemaybe]

I can’t because my parents are always with me

[Helppleasemaybe]

And me wanting to have sex has to be a secret I come from a strict family

[AmeerX]

Just have it without condom

[SenseiSeptred]

I would say just give him a blowjob and swallow his load and go from there without condoms.

[Helppleasemaybe]

I already did but I want to experience sex for the first time

[SenseiSeptred]

Okay with the idea of full penetration, please don't be surprised if you bleed a good amount from your calita due to him not getting it that far up in there depending on how big his shaft is. However how did his load taste because some guys don't taste that good to women even when they are in a long term relationship with them? What I mentioned before is you maybe being in pain after your hymen breaking, and it is not always the best feeling that can happen to you.

[Helppleasemaybe]

My hymen broke a little while doing oral

[SenseiSeptred]

A bicycle could have done it too.

[COMMODOREII]

Maybe you should to at least be ready.

[Twalli]

Tell him you're ready now. My plan before I started dating my girlfriend was 1 year, I halved it with the first month to 6 months. When you are ready, you're ready.

[BoxySama]

You should go all out and get it in in these situations going on there in division will give you great experience
I know you are a shy little girl you are going to play by the safe sex rules so have fun with it and to stop being so anxious

[In_Trance]

Maybe you don't tell him and you just start messin around with him

[bananathunder]

A simple text will work. I'm sure he wants it too

[mrgspoter]

Tell him, if it's what u want and you know he's good to you.

[mrgspoter]

Talk is always best to much gets lost with text n words typed.

[TheAfrikan]

Try playing mind Cameron him, unleas that freaking sexy beast in you.
Sit on his laps, look him in eye lick his neck and ears. Trust me you can turn him on, if you are to add up some crazy traps spice it up.

[Yellovv]

İf you are Virgin normal for you think sex..