I'm pretty sure my boyfriend is selfish in bed, how can I change this and why is he like this?
So, first, I'd just like to say that I'm serious with the guy, I don't want to break up because of this.
So, we've been together 3 months and are having sex, his first time, but not mine. We normally have sex once every 3 days, though I make him cum about 5/day, I tease him, handjobs, blowjobs, footjobs & swallow, but he doesn't give anything back, for days at a time. Even when we have sex, I don't get foreplay (well he does, but I don't), and he doesn't worry about if I came or not and only practises 2 positions: me on top & doggy style, though I've mentioned that I love missionary. I get that with no experience it's hard, but still. We have literally never tried anything else.
He knows me though, he knows that my hotspots, so he'll touch me for like 5s and then do nothing and just wait for me to do the usual procedure: tease, blowjob, handjob, swallow. And that's it. I want sex just as much as him so why am I the only one pleasuring him?
When I had my period though, he was like "it's sad for you, because I can't even pleasure you or anything", yet as soon as I got off my period, he didn't do anything. He also said once "In a way, it's relieving when you have your period, because sex is so tiring, and I know I don't have to have sex, I can just go to bed". Something like that. He also sometimes complains, like if I tease for too long or something, he'll say "I'm getting bored", in a joking voice, but it's kind of offensive.
I don't initiate sex much, because I'm really bad with rejection (BPD). He said no once, because he was tired, so I never asked again.
So yeah, I'd rather not be teased and then just left frustrated as soon as he's done. I come super easily too so he doesn't even need to do much! I don't want to be passive aggressive (which is soooo me) and something needs to be done so a) what do you think? and b) how should I change the situation?
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