I masturbated in front of my new boyfriend and he didn’t like it. Did I do something wrong?

[Anonymous]

So the plan was that’d I’d take care of some business and then head over to his place afterwards (which, earlier in the day, it was mutually implied that we’d be having sex).

My business took me longer than I thought tho, so when I got to his place he was already too tired to do anything. He apologized, and I said it was fine. But, I was dissapointed (and also very horny from thinking about it all day), so I told him I couldn’t quite go to sleep. After that I proceeed to masturbate myself beside him until I got off.

Afterwards, he acted like it was weird and gross (or maybe offensive, I couldn’t tell?)... Did I do something wrong? Was it too early to do that beside someone I’d only been dating for a month? I feel really embarresed now. Should I be?

[Roooni]

Mainly cause he's not in your head so he doesn't know what are you getting off about in your imagination and it also kinda made him feel he was weak cause he was just tired and not capable of doing it.. while you didn't care and proceeded to do it without him.
1 month is early to feel that comfortable. You still don't know how he thinks ! Its actually even early to sleep at his place but anyways your life.

[Love2Jackit]

No he shouldn't be prude. Better yet he should have joined in. Any woman going 2 take the time 2 masturbate with me around. U bet ur ass i am going 2 do the same. If he says any more about it. Then go find somebody. Who appreciates u.

[Agirlcalledkill]

Maybe he got upset because you didn’t ask him to do it for you... I don’t know, if I was with my boyfriend I didn’t want to have sex and he begins to jerk off right next to me without telling me anything I would think it’s pretty awkward. At least ask me to help you out, if I say no then it’s okay, but he could also go to another room... I don’t know it seems awkward to me

[Anonymous]

Maybe he felt bad that he couldn’t help you out/please you. I think a lot of guys like to help because it’s a way of showing care and his competence. Maybe he was caught off guard that you really needed release and he felt left out but couldn’t do anything?
All guesses here, but I’d let it go. If it bothers you, you can always talk to him.

[PrudentGuy]

Of course not. That's how you relieved yourself. Who is he to judge? If he doesn't like then close his eyes or ask you to excuse yourself.

[Red_Arrow]

He just was not used to women doing that. Others would be fine with it. In fact, seeing you do that might wake me up enough to be able to jump it.
You did nothing wrong, but you probably need to learn how his mind operates.

[ArrowheadSW]

Well don't be embarrassed. My take is that he just hasn't reached the point in life yet where he is open to that sort of thing.

[Anome]

Your guy there probably feels he failed.
You did not do anything wrong.

[Cammy137]

Maybe he was just huffy that you'd taken so long and he'd been horny as well, but became too tired and frustrated.

[wankiam]

you did nothing wrong

[Grobmate]

He gay

[Dargil]

Did I do something wrong?
*No
Was it too early to do that beside someone I’d only been dating for a month?
*If you are already fully sexual, NO.
I feel really embarrassed now. Should I be?
*No, not if you are going to be open sexually,
My guess is that be felt inadequate. Even if I were too tired to do anything, I would have watched while you did it. Sometimes the spirit is strong but the body is weak, and it is NOT a reflection of our manhood.

[EroticArab]

I don't think you did anything wrong. You were being spontaneous and that is fun. He is probably jealous in a weird way, because you were satisfied and he wasn't. It isn't rational, of course, and I might be mistaken...

[Shields0509]

Fuck no you didn't do anything if anybody did wrong its him cuz he should have a. enjoyed watching you and b. Took over and finished the job for you!!! I sure would have in heartbeat cuz that shit turns me on

[Drumlin2001]

You should probably have talked to him before doing it.
Personally i wouldn't mind, would find it rather hot. But people have different values

[dublin_sexyeyes0]

You did nothing wrong at all. If he's that insecure about such a small part of sex then he needs to seriously look at himself. My last girlfriend would wank herself a lot during the night from day one. No issues at all therem

[Giggletr0n]

Some people find it awkward, I am one of those people

[No_Archons]

I think he wanted you to save it for him

[Dhanushan]

Yes, It's a little wrong behavior. If you at a ice-cream shop and the other person enjoying the ice-cream without you because you have cold will you accept this? How will you feel. Think this at the same point of view. You should've help him to get relax. Relationship is not about the sex only. It is about the love and caring also. He went to masturbate because he is too tired and he can't fuck you. This is bad. You should've do it after he fell asleep.

[markcrums101]

Sounds like he's a dick, if he's not getting you off then he shouldn't be upset if you get yourself off and what kind of guy doesn't like his girlfriend masterbating around him?😂

[adamski24]

You didn't do anything wrong it's perfectly fine to that.

[machismo69]

Unfortunately, it's just that you it beside the wrong guy. Don't think about it too much. You did nothing wrong.

[loveboye]

Why should a guy feel it gross it's every guy's dream.

[Valnac]

You did nothing wrong.
I think you better check him for a pulse.
If doing that turns him off, then shame on him for not paying attention to you
You should not be embarrassed, I think that was hot...