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If a girl doesn't put out by the 3rd date, would you lose interest?
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I've had 3 dates with a guy, haven't slept with him yet. At the end of the last date, he said "Talk to you soon" . It's been more than 2 weeks and still no contact. Do you think he lost interest or is he playing hard to get?
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14 40Did you try contacting him?
He definitely lost interest in you.
No, I haven't because I was the one who reached out first the last time. It took him 1-2 days to reply to my texts so that's why I don't want to reach out now
Not to be mean or anything but he ghosted you. Don't expect him to contact you, and in unlikely chance he does, don't reply because its really classless to ghost someone the way he did.
you are right... thank you!
Take care @asker. I hope you find a much better date in the future :)
Nah. It doesn't always come down to sex with guys. He might not feel a connection with you. Either way, he isn't good for you.
He is playing hard to get laid.
Granted, I got married in 1988 (~ 30 years before most of the people here were even born), but my measurement was if a girls “put out” any time before the second month, she was too promiscuous for me.
If we're looking for a serious relationship, no. If I'm looking for a fuck hole, yes.
It means she has class.
At 15;
no f'n way, I'd wait at least 3 more years after the 3rd date.
"I got my whole life to be patient as long as we get there."
At 35;
1st date,
"ummm, are we gonna do this? Cause I got a ton of shit to do and no patience for people who want to waste my time."
I would start to lose interest.
You shouldn't put out until after he's put a ring on your finger and you're in the honeymoon suite.
I second that! I would lose respect if she DID put out the third date, I mean, is your body worth what? A glass of wine, a dinner or two, ride home, and a movie?
@MackFreeze exactly, not to mention that you don't know if he's using you for sex until you're married.
Yup! And, if you two want to wait, then you are planning on getting married one day. It isn't a back and forth maybe, you just know they are looking to get married since they want to wait to have sex. So many more benefits too!
@MackFreeze you're wise, my man.
Thank you, I appreciate that! You are wise aswell!
Probs just wanted a hook up tbh
Who knows. If a girl doesn't put out by date #3, I end it,
It might be both, hard to say, psychology is always complicated. You have to understand since you know him. Have you tried messaging him? How does he behave? Does he sound cold?
I've messaged him the last time before our date but he took days to reply... that's why I don't want to message him again
You write days? I don't think he's interested. When I am interested I message often.
he lost interest
Depends
Hmmm. I think he lost interest. It could be that he wanted it on the first date. He may have been expecting
Sex on the first date? I knwo some do have but I will never do it. Why a woman has to accept to have sex on the first date just to satisfy the guy pleasure and horniness? You loose any respect left I had for you if you think like that. We dont have to give in easily
They don't. I agree with you. But it sounds like this guy did
"Giving in" sounds like you don't really want sex and only do it because the guy wants it. @kitty71
@bekkesmash By giving in is that I dotn want to give it easily isn't that what gives in means?
Why? Why does a guy have to earn sex if you truly want the sex to?
@bekkesmash If the lady does not want to have sex then what?
If she doesn't want sex at all, then the guy will leave
@bekkesmash that is why I say all guys are the same. Women can live without sex and men can't why is that? I know is important but is not the main and priority thing in LIFE. there are other more important issues to deal that only focus on the sex.
You can live without sex, are you asexual then?
@bekkesmash yes
Not many guys would put up with that.
Guys, there's no point to continue this discussion... I already got my answer, I mean that's what i think at least. He's just not interested enough to continue pursuing me. However, thank you a lot for sharing your opinion! :) I appreciate it
@bekkesmash But there are some maybe who can put up and those ar the ones I respect the ones who have patience with the lady and not use us just for sex
Wanting to have an active healthy sex life is not using a women for sex.
@bekkesmash but since im asexual i guess it will never apply to me
You're both right. There are patient men out there who can wait. But it doesn't mean he's using for sex. It's the same for a woman if she wants it but the guy is being a gentleman and does the same thing. Eventually she would lose interest and leave. That's why the saying nice guys finish last takes place.
you sound boring for me i suppose same for the guy.
Boring because I didn't put out?
yes i need pretty easy fuck.
Well u just do not want to give in eaisly what the heck is wrwong with that? Whyh men can't be more u nderstanding, we are different tan you, in our heads we dont have glued taht we have to have sex right away and fast with guys we are just getting to know each other- What is the rush geez!!
@kitty71 male works differently my dear.
I wouldn't lose interest but if something didn't start happening by the next date. I would start worrying about being friend zoned. And it doesn't have to be full sex but at least something more then just friends hanging out.
and if it is not full sex like you mention here but something more? can you elaborate what is "that somethign more " if it is not full sex
@kitty71 I just mean anything beyond friendship like heavy kissing cuddling lots of touching with clothes on. And if you are comfortable maybe some undressing and playing.
and that does nto mean sexual intercourse of course? Why some guys want to go straight to the act and some don tlike foreplay like you mention and maybe other time and future dates then when u are comfty then you can go direct why the rush?
@kitty71 I don't know about other guys, I love fore play and the excitement of the build up. Almost to the point that it is a tease for both of us.
Depends on the guy me no
No I'd be happy once i have one
Depends on if she is showing interest in me as a person or just being absent