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If a guy pays for an expensive dinner does he expect to get sex at the end of the night? Guys, do you get mad if nothing happens?
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26 146This is stupid. Sex isn't a commodity for trade. I've spent upwards to $600 on a single date and never once expected or wanted sex by the end of the evening. A man who expects and pressures for sex as a trade for his flattering and expensive night out, is a dick.
I've had a few women want to have sex after a date. Maybe because they thought thats what theyre supposed to do because of this shit they see on GAG. Honestly it was off putting and unattractive- I immediately lose my respect for them. I want a lady, not a prostitute. So I dumped them instead because I didn't feel anything. Thats kind of what dating is for- determining compatibility.
I think I speak on behalf of vast majority of men that no we do not expect sex on the same night but we do expect that if you have accepted the date then sex with us is on your mind and will take place somewhere down the line, if not now then eventually. Now sex is a value added exchange where men and women both get a chance to have fun, bond and get an orgasm, but women treat it like a value loaded exchange where the man has to compensate them.
If you accept an expensive date from a man and have no sexual intentions towards him as is the trend now and there is a name for it, "foodie dates," it's pure deception.
I don't expect sex but it's very nice if it happens.
Why should we. Confucius said, "He who expects nothing, is NEVER disappointed. I have sex at the end of a date, and many times not. What's to be angry about? Win some, lose some,
If a woman is 'attracted" to you enough to go out with you, if you fuck up the occasion enough during the evening to turn her against you, that is the guy's fault.
My last date didn't like the restaurant I choose so we went to another.
The check came to $800 not including the tip. I didn't expect (or would want sex) on the first date. (we had been talking for weeks before online)
At the end of the date she told me she was married with a child.
A kiss on the cheek and a 3 hour drive home.
No I don't get mad
I have taken girls to expensive first dinners but it has always been a token of my desire, esteem and interest in her.
Call me a simp but I don't think you can buy a girl anywhere outside of a brothel.
I think sex is the end goal for every guy taking a woman on a date.
Paying with materialistic things instead of cash is only a way to get around the "pay for sex directly is illegal".
Do I expect sex? No. Do I expect a certain courtesy? yes.
Let the guy know if you liked or not the date. Tell him if you'd like to go on another.
Don't ghost, that is the worst.
I don’t ever expect sex in return for a good dinner. I don’t like it to be so transactional.
Unless it is a special occasion I am not paying for an expensive dinner. I'm not an ATM and it is not my responsibility to feed a female. As to that sex thing, let me say this. Most of the time when the fun starts after dinner I am at home and I just made the meal. People that know me know I only really host friends at home. I have stated this many times now. A "date" for me is a hotdog and a coke! If I like you and want to spend more time I will invite you to my home. I am sorry, but I think paying for and consuming expensive meals as part of some ignorant mating ritual is just dumb!
It varies from person to person.
I'd mostly do it just to be nice and because it's what expected of a guy on a date but, I would at LEAST expect to spend some time with her, in hopes of winning her over, if I haven't already and a hug and at least one nice kiss at the end of the night. Even if it's meant to be just a friendly goodnight kiss.
Other than that, I did my schtick, now it's up to her to decide if she likes what she found in me and wants more. If not, I MAY try something else to win her over but I CERTAINLY DON'T expect a girl to fuck me on a first date! If she does, GREAT! If not, okay, no big fat hairy deal! She's just not that interested.
No. When dating I never expected anything, it's great of it happens but should be because both parties are into it not because one feels obligated
This situation is only problematic if the woman is entitled enough to think she deserves the most expensive date or the an arrogant enough to think hot wallet can arose the ladies.
In case 1, the woman should try to be as successful as possible in order to get ahead and live life lavishly. I'm saying this as I feel I deserve money, and I don't owe no guy any sex because he paid.
In case 2, get a prostitute, my man.
I never took a date to an expensive restaurant just to be on the safe side.
I hope for it as a best case scenario, but it's not an expectation. I wouldn't be upset if it didn't happen.
That’s not really my style. I don’t do hookups, and an expensive dinner would be a 3rd or 4th date. I would also hope that things were moving along and we were “dating” at that point. I wouldn’t expect sex in exchange for the dinner though.
This is why I prefer to go dutch on restaurant dates, especially at the start. If we see that we don't match, then no one is left feeling used. We respected each other's time and didn't expect a free meal and good time. We just went because we were interested in each other and wanted to get to know each other.
Nowadays women have the same potential to make money as men, so I don't see why we'd have to foot the bill in the first place. I think that most women don't want to give up the tradition of a free meal when being "courted" and men don't want to give up the increased chance of sex if they pay for the date.