If a guy refuses to wear a condom - do you think that seems disrespectful in any way?

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My friend just told me her and her ex (just broke up) never used condoms and she wasn't on the pill either. I said why not use condoms and she said that he hates them and won't wear them. He said "I feel like I could be having sex with anyone" when he wears them. I don't know maybe it's just me but I feel like that shows he doesn't respect what she wants and only wants to get off. Girls how would you feel if your boyfriend said that?

IwanderIwonder · Accepted Answer

It's a 2 way street.
She wasn't on the pill.
He didn't want to wear condoms for his own reasons (a lot of people have their reasons why they choose to or choose not to).
A good and healthy relationship begins with honest communication.
If she truly wanted him to wear a condom, she should have made it clear and at the least they would have come to a compromise. She didn't need to have sex with him. There's the popular"no glove, no love" saying, among others.
I'm not saying he's right, or that she is. I'm just saying it takes 2 to tango.
She wanted him to wear condoms, he didn't want to wear them, but they did have sex. It doesn't sound like he forced her, it just sounds like he stuck to his own choice and she accepted it without putting her own preference on the table. Like I've already stated, there's something called Compromise AKA meeting at the middle. There's also, Holding Out.

There's no lack of respect here, not that I can see.

AdamThomas · Accepted Answer

It is disrespectful and irresponsible, however, was she forced to have sex with him after he refused to wrap up? Or did she have the choice to say no and leave? She was just as irresponsible as he was for allowing him to have sex with her without any protection and risk unwanted pregnancy.

vonasaurus · Accepted Answer

it depends; we (hubs & i) don't use condoms. but, when our relationship was new, i insisted on them... even though he didn't like wearing them, he did it out of respect for me.

in my previous relationship, i'd been on bc pills and the side effects were absolutely horrible. couldn't pay me to go back on them.

Alwaysthere85 · Accepted Answer

if the two people have gotten tested and they're in a monogamous relationship... why not? It's not disrespectful unless either party refuses to get tested for STDs. As far as an unwanted pregnancy, she could have easily gotten on the pill or gotten a shot if she was so concerned.

_lauren_ · Accepted Answer

If my boyfriend said that, then he wouldn't be my boyfriend anymore. I think it's a respect thing simplyou cause a lack of a condom can affect my health, and it shows he doesn't care enough about my health or my comfort to wear a condom.

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

Him: "I refuse to wear a condom!" Me: "I refuse to have sex with you." Him: "DAMN IT!"

NotInTheBox · Answer

The side effects of a condom are...

temporarily feeling less and having a less sensitive penis

The side effects of birth control are

NauseaWeight gainSore or swollen breastsSmall amounts of blood, or spotting, between periodsLighter periodsMood changes

just to name a few

where a condom

kiradavis · Answer

Sounds like they're both pretty stupid.

Malikai96 · Answer

Very, he has no regard for your health or even his own.

Klajdi98 · Answer

Risks: 1. AIDS/HIV 2. Random Childs 3. Problems for other type of infections, like inflammations and stuff like that

PoliceLivesMatter · Answer

That is not only disrespectful but extremely hazardous. Now I know why the majority of abortions are caused by irresponsible behavior... unless you're trying to have a baby or want to increase your chances at a disease, don't wear a condom.

DamonGill · Answer

no it isn't... you're basically saying he should be forced into doing something he doesn't want to do? at the end of the day your friend still had sex with him so shows she didn't really care too much anyway.

look at it in reverse. say he wanted the girl to have an implant or take the pill, and she didn't would that be disrespectful? no because its her body and her choice.

either could always say no to the sex if it meant that much to them.

natannq · Answer

I would send him to hell. he is being selfish so he is not into u

Rissyanne · Answer

She still had sex with him. If wanted a guy to wear a condom and he wouldn't... I wouldn't have sex with him

Kaylyne · Answer

Totally disrespectful. And how lucky your friend has been in not falling pregnant.

Paultripps · Answer

He wants to. o have sex. For many many many guys they can't get or stay hard wearing a condom. It's why guys don't want to wear them. Not a lack of respect...

DonkeyRick69 · Answer

Nah I get where he's coming from. Condoms desensitize making sex crap.

MatsubuS · Answer

No it probably means he just want to go all in to feel your insides as he should or whatever

tyber1 · Answer

That sounds really stupid on their part. She is really lucky he didn't get her pregnant.

jacquesvol · Answer

It does not seem disrespectful. It IS disrespectful !

es20490446e · Answer

He's stupid.

Texasmade1 · Answer

If you are not planning on having kids, then he should wear it, unless he doesn't know how biology works.

Sluthater · Answer

If I were a girl there is no way I am spreading my legs for him. He can eat at the Y and settle for a handjob. Or better yet, leave.

naraku · Answer

Very disrespectful. Pregnancy , disease , both !  plus a basic act of selfishness just to make it that much better.

axypher · Answer

Disrespectful and an idiot. Also, you don't want to risk getting impregnated by a jerk so should've broken up long ago

Justinaveragedude · Answer

No glove, no love. Besides, why not protect every one involved? He is a dick and not worth letting him use it.

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