True love is quite powerful. When someone loves another so much - beyond what's inside their underwear, I think most people would stay.
If I love him i’d stick around. Love is so much more than just sexual needs.
Well said, also marriage is sacred, god will make the man and his wife become one and starts a family together... Sex is very important! But the presence of my. future housewife is a lot more important than that, which means if there will be no sex well i still have her! You can hug, you can kiss and touch, have fun together and always be there for each other...
Sounds good on paper, easy to say love is more than sexual needs, but id love to see you go without sex for 5 years. Tell me how it goes
@pocketman 7 years without sex! Also will never have it before marriage! 😏
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!People who leave because there's no sex of people who never loved you at all. They're only with you for the sex. I'm tired especially on the men's side saying they don't just want sex no one done well that's exactly what it is. Because once that's off the table then go elsewhere anyway. A person that loves you would love you whether you can or can't. That's how you know. Selfish people don't make great Partners. They'll just make you miserable and then blame you for something that they already said they wanted to participate in. If you know you're not going to love the person just be honest. If I say I love the person than that shouldn't have to matter. I know better to get married before deciding to have sex. Even if that's no longer possible. I made a vow to stay with that person forever. Therefore I know better to honor my vows otherwise I'm a hypocrite, and I'm only not bringing myself on happiness but the other as well. This is why I'm glad I never bought it with people on that level. They are not prepared for anything serious.
Some of the replies here are mind blowing. I had gotten hurt at work a while ago, so I am out of commission for possibly another year. I know what turns my wife on the most, which happens to be when she is in or on something that shakes quite a lot. So I bought her a car that they claimed had the shakiest engine ever put in a car. It does indeed shake so badly that it is awkward in a drive through to sit and wait for food. They clearly see the whole car shaking and also see it shaking you lol. For inside the house, one of those vibration machines for exercising. Doing her thing, while sitting on that replaced me she said lol
Depends on how long we've been together and how deep the commitment. If we could still make out, do oral, hand jobs or for him to do me with vibrators, I probably could stay. Again depends on the level of commitment we already had before that situation surfaced. If there wasn't any interaction whatsoever, maybe I could try having casual sex but staying romantic with him but honestly I don't see that working long-term.
I'd stay.
Be the ideal relationship not being a cumdumpster for a dude and him actually being with me for me not for using my body.
I think your mind is properly oriented bambolinababy
I feel like I'd miss the sex but it's not like there wouldn't be other ways to get off with each other. This is also assuming that I was in the relationship before the problem came up. Like for example, E. D. doesn't mean you couldn't use toys or you mouth on your partner is just means you can't get an erection. I will say however, in a horrible situation like being badly burned, becoming a quadriplegic, having severe brain damage, etc. means any sort of sexy stuff is most likely off the table. It would honestly be VERY hard regardless of the sex because even though your partner survived you kind of loose a piece of them.
Regarding the update, Someone doesn't just randomly one day decide they don't want to have sex again, they not really a casual thing to decide. If you're making that decision it's most likely because of a problem.
Yes because I like hanging out and talking with him.
He sees it differently though. He thinks then the two people are just roommates. I disagree.
I think men see not having sex as more of a loss to their life.
Many females think guys are objectifying them by wanting sex, and some are, but for a lot of other guys they bond through sex and think without it, they're not connected like they should be.
Nope, I'd leave.
My ex had some dysfunction due to his depression meds. He never addressed it. Just complained we never had sex, then when I made time for it and initiated, he'd just wanna play on his computer. And then when he finally did have sex, it literally took hours for him to cum and I would be so bored and near pain even with tons of lube.
Plus he couldn't be a dom to save his fucking life.
A healthy sex life and a good sense of sexual compatibility are important for me.
So your ex could be erected for very long , he didn't orgasm and cum while you orgasmed and he still continued penetrating you for his orgasm hence it was painful for you?
No, he took 3 hours for him to cum. I had already had two plus orgasms. Honestly, I was worried about him. It is not normal for a dude to be hard for that long, or not to cum after that much stimulation. We had had many talks about side effects of his meds - both of us had friends who had similar troubles, but shopped around (with doctor's guidance) to find alternatives that addressed their depression while still allowing for a fulfilling sex life. It was painful because penetrative sex for three hours of continuous thrusting is uncomfortable. For me definitely, but also for him. Honestly, tho, dude had one move: thrust. And two positions: missionary or doggy. When we started dating, he said he wasn't vanilla. He definitely thought doggy was enough to be considered not vanilla, whereas I'm the "choke me, use a riding crop, and send me to subspace" kind of kinky.
What about sex toys? Not the real thing but can give you orgasm.
I know it wouldn’t work out I’m so hyper sexual but at the same time I know my husbands mind works the same way. So as I see it regardless of one of us had a physical defect we would figure things out. We both have the same mind no matter what physical things changed it would never effect our minds to pleasure each other one way or another!
Cuddle and Kiss. xx
Would you expect and prefer nudity or fully clothed?
@aieeazumui Whatever he wants. lolxx
I like this opinion. Even if you masturbate alone when sex isn't possible cuddling and kissing is something both can do together.
Is it temporary phase? I would wait. Masturbate to satisfy myself.
Is it a permanent thing? I would let her know, take her into confidence and then do it with others.. just casual.. but won't leave her.
I guess it depends on the relationship, for me penetration by a penis is most pleasurable, if he could no longer do that then it would be a major blow to us physically, could I live w a strap on? I dunno are we married, do we have kids? Would we have an open marriage... lol I'm not really a believer in the open thing but if he had some medical issue and we had a family and still was deeply in love w him it would b a lot to consider
You'd want him to use a strap on or you mean you'd go with a female who uses strap on for you?
@aieeazumui I'm saying in general if we had to use toys cuz he can't keep up
If he is still willing to please me in some other senses and ways then i won't leave him because that isn't his fault he has a medical condition. I mean yeah no sex would suck but there are other ways to pleasure your partner and orgasm besides sex like eating out, fingering, toys, etc. I think id only feel concerned if we didn't have a child yet how we'd gonna make that happen without intercourse which would suck.. but if you love a person nothing will take you away from them.
But what if he doesn't feel aroused enough to want to put his mouth or hand on/around the genitals of a woman?
I really am not sure... it may become a problem if he can't please me in any way. Im not saying sexual things are everything but my love language is physical touch and intimacy is a way i like to bond with a partner.
He is okay and willing to give clothed hugs and cuddles, that's enough?
Yes. I don't desire sex all that much, but love and intimacy. Besides, it's not like I'm getting any right now, anyway. (When was the last time I even got laid? Early 2019, maybe?)
A couple that loves each other stays together.
Here's my thought, as I will share what I am experiencing. Yes, if sex was totally out if the question and not being part of the relationship, that wouldn't matter to me at all... although I do like sex, I use to LOVE it,. but due to some medical reasons, having sex is a bit painful at times. Another point is that my relationship of 18 years is a bit complicated now, last 6 years wasn't pleasant, as verbal, mental abuse came in to play when the Narsicism reached its peak and my boyfriend just became so disrespectful, and when he. wanted sex, it's on his terms, what he wants to do etc. Although we. both share the same passion, want to explore our fantasies and he does make me feel like the most special person, and he kisses the ground that I walk on... but that is only short lived, and after our "play session", wich mostly consists of foreplay, roleplay and talking dirty (wich I will. get to why), then it's as if nothing happened, or he goes on about his own thing, not giving me that "after care" (like sending me a sweet message or coming home. and just be that extra loveable, like we use to). All of this just makes me. wanna block. off sex (mentally), cause of the way he makes me feel. We have had talks about this, how it makes me. feel. when he. does this,. and then its as if it falls onto deaf ears. And I think that. is why i/we are more and more open to having. threesomes (still to be fullfiled) talking to people on line. etc, and that maybe isn't a "healthy relationship", BUT that being said, if we never have sex, it really wouldn't bother me at all, because at the end of the day, all I care about, is to have the feeling of being loved, being respected. Just cuddling at. nights, are more intimate than sex itself
Forgetting a lack of sex, the abuse is way out of line and should be a killer. Why do you put up with that?
@Red_Arrow the funny thing is you don't even. notice it or are so use to. this... its like normal... and also I guess I have a "thicke" skin... lol
I cannot understand how a person can treat another like that. But even more, I cannot understand how the abused one can put up with it. There is no reason you should have to have a thick skin. And obviously you do notice it because you described it in detail. And how can you get the feeling of being loved when you see the evidence of just the opposite? Even if you have someone else to give you the sex, how do you stand the lack of real caring.
It would suck but I'd stick with it. I would have to masturbate a lot more and maybe buy a fleshlight (male sex toy) I would see if I could still get handjobs or blowjobs from her if actual sex was not going to work.
If I'm really into a guy, I will find a way to fulfill my sexual urges, it's not an end all for me.
Looks like sex is the only reason for being in a relationship for many.
Masturbation? Am i correct?
I hope to never find myself in that situation in the first place, it might lead to a end of relationship, anyway I am not going to do romantic stuff with her, if I would become a monk then I would go all the way with it, and the romantic stuff is a teasing, it just make it harder.
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As for the update, no medical problem? it makes the choice much easier, I would likely leave her.
Knock on wood if he stopped desiring me sexually that would definitely be a problem
It’s been 26 years and I know that in 20 more sex won’t be on the cards... anyone who is looking to build a lifetime commitment needs to be willing to love above all else.
Yeah, but there's also no sex until then? Or even before that? That's a whole different story then.
There’s also always been masturbation 🤷♀️ And sensual relationships don’t have to contain sex. If your worried you won’t orgasm for 20 years then that would be scary... but that’s not a thing.
Well okay, if sex isn't important to you, sure. But I hope you do understand that for a lot, or most people it is and they aren't happy without it in the long run. I mean, everybody's different. If your sexless marriage makes you happy, more power to you. But that definitely isn't something that would make everybody happy and that's just as legitimate.
But we both have mouths and hand to make the other cum
But what if he doesn't feel aroused enough to want to put his mouth or hand on/around the genitals of a woman?
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