If you are paying for a date, what do you expect in return?
OlderAndWiserEditor
Some of the maneuvering that occurs about "who pays for the date?" is based on the fact that some women have had experiences with some guys during which the guy clearly expected to be "repaid" with some form of sexual behavior at the end of the date. But not all guys are like that. I'm looking for a long term partner, not a girl who will have sex with any guy who buys her a meal. So, if you are paying for the meal, or the movie, or whatever activity you have planned, what do you expect (not just hope for, but EXPECT) in return from your date?
Respond anonymously if you wish, but please be brutally honest.
I only expect my partner to show up for the date and participate in whatever is planned.
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I expect my partner to show up for the date, participate in whatever is planned, and pay attention to me.
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I expect my partner to be open to the possibility of a romantic relationship, to consider the idea of dating.
Vote C
I expect (not just hope for, but EXPECT) my partner to show some affection by holding hands.
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I expect (not just hope for, but EXPECT) my partner to show some affection by giving me a goodnight kiss.
Vote E
I expect (not just hope for, but EXPECT) my partner to show some affection by engaging in a "make out" session: passionate kissing, groping, fondling each other, but we remain fully clothed.
Vote F
I expect (not just hope for, but EXPECT) my partner to show some affection by having sex (hand job, oral, PIV, or anal sex.)
Participation and attention would be nice. It puts me off when I meet someone and all they do is stare at their damn phones
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douride2Master
+1 y
I would expect nothing more them him giving me his total attention. Leave your phone off or let it go to voicemail.
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genericname85Master
+1 y
i don't wanna seem edgy but i don't pay for dates. i'm looking for an equal partner who will pull their own weight... and a partner who's meal i have to pay is not equal to me.
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Dchrls78104Master
+1 y
A date!
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Pete671Guru
+1 y
First date I presume, it's a bit like a job interview, a get to know each other thing, I wouldn't expect anything, be nice to be offered a hug though,,,
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bamesjond0069Guru
+1 y
I think this whole "i ordered lobster so i have to put out" is something girls made up as an excuse to be a slut and rationalize it. Its not a real thing as far as men are concerned and is strictly female fantasy.
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AlongCameCindyXper 7
+1 y
Right? i think if someone expects something in return they may as well go get a escort. Its a date, not you HAVE to fancy me or hook up with me in return, thats not what a date is for, unless you make your intentions clear you want only sex anyone who thinks paying for a date gives them some sort of entitlement is wrong.
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OlderAndWiser
+1 y
I don't really expect any guys to respond and admit that but I have heard it from enough ladies to believe that such Neanderthal guys exist.
Jack9949Explorer
+1 y
Yeah. I don’t get why those guys expect sex just for buying a meal. In what world does that make rational sense?
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Anonymous
+1 y
Expecting something in return is kinda dumb. My mom doesn't expect sex just because she pays for my dinner
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9 24Participation and attention would be nice. It puts me off when I meet someone and all they do is stare at their damn phones
I would expect nothing more them him giving me his total attention. Leave your phone off or let it go to voicemail.
i don't wanna seem edgy but i don't pay for dates. i'm looking for an equal partner who will pull their own weight... and a partner who's meal i have to pay is not equal to me.
A date!
First date I presume, it's a bit like a job interview, a get to know each other thing, I wouldn't expect anything, be nice to be offered a hug though,,,
I think this whole "i ordered lobster so i have to put out" is something girls made up as an excuse to be a slut and rationalize it. Its not a real thing as far as men are concerned and is strictly female fantasy.
Right? i think if someone expects something in return they may as well go get a escort.
Its a date, not you HAVE to fancy me or hook up with me in return, thats not what a date is for, unless you make your intentions clear you want only sex anyone who thinks paying for a date gives them some sort of entitlement is wrong.
I don't really expect any guys to respond and admit that but I have heard it from enough ladies to believe that such Neanderthal guys exist.
Yeah. I don’t get why those guys expect sex just for buying a meal. In what world does that make rational sense?
Expecting something in return is kinda dumb. My mom doesn't expect sex just because she pays for my dinner