Tricky one. I'm alittle torned, but most likely I'd be fine with it. Everybody has a past, and even though being a cam girl might show somewhat lack of jugdement, it's also probably an experience that gave her a deeper understanding of who she is and was a good oppertunity for her to grow.
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zaharuh
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What do you mean by lack of judgement? But I'm glad you see it that way :)
bjandreassen
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From my perspective, it doesn't show the best judgement to being ok with using your own body as a "product" in this heavily digital society. Basically anything you do online has the risk of staying online, for anyone to find, download or in other possilby dangerous ways act on (stalkers hunting you down etc). So the willingness to take on such risks for short term gain seems to me like a somewhat lack of good judgement. On the other hand, I also believe in freedom of choice, and see the arguments for that those risks are negligible, and in reality it's basically just the "popular opinion" that certain professions should be labeled "unethical" or "wrong" and might not have much hold in actual reality.
zaharuh
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Yeah that was one of the reasons I quit bc of people posting things I did on other places and I couldn't take it down and the stalkers are SO scary like that gave me so much anxiety so ig that makes sense but I didn't think about all that at the time
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bjandreassen
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Yeah I can imagine! Well, everyone has a past, but I sincierly believe that a good partner should embrace all aspects of their partners past. If a part of that past makes someone insecure about the relationship, my bet is that they have insecurities themselvs and are more afraid of the opinion of others rather than their own.
zaharuh
+1 y
I like the way you put that that's so true
AviatorTomMaster
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So long as it's "in the past", I wouldn't dump her. I might even check out some of her cam sessions. Many cam girls are recorded by various websites, even though they're supposed to be live only.
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zaharuh
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That's true and some people that watch record them and post them in other places which is terrible
DargilMaster
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A cam girl is nothing more than performance art (often for a fee) If physical prostitution was not involved, yes.
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zaharuh
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Yeah some people treat those as the same thing which is crazy to me
GwenhwyfarMaster
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I would not dump her for that
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zaharuh
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there's no reason to in my opinion
Gwenhwyfar
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I totally agree
humpbackjackXper 6
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I guess it would depend on what she did on her shows but I can’t think of anything legal she could do that would run me off
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zaharuh
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I have like no clue what you mean lol
humpbackjack
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Meaning as long as nothing underage and as long as everyone consented then who cares
GoodGuyBreakingBadMaster
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It would not bother me but I would like her to be honest and she could always be a cam girl when we are in a relationship or we are married.
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zaharuh
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Seems like you are pretty open with it
GoodGuyBreakingBad
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@zaharuh Yeah, I'm open about it
zaharuh
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That's nice :)
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GoodGuyBreakingBad
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@zaharuh Thanks :)
FunkyMonkeeMaster
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If I understand the meaning of "cam girl", it's not like she's actually fucking anybody.
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zaharuh
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She could be but yeah most of them are just solo
FunkyMonkee
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As long as she's just playing with herself, I don't see the harm in it, unless one of the watchers becomes a stalker.
zaharuh
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That's happened..
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FunkyMonkee
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I wouldn't doubt it!
CuminginsideXper 5
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Can you get me on the TV maybe she can make more money by having me on the TV with her?
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ANDYB88Xper 4
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No I wouldn’t dump her for that. Especially if it was in the past! We’ve all got a history
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zaharuh
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So true
Andres77Master
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Nope... everyone goes through stuff. If we all had to be perfect to hope to be in a relationship then we're all screwed. I've dated girls who'd been prostitutes... and I've done some questionable shit too. No one is perfect.
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zaharuh
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Yeah I agree like not everyone's perfect but so many people would just say no to a girl just bc of that
Andres77
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Maybe they just haven't gone through any hard times themselves yet. Maybe they had a life fairly free from tragedy or difficulty and had more opportunities, maybe they also went through a shitty life and made most of the right choices and can't understand why others aren't as disciplined as they were. When I was younger I was less forgiving... until I felt the world shyt on me. It certainly made me more aware of suffering that others go through. We're all just at different places in life and are given different choices every minute of every day for our whole lives.
zaharuh
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you're right I shouldn't expect people to think how I do ig
genericname85Master
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probably yeah. and i think most who say no think their ego can take it but i think they will realize it can't.
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zaharuh
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Tbh I just thought most guys were going to say yes but why do you think they would change their mind?
genericname85
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i guess cause they mostly just think of the fact that she's probably pretty hot, if she was a camgirl. but i don't think they know what it means to be with a girl that has so many choices and is so popular with men.
zaharuh
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So you wouldn't date a pretty girl?
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genericname85
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sure i would. but i would not date a pretty girl who is really comfortable with or at least used to showing her tits and pussy to everyone. i mean we live in the digital age. if you were a cam girl, there's videos of you on the internet. and i'm not ok with my son or doughter learning that her/his mom showed people their pussy on the internet for money. one of their peers will find that. and this is efinitely not a conversation in wanna have with my children.
zaharuh
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That's fair ig.. Yeah I wish I could have all of the videos and stuff taken down like I feel like it's going to haunt me later in my life. I'm not okay with that either like I dont ever want to have that conversation
genericname85
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did that not occur to you when you got into it xD?
zaharuh
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I didn't really care at the time ig and I didn't think I would get as into it as I did
genericname85
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well i think anyway, transparency is the best way to deal with it. like if a girl told me this on the first or second date, i may give it a shot. but if i find that out, i won't give her a chance.
zaharuh
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that's fair I should be transparent about it
GlassTopXper 7
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She sells her body for money. I would date her but not marry. You wouldn’t be able to trust her.
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zaharuh
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But what if it's in the past tho and why can't you trust her?
adolfohittando
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Dont even date her, just use her as a nice side piece
GlassTop
+1 y
Because she a hoe.
Aakash_HangargiGuru
+1 y
In our native society that would be tough question to answer but if i am in love fuck society 😂
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zaharuh
+1 y
I like this answer lol
VegasrunnerExplorer
+1 y
I would keep banging her but definitely would not date her
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zaharuh
+1 y
That's messed up tbh
Vegasrunner
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It's cool to have some recreational fun, but guys should not date women like that.
zaharuh
+1 y
Why not? like especially if it's in the past
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Miristheiss
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Porn taints you for life. No such thing as the "past".
Vegasrunner
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Actions have consequences and a persons previous behavior is a good indicator of their future decisions. Women that perform those kinds of jobs are manipulative and opportunist by nature those are terrible traits to have in someone as a partner. Unfortunately in relationships men give up way more than women so they need to be much more selective during the screening process. It's not my place to tell someone how to make a living but I certainly wouldn't invest time in a relationship w/ a woman w/ a past like that.
zaharuh
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Okay maybe like opportunist just for the job and stuff but like people change tho and wym men give up more then women do?
Vegasrunner
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People change but your past does not. If a women was willing to sell her body in the past there's a good chance she may do it in the future and you dont want to be the one left holding the bag. The woman a man has is a reflection of his value and that's a low value woman which makes u a low value man by default. When a man enters into a monogamous relationship w/ a woman he gives up way more than a woman which is one of the reasons I tell guys to be extremely selective of the girls you want to be exclusive with. I personally dont believe in being w/ only one woman but if you're going to do that you have to be careful and a girl w/ a porn past needs to be an instant disqualifying factor.
zaharuh
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Yeah the past doesn't but the past shouldn't just define us. And it doesn't mean she will do it in the future. I dont understand how it just makes a woman low value just like that like so what it's not like its prostitute work. It shouldn't be instant disqualifying factor I don't know..
Vegasrunner
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in my opinion almost worse at least a prostitute keeps it real w/ what they're trying to do. Any woman can sell their body for sex most just dont because they have morals. If you are dating a woman and find out that she was selling her body in the past that is all the information you need to disqualify her. It's simply to big of a risk to invest time in this type of woman.
Miristheiss
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A woman who was EVER willing to show that and do that for strangers for money I would NEVER want. Those videos are out there forever. Your kids will see those... you friends... mom... dad... everyone will see qho showing every square inch of yourself and selling yourself as a whore. No way you would ever be a girlfriend or wife. Why would anyone want you? Thousanda have already paid to have access to you.
zaharuh
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A camgirl almost worse then a prostitute that is just dumb 🤦🏻♀️ And any woman could try but not all would be good at it. Okay but what if you were already in a relationship with her and things were going good then you found out she had a past like that you would still just stop even though things were amazing? Like what if she changed and stuff
zaharuh
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@Miristheiss Okay yeah the videos are out there and I hope people in my family wouldn't find them especially like future kids and stuff.. but like things can change and the past doesn't define you. I've already been a girlfriend and I can be a wife like I have good qualities too lol like you are just hating at this point
Cjbruser
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Recreational fun with a girl who have problem been with 50-100+ guys? Sorry, no thanks. There are better girls to try and get with than that.
zaharuh
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Okay you are stretching it tho
adolfohittando
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@Miristheiss Exactly what I be thinking man her children gonna see those videos and her children peers will see them and never let them hear the end of it! I would hate my mom if she was such whore if she has a son he's gonna be bullied and if she has a daughter she will grow up to be a slut too these kind of people should not be allowed to have kids
Vegasrunner
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If you're willing to ask the question, you need to be open to listening to the answer instead of complaining because it's not what you want to hear. It takes zero talent for a woman to sell her body, so attempting to justify it says more about ones own character. I live in Vegas so I've been w/ plenty of women who were in the sex industry Strippers, "pornstars" etc, but I would never be in an exclusive relationship w/ them. The reality is they are for recreational use only and under no circumstances would I take someone like that seriously. I'm sure some guy out there is desperate enough to commit to a woman like that under those circumstances but that's because most men especially men under 30 dont really understand their value. I do and I've done to much w/ my life to share it exclusively w/ a woman of that low value.
zaharuh
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I'm not complaining I'm just trying to understand why some people are saying yes. And you can't say that when some people are better at it then others. Okay maybe you've been with sex workers but like it's different if it's something in the past tho
Vegasrunner
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@Cjbruser I'm just banging her not wifing her. I'm secure enough in my masculinity that what she did b4 me or when she's not w/ me doesn't concern me. Guys that worry about that are the type of guys that are lucky to get one girl and their so afraid to lose her that they obsess over the girls past.
Vegasrunner
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The reality is you'll never "understand" because you're only able to see this issue from your POV. There are plenty of women in the world that don't sell their body so why would I commit to one that did?
zaharuh
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Bc they aren't all the same and can make a good partner too
Vegasrunner
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It doesn't matter if ther not the same they all have the same thing in common. It's an unnecessary problem that I dont need. If I entered into a relationship like that I'm supposed to bring that person around my friends, my mom, my nieces? I would never do that and TBH think it's disrespectful. If a woman wants to sell her body that's no one elses business but she also must deal w/ the consequences which is that it disqualifies her from future exclusive relationships I dont think you can have it both ways.
zaharuh
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What is so wrong with us that we can't be around family like what? Also like do you not believe in people changing or something
Vegasrunner
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Lol, no I would not bring a sex worker around my family. Doing that would provide validation and I wouldn't want to give young women in my family the belief that being a cam girl is something they should aspire to be. People can change however I wouldn't personally want to be attached to someone w/ a past like that there's just no upside to it for me. Again you're only looking at it from your POV which is unfortunately how a lot of women view relationships. I however wouldn't take a loss simply so a broken women can feel better about themselves.
zaharuh
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Okay but maybe you're just looking at your pov too tho bc I would not encourage anyone to get into that stuff. And why does it makes us "broken"?
Vegasrunner
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No I understand you POV just fine. You believe that your past shouldn't be a reflection on how someone treats you in the future. Do you understand mine?
zaharuh
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I understand it yeah but like I feel like that makes more sense for someone that is still doing it
Vegasrunner
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Would you date a man that was physically abusive to you?
zaharuh
+1 y
I have before but I broke up with him
Vegasrunner
+1 y
Exactly. Because that's not the type of behavior you want to tolerate in a relationship. For me female sex workers are the same. It always amazes me how woman are ok having all these arbitrary requirements yet act so surprised when they meet men who have their own. I get it but it's still a bit bizarre.
zaharuh
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So an abuser is the same as someone that did cams in the past to you? That is crazy to me lol like are you saying I was supposed to just put up with that I dont get it
Vegasrunner
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Lol, I dont mean to laugh but do you actually hear yourself? Essentially you're saying it's ok for you to have standards but I can only have standards that you deem are appropriate? The same way you have zero tolerance for abusers I have zero tolerance to be in a relationship w/ a sex worker. No one is saying the two actions are the same (except you) I'm simply saying like you there are things that I will not tolerate. Why do you believe it's ok for you to have standards but not for me?
zaharuh
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I'm not saying you can't have standards but I just think it's crazy to have those 2 on the same level but I understand ig there are some things for you that you won't tolerate
Vegasrunner
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Why do you think it's crazy? What would be the equivalent of abusive for a male in a relationship in your opinion?
Miristheiss
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Bottom line... you sex worker. Sex is intimate. Sex is between the 2 people involved. Selling your intimacy and sexual access as a product... to THOUSANDS of people...(and with those videos, clips on the internet forever... millions will probably sample you over the years) is just gross, it is disgusting and foul and putrid. Anyone who has the sexual value that those who sell their sex is gross and has forever crossed a relationship, intimacy line... their values about sex class 100% with yours. You'll never be able to win the heart of someone who has different standards and values of sex and intimacy. Quit trying, quit asking with these lame retorts of "its the past"..."what if so and so has changed"... blah, blah, blah. It doesn't matter. You've crossed a line that has reduced your pool of possible dating partner by the millions and you can't undo it or take it back. Once you sell your naked body and sexual titillation to the world as a product your are forever off the possible romance list. Just accept it and quit trying to explain it away. It cannot be done. Just stay in your lane. Find you a simp who worships sex workers and they'll date you gladly.
Miristheiss
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clash... not "class"
zaharuh
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@Vegasrunner I don't know what the equivalent is but like abusive people can be traumatizing like maybe you just dont understand that
zaharuh
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@Miristheiss Okay yeah the videos are bad I think so too and like ofc some people I would never be compatible with like people saving themselves for marriage and stuff or people that can't accept my past or whatever and that's okay. I dont see how its lame to being up that it's in the past like I think it's important to bring up that I dont do that anymore. I won't find a simp that worships sex workers ik I can do better then that lol
Miristheiss
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Better? Yes, because you are super special right? You are a princess who "deserves" it all. Save themselves for marriage? It doesn't even have to go that far. Just anyone who wants a sweet person who hasn't slept around and been a party girl slut whose slept with 30 guys, who only has had sex with her serious boyfriends and who doesn't do one night stands or hasn't done threesomes and hasn't been a sex worker. That really isn't anything outlandish for people to not want girlfriends wives that have slept around, dabbled in casual sex or been sex workers. Not just the videos... don't you have to talk to them while you are screwing yourself on camera? Aren't they requesting you to do stuff? Making gross crude comments about your body parts and cheering you on to doing more this way and that way, asking you to pose in certain ways? You are like talking to a room full of men while you climax and while it is all going on. I can't believe you act as if this is just "no big deal", it's just the same as being a cashier or an office assistant.
zaharuh
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Not bc I'm special but bc I dont want someone that worships sex workers I dont want to be in that kind of lifestyle anymore just bc that person isn't you doesn't mean people like that aren't out there. We just have different opinions and that's okay. I understand not everyone is okay with it lol. Well yeah you talk to them, do their requests, ofc they make weird comments and stuff it's a bunch of horny people. I never said it's no big deal there is a reason I regret this stuff 🤦🏻♀️
adolfohittando
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@zaharuh Just the way you talk I could tell you are one of those pretty girls that's an airhead lol you are a slut, do you understand that? Did you listen at all to what the guys before me are saying? Your videos or clips are likely to be seen by millions of guys as time goes on, what kind of guy wants to be with a woman like that? You are a disgrace to your family and I feel terrible for your future children when one day their classmates show them a video of their mom masturbating for money. Can you imagine how traumatizing that is for a family? I can only imagine you will end up a single mother or you will get with a guy that is as fucked up as you are. Think about it from any perspective that isn't your own. Your kids will NEVER be able to look at you the same, neither will your family, your friends, anyone that knows about that stuff or even your husband. You can't keep bringing up the past because this will be with you for the rest of your life, this is the consequences for your actions. You are not a pure princess, you are a dirty slut, realize your worth. Most guys you meet that know about your past will treat you as a cum rag because that's what you set the bar at and many will be disgusted by you. I almost feel bad for you but you did this to yourself.
zaharuh
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@adolfohittando How am I an airhead wtf? Yeah I did listen to what they are saying. Okay idrc what some of my family thinks about me my parents and siblings were terrible to me. I do worry about the thing with future kids tho ngl. Yeah ofc that would be terrible I dont want that to happen. I think it's okay to bring up that it is the past bc like people can change and it's also like I'm not doing that stuff anymore. Also you are just an asshole 🙄 you are judging me sm but you dont even know me
Vegasrunner
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Lol, the 1 thing this conversation has done is highlight why GAG is such a great platform. Reading through your remarks you're saying that if something bothers u in a relationship it reaches the level of traumatizing yet men are simply supposed to accept behavior that could be traumatizing to them because you say it's not? The reason u can't think of an equivalent is because most women are unable to see past themselves so they inflate their problems while downplaying everyone elses. I personally dont have an issue w/ you being a sex worker in fact I think prostitution should have been legalized 50 years ago. However I'm under no obligation to accept that behavior past or present in a relationship. For a normal person that should be the end of the conversatio but women are so entitled these days that you've spent time trying to understand why a man wouldn't enter into a serious relationship w/ a sex worker. Yet your dealbreakers everyone is supposed to blindly accept. It's a good lesson for guys to learn about why you have to put your needs 1st when dealing w/ woman.
zaharuh
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@Vegasrunner What are you saying "something that bothers me" I think abuse would bother anyone are you serious rn? lol I'm not saying all men are going to accept me like ofc. How am I inflating my problems? Okay that's fine if you dont accept it 🤷🏻♀️ I was just saying the things I was to give you a different perspective. Also I think everyone should put their needs first for most things
Vegasrunner
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Men aren't as likely to be abused in a relationship so I have you a make equivalent, its difficult for you to understand it because women typically can only recognize their problems. If you really believed "everyone" should put their needs 1st you would have simply said "I understand why some man wouldn't want me as a serious girlfriend once they found out I used to be a sex worker" Instead you're making all these justifications as to why they should accept you. What your actions are saying is that you believe your needs should be put first and anyone else should just accept whatever baggage you bring. This is how a lot of younger women think these days so it's good to have someone detail that behavior on writing.
adolfohittando
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@zaharuh Airheads all sounds similar, they are always focused on themselves, care too much about what people think about them, it's also the way you type (I'm not sure how to explain that one but if you know you know) Of course you should worry about your future kids, but why didn't you when you were rubbing your pussy on camera for possibly millions to see? Airhead alert. Sure, I don't know everything about you but from what I do know, I can make a good guess of what to judge you on.
zaharuh
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@Vegasrunner Okay but just bc I can't think of one doesn't mean there isn't one and like ig we both have our own thoughts so like maybe it's different and stuff. But I have said that before tho I literally said I understand that not every guy is okay with my past. I don't think I need to be put first I just think people should also look at things from a different perspective like how you said I should
zaharuh
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@adolfohittando Seriously like what are you on? You dont know me just leave it at that
Vegasrunner
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I'm telling you the equivalent would be dating a sex worker. As far as POV my argument is that as a man if I want to be successful w/ women I have to understand their POV woman dont need to in order to be successful w/ men. I will say you seem like you keep an open mind so that's a plus, and while I personally wouldn't date a sex workers I do agree that there is some guy out there that will overlook that but that's usually some guy that can't get anything better.
zaharuh
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Okay but that's where I dont agree tho like I dont think it would be bc a guy can't get better
Vegasrunner
+1 y
We can disagree to disagree on that point but if I guy could get better why would he settle for a sex worker?
zaharuh
+1 y
I feel like you are looking at it as if being a sex worker is the only thing I bring to the relationship lol
Vegasrunner
+1 y
Honestly women dont bring much to the table in normal relationships which is why bringing in a history of prostitution is such a dealbreaker. What else is it that you believe you bring to the table for me?
AndrésC64Yoda
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Nope. I don't see anything wrong with it. I've never understood why people get so bent out of shape about sex. It's one of the most natural things in the world. I actually think that it may be just due to the prudishness brought on by various religions.
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zaharuh
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It's like a lot of non religious people that think badly about it too for some reason
CalKing715Xper 1
+1 y
No.. I'd say let's cam and make some money together... we could quit our jobs and do that for a living. Couples can make a good amount of money camming.
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zaharuh
+1 y
I wouldn't want to go back to it
chulo1992Xper 5
+1 y
Cam girl as her showing her naked body? I'm not sure what I would do
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zaharuh
+1 y
Yeah
CjbruserXper 1
+1 y
Yes. Girls and women like that typically have emotional, psychological, and familial problems and issues, and are looking for validation, simpish men to flood them with compliments and money or a potential hookup.
Girls and women who participate in camgirl activity or Onlyfans activities are not suitable as life partners if that is what usually a man wants.
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zaharuh
+1 y
Why would it not make them suitable as life partners tho like that doesn't make sense to me sure some people have problems but really
Cjbruser
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Because the more men a women has been with and the more validation they get, drastically decreases pair bonding and maternal instincts and the chances that that woman will ever have to forming a long-term successful relationship with a guy or man that she otherwise may have found desirable as a suitor. That is why.
zaharuh
+1 y
Can you explain the pair bonding thing
Jamie05rhsMaster
+1 y
That totally depends on a lot of things.
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zaharuh
+1 y
Like?
Jamie05rhs
+1 y
@Jamie05rhs. I don't want to give away my exceptions publicly. Because that will just give someone an excuse to dance as close to the line as they can without crossing it. Generally speaking, people should just understand that exposing yourself on the internet is not a good look.
Jamie05rhs
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zaharuh
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I was just curious that's all and ik what you mean
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10 97Tricky one. I'm alittle torned, but most likely I'd be fine with it.
Everybody has a past, and even though being a cam girl might show somewhat lack of jugdement, it's also probably an experience that gave her a deeper understanding of who she is and was a good oppertunity for her to grow.
What do you mean by lack of judgement? But I'm glad you see it that way :)
From my perspective, it doesn't show the best judgement to being ok with using your own body as a "product" in this heavily digital society. Basically anything you do online has the risk of staying online, for anyone to find, download or in other possilby dangerous ways act on (stalkers hunting you down etc). So the willingness to take on such risks for short term gain seems to me like a somewhat lack of good judgement. On the other hand, I also believe in freedom of choice, and see the arguments for that those risks are negligible, and in reality it's basically just the "popular opinion" that certain professions should be labeled "unethical" or "wrong" and might not have much hold in actual reality.
Yeah that was one of the reasons I quit bc of people posting things I did on other places and I couldn't take it down and the stalkers are SO scary like that gave me so much anxiety so ig that makes sense but I didn't think about all that at the time
Yeah I can imagine! Well, everyone has a past, but I sincierly believe that a good partner should embrace all aspects of their partners past. If a part of that past makes someone insecure about the relationship, my bet is that they have insecurities themselvs and are more afraid of the opinion of others rather than their own.
I like the way you put that that's so true
So long as it's "in the past", I wouldn't dump her. I might even check out some of her cam sessions. Many cam girls are recorded by various websites, even though they're supposed to be live only.
That's true and some people that watch record them and post them in other places which is terrible
A cam girl is nothing more than performance art (often for a fee)
If physical prostitution was not involved, yes.
Yeah some people treat those as the same thing which is crazy to me
I would not dump her for that
there's no reason to in my opinion
I totally agree
I guess it would depend on what she did on her shows but I can’t think of anything legal she could do that would run me off
I have like no clue what you mean lol
Meaning as long as nothing underage and as long as everyone consented then who cares
It would not bother me but I would like her to be honest and she could always be a cam girl when we are in a relationship or we are married.
Seems like you are pretty open with it
@zaharuh Yeah, I'm open about it
That's nice :)
@zaharuh Thanks :)
If I understand the meaning of "cam girl", it's not like she's actually fucking anybody.
She could be but yeah most of them are just solo
As long as she's just playing with herself, I don't see the harm in it, unless one of the watchers becomes a stalker.
That's happened..
I wouldn't doubt it!
Can you get me on the TV maybe she can make more money by having me on the TV with her?
No I wouldn’t dump her for that. Especially if it was in the past! We’ve all got a history
So true
Nope... everyone goes through stuff.
If we all had to be perfect to hope to be in a relationship then we're all screwed.
I've dated girls who'd been prostitutes... and I've done some questionable shit too.
No one is perfect.
Yeah I agree like not everyone's perfect but so many people would just say no to a girl just bc of that
Maybe they just haven't gone through any hard times themselves yet. Maybe they had a life fairly free from tragedy or difficulty and had more opportunities, maybe they also went through a shitty life and made most of the right choices and can't understand why others aren't as disciplined as they were. When I was younger I was less forgiving... until I felt the world shyt on me. It certainly made me more aware of suffering that others go through. We're all just at different places in life and are given different choices every minute of every day for our whole lives.
you're right I shouldn't expect people to think how I do ig
probably yeah. and i think most who say no think their ego can take it but i think they will realize it can't.
Tbh I just thought most guys were going to say yes but why do you think they would change their mind?
i guess cause they mostly just think of the fact that she's probably pretty hot, if she was a camgirl. but i don't think they know what it means to be with a girl that has so many choices and is so popular with men.
So you wouldn't date a pretty girl?
sure i would. but i would not date a pretty girl who is really comfortable with or at least used to showing her tits and pussy to everyone. i mean we live in the digital age. if you were a cam girl, there's videos of you on the internet. and i'm not ok with my son or doughter learning that her/his mom showed people their pussy on the internet for money. one of their peers will find that. and this is efinitely not a conversation in wanna have with my children.
That's fair ig.. Yeah I wish I could have all of the videos and stuff taken down like I feel like it's going to haunt me later in my life. I'm not okay with that either like I dont ever want to have that conversation
did that not occur to you when you got into it xD?
I didn't really care at the time ig and I didn't think I would get as into it as I did
well i think anyway, transparency is the best way to deal with it. like if a girl told me this on the first or second date, i may give it a shot. but if i find that out, i won't give her a chance.
that's fair I should be transparent about it
She sells her body for money. I would date her but not marry. You wouldn’t be able to trust her.
But what if it's in the past tho and why can't you trust her?
Dont even date her, just use her as a nice side piece
Because she a hoe.
In our native society that would be tough question to answer but if i am in love fuck society 😂
I like this answer lol
I would keep banging her but definitely would not date her
That's messed up tbh
It's cool to have some recreational fun, but guys should not date women like that.
Why not? like especially if it's in the past
Porn taints you for life. No such thing as the "past".
Actions have consequences and a persons previous behavior is a good indicator of their future decisions. Women that perform those kinds of jobs are manipulative and opportunist by nature those are terrible traits to have in someone as a partner. Unfortunately in relationships men give up way more than women so they need to be much more selective during the screening process. It's not my place to tell someone how to make a living but I certainly wouldn't invest time in a relationship w/ a woman w/ a past like that.
Okay maybe like opportunist just for the job and stuff but like people change tho and wym men give up more then women do?
People change but your past does not. If a women was willing to sell her body in the past there's a good chance she may do it in the future and you dont want to be the one left holding the bag. The woman a man has is a reflection of his value and that's a low value woman which makes u a low value man by default. When a man enters into a monogamous relationship w/ a woman he gives up way more than a woman which is one of the reasons I tell guys to be extremely selective of the girls you want to be exclusive with. I personally dont believe in being w/ only one woman but if you're going to do that you have to be careful and a girl w/ a porn past needs to be an instant disqualifying factor.
Yeah the past doesn't but the past shouldn't just define us. And it doesn't mean she will do it in the future. I dont understand how it just makes a woman low value just like that like so what it's not like its prostitute work. It shouldn't be instant disqualifying factor I don't know..
in my opinion almost worse at least a prostitute keeps it real w/ what they're trying to do. Any woman can sell their body for sex most just dont because they have morals. If you are dating a woman and find out that she was selling her body in the past that is all the information you need to disqualify her. It's simply to big of a risk to invest time in this type of woman.
A woman who was EVER willing to show that and do that for strangers for money I would NEVER want. Those videos are out there forever. Your kids will see those... you friends... mom... dad... everyone will see qho showing every square inch of yourself and selling yourself as a whore. No way you would ever be a girlfriend or wife. Why would anyone want you? Thousanda have already paid to have access to you.
A camgirl almost worse then a prostitute that is just dumb 🤦🏻♀️ And any woman could try but not all would be good at it. Okay but what if you were already in a relationship with her and things were going good then you found out she had a past like that you would still just stop even though things were amazing? Like what if she changed and stuff
@Miristheiss Okay yeah the videos are out there and I hope people in my family wouldn't find them especially like future kids and stuff.. but like things can change and the past doesn't define you. I've already been a girlfriend and I can be a wife like I have good qualities too lol like you are just hating at this point
Recreational fun with a girl who have problem been with 50-100+ guys? Sorry, no thanks. There are better girls to try and get with than that.
Okay you are stretching it tho
@Miristheiss Exactly what I be thinking man her children gonna see those videos and her children peers will see them and never let them hear the end of it! I would hate my mom if she was such whore if she has a son he's gonna be bullied and if she has a daughter she will grow up to be a slut too these kind of people should not be allowed to have kids
If you're willing to ask the question, you need to be open to listening to the answer instead of complaining because it's not what you want to hear. It takes zero talent for a woman to sell her body, so attempting to justify it says more about ones own character. I live in Vegas so I've been w/ plenty of women who were in the sex industry Strippers, "pornstars" etc, but I would never be in an exclusive relationship w/ them. The reality is they are for recreational use only and under no circumstances would I take someone like that seriously. I'm sure some guy out there is desperate enough to commit to a woman like that under those circumstances but that's because most men especially men under 30 dont really understand their value. I do and I've done to much w/ my life to share it exclusively w/ a woman of that low value.
I'm not complaining I'm just trying to understand why some people are saying yes. And you can't say that when some people are better at it then others. Okay maybe you've been with sex workers but like it's different if it's something in the past tho
@Cjbruser I'm just banging her not wifing her. I'm secure enough in my masculinity that what she did b4 me or when she's not w/ me doesn't concern me. Guys that worry about that are the type of guys that are lucky to get one girl and their so afraid to lose her that they obsess over the girls past.
The reality is you'll never "understand" because you're only able to see this issue from your POV. There are plenty of women in the world that don't sell their body so why would I commit to one that did?
Bc they aren't all the same and can make a good partner too
It doesn't matter if ther not the same they all have the same thing in common. It's an unnecessary problem that I dont need. If I entered into a relationship like that I'm supposed to bring that person around my friends, my mom, my nieces? I would never do that and TBH think it's disrespectful. If a woman wants to sell her body that's no one elses business but she also must deal w/ the consequences which is that it disqualifies her from future exclusive relationships I dont think you can have it both ways.
What is so wrong with us that we can't be around family like what? Also like do you not believe in people changing or something
Lol, no I would not bring a sex worker around my family. Doing that would provide validation and I wouldn't want to give young women in my family the belief that being a cam girl is something they should aspire to be. People can change however I wouldn't personally want to be attached to someone w/ a past like that there's just no upside to it for me. Again you're only looking at it from your POV which is unfortunately how a lot of women view relationships. I however wouldn't take a loss simply so a broken women can feel better about themselves.
Okay but maybe you're just looking at your pov too tho bc I would not encourage anyone to get into that stuff. And why does it makes us "broken"?
No I understand you POV just fine. You believe that your past shouldn't be a reflection on how someone treats you in the future. Do you understand mine?
I understand it yeah but like I feel like that makes more sense for someone that is still doing it
Would you date a man that was physically abusive to you?
I have before but I broke up with him
Exactly. Because that's not the type of behavior you want to tolerate in a relationship. For me female sex workers are the same. It always amazes me how woman are ok having all these arbitrary requirements yet act so surprised when they meet men who have their own. I get it but it's still a bit bizarre.
So an abuser is the same as someone that did cams in the past to you? That is crazy to me lol like are you saying I was supposed to just put up with that I dont get it
Lol, I dont mean to laugh but do you actually hear yourself? Essentially you're saying it's ok for you to have standards but I can only have standards that you deem are appropriate? The same way you have zero tolerance for abusers I have zero tolerance to be in a relationship w/ a sex worker. No one is saying the two actions are the same (except you) I'm simply saying like you there are things that I will not tolerate. Why do you believe it's ok for you to have standards but not for me?
I'm not saying you can't have standards but I just think it's crazy to have those 2 on the same level but I understand ig there are some things for you that you won't tolerate
Why do you think it's crazy? What would be the equivalent of abusive for a male in a relationship in your opinion?
Bottom line... you sex worker. Sex is intimate. Sex is between the 2 people involved. Selling your intimacy and sexual access as a product... to THOUSANDS of people...(and with those videos, clips on the internet forever... millions will probably sample you over the years) is just gross, it is disgusting and foul and putrid. Anyone who has the sexual value that those who sell their sex is gross and has forever crossed a relationship, intimacy line... their values about sex class 100% with yours. You'll never be able to win the heart of someone who has different standards and values of sex and intimacy. Quit trying, quit asking with these lame retorts of "its the past"..."what if so and so has changed"... blah, blah, blah. It doesn't matter. You've crossed a line that has reduced your pool of possible dating partner by the millions and you can't undo it or take it back. Once you sell your naked body and sexual titillation to the world as a product your are forever off the possible romance list. Just accept it and quit trying to explain it away. It cannot be done. Just stay in your lane. Find you a simp who worships sex workers and they'll date you gladly.
clash... not "class"
@Vegasrunner I don't know what the equivalent is but like abusive people can be traumatizing like maybe you just dont understand that
@Miristheiss Okay yeah the videos are bad I think so too and like ofc some people I would never be compatible with like people saving themselves for marriage and stuff or people that can't accept my past or whatever and that's okay. I dont see how its lame to being up that it's in the past like I think it's important to bring up that I dont do that anymore. I won't find a simp that worships sex workers ik I can do better then that lol
Better? Yes, because you are super special right? You are a princess who "deserves" it all. Save themselves for marriage? It doesn't even have to go that far. Just anyone who wants a sweet person who hasn't slept around and been a party girl slut whose slept with 30 guys, who only has had sex with her serious boyfriends and who doesn't do one night stands or hasn't done threesomes and hasn't been a sex worker. That really isn't anything outlandish for people to not want girlfriends wives that have slept around, dabbled in casual sex or been sex workers. Not just the videos... don't you have to talk to them while you are screwing yourself on camera? Aren't they requesting you to do stuff? Making gross crude comments about your body parts and cheering you on to doing more this way and that way, asking you to pose in certain ways? You are like talking to a room full of men while you climax and while it is all going on. I can't believe you act as if this is just "no big deal", it's just the same as being a cashier or an office assistant.
Not bc I'm special but bc I dont want someone that worships sex workers I dont want to be in that kind of lifestyle anymore just bc that person isn't you doesn't mean people like that aren't out there. We just have different opinions and that's okay. I understand not everyone is okay with it lol. Well yeah you talk to them, do their requests, ofc they make weird comments and stuff it's a bunch of horny people. I never said it's no big deal there is a reason I regret this stuff 🤦🏻♀️
@zaharuh Just the way you talk I could tell you are one of those pretty girls that's an airhead lol you are a slut, do you understand that? Did you listen at all to what the guys before me are saying? Your videos or clips are likely to be seen by millions of guys as time goes on, what kind of guy wants to be with a woman like that? You are a disgrace to your family and I feel terrible for your future children when one day their classmates show them a video of their mom masturbating for money. Can you imagine how traumatizing that is for a family? I can only imagine you will end up a single mother or you will get with a guy that is as fucked up as you are. Think about it from any perspective that isn't your own. Your kids will NEVER be able to look at you the same, neither will your family, your friends, anyone that knows about that stuff or even your husband. You can't keep bringing up the past because this will be with you for the rest of your life, this is the consequences for your actions. You are not a pure princess, you are a dirty slut, realize your worth. Most guys you meet that know about your past will treat you as a cum rag because that's what you set the bar at and many will be disgusted by you. I almost feel bad for you but you did this to yourself.
@adolfohittando How am I an airhead wtf? Yeah I did listen to what they are saying. Okay idrc what some of my family thinks about me my parents and siblings were terrible to me. I do worry about the thing with future kids tho ngl. Yeah ofc that would be terrible I dont want that to happen. I think it's okay to bring up that it is the past bc like people can change and it's also like I'm not doing that stuff anymore. Also you are just an asshole 🙄 you are judging me sm but you dont even know me
Lol, the 1 thing this conversation has done is highlight why GAG is such a great platform. Reading through your remarks you're saying that if something bothers u in a relationship it reaches the level of traumatizing yet men are simply supposed to accept behavior that could be traumatizing to them because you say it's not? The reason u can't think of an equivalent is because most women are unable to see past themselves so they inflate their problems while downplaying everyone elses. I personally dont have an issue w/ you being a sex worker in fact I think prostitution should have been legalized 50 years ago. However I'm under no obligation to accept that behavior past or present in a relationship. For a normal person that should be the end of the conversatio but women are so entitled these days that you've spent time trying to understand why a man wouldn't enter into a serious relationship w/ a sex worker. Yet your dealbreakers everyone is supposed to blindly accept. It's a good lesson for guys to learn about why you have to put your needs 1st when dealing w/ woman.
@Vegasrunner What are you saying "something that bothers me" I think abuse would bother anyone are you serious rn? lol I'm not saying all men are going to accept me like ofc. How am I inflating my problems? Okay that's fine if you dont accept it 🤷🏻♀️ I was just saying the things I was to give you a different perspective. Also I think everyone should put their needs first for most things
Men aren't as likely to be abused in a relationship so I have you a make equivalent, its difficult for you to understand it because women typically can only recognize their problems. If you really believed "everyone" should put their needs 1st you would have simply said "I understand why some man wouldn't want me as a serious girlfriend once they found out I used to be a sex worker" Instead you're making all these justifications as to why they should accept you. What your actions are saying is that you believe your needs should be put first and anyone else should just accept whatever baggage you bring. This is how a lot of younger women think these days so it's good to have someone detail that behavior on writing.
@zaharuh Airheads all sounds similar, they are always focused on themselves, care too much about what people think about them, it's also the way you type (I'm not sure how to explain that one but if you know you know) Of course you should worry about your future kids, but why didn't you when you were rubbing your pussy on camera for possibly millions to see? Airhead alert. Sure, I don't know everything about you but from what I do know, I can make a good guess of what to judge you on.
@Vegasrunner Okay but just bc I can't think of one doesn't mean there isn't one and like ig we both have our own thoughts so like maybe it's different and stuff. But I have said that before tho I literally said I understand that not every guy is okay with my past. I don't think I need to be put first I just think people should also look at things from a different perspective like how you said I should
@adolfohittando Seriously like what are you on? You dont know me just leave it at that
I'm telling you the equivalent would be dating a sex worker. As far as POV my argument is that as a man if I want to be successful w/ women I have to understand their POV woman dont need to in order to be successful w/ men. I will say you seem like you keep an open mind so that's a plus, and while I personally wouldn't date a sex workers I do agree that there is some guy out there that will overlook that but that's usually some guy that can't get anything better.
Okay but that's where I dont agree tho like I dont think it would be bc a guy can't get better
We can disagree to disagree on that point but if I guy could get better why would he settle for a sex worker?
I feel like you are looking at it as if being a sex worker is the only thing I bring to the relationship lol
Honestly women dont bring much to the table in normal relationships which is why bringing in a history of prostitution is such a dealbreaker. What else is it that you believe you bring to the table for me?
Nope. I don't see anything wrong with it. I've never understood why people get so bent out of shape about sex. It's one of the most natural things in the world. I actually think that it may be just due to the prudishness brought on by various religions.
It's like a lot of non religious people that think badly about it too for some reason
No.. I'd say let's cam and make some money together... we could quit our jobs and do that for a living. Couples can make a good amount of money camming.
I wouldn't want to go back to it
Cam girl as her showing her naked body? I'm not sure what I would do
Yeah
Yes.
Girls and women like that typically have emotional, psychological, and familial problems and issues, and are looking for validation, simpish men to flood them with compliments and money or a potential hookup.
Girls and women who participate in camgirl activity or Onlyfans activities are not suitable as life partners if that is what usually a man wants.
Why would it not make them suitable as life partners tho like that doesn't make sense to me sure some people have problems but really
Because the more men a women has been with and the more validation they get, drastically decreases pair bonding and maternal instincts and the chances that that woman will ever have to forming a long-term successful relationship with a guy or man that she otherwise may have found desirable as a suitor. That is why.
Can you explain the pair bonding thing
That totally depends on a lot of things.
Like?
@Jamie05rhs. I don't want to give away my exceptions publicly. Because that will just give someone an excuse to dance as close to the line as they can without crossing it. Generally speaking, people should just understand that exposing yourself on the internet is not a good look.
@zaharuh
I was just curious that's all and ik what you mean
@zaharuh Thanks. It's alright. :)
Nope