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If you have a lot of sex 10 years before marriage then will your sex life 10 years after marriage turn out to be more boring?

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Most Helpful Guys

  • Im no sex expert but to me it makes sense that if you become accustomed to variety that it might be harder to be satisfied with staying with one person for the rest of your life. I think this is especially true if the person you end up settling down with is a downgrade compared with the people you are used to hooking up with. Like for a girl maybe you love the guy you marry and he is great from a personality perspective but if he is less attractive, less experienced in bed, and or less endowed compared to the guys you were used to hooking up with in your 20s I think it makes sense that you might be less satisfied with your married sex life since all your best sexual experiences are likely to have been with casual flings you met prior to your husband. Oh and throw having to be responsible for kids into the mix and it's probably even worse.

    • Being a virgin before marriage won't stop someone from noticing if the sex is shitty. They won't realise it that soon, but they will. For a little story, my first relationship lasted 3 years and boy I was wrong for staying so long hoping the sex will get better (I was a virgin before him). I thought that's how things are supposed to be. But after so many years of shitty sex and other things adding up, I broke up with him and that was the best desicion I could made.

    • @Isten I never said anything about being a virgin before getting married. In fact I would probably say people are better off not getting married at all.

    • Ok, admittedly I worded it in the wrong way, I should have said "inexperienced".

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  • I don't think so in my case. That said, whatever promiscuous streak in my youth didn't make me get into kinks and fetishes and the like. I was always vanilla and not that wild, and more a serial monogamist than anything else. I never wanted "variety" either, just one person with whom I had tremendous chemistry and connection, so I don't miss sleeping with other women much.

Most Helpful Girl

  • If the ten years of premarital sex was better than the ten years of post-marital sex, then, yes.

    So I suppose that shielding yourself from good sex, will make it easier to accept bad sex.

    I know a lady who was married for 20 years. They never had oral sex, because he said it was wrong in the eyes of God. She even said that he only believed that God condoned the missionary position. All the other positions were of the devil's doing.

    • What a lump of shit he was! Nothing would be better than him.

    • @SteveMcQuine When her daughter died in a freak car accident, that was her ticket out. Her daughter was the only thing keeping her in the pathetic marriage. Years of rejection takes it's toll on a person's soul. She is now the biggest slut in town, and she doesn't give two shits.

    • "Shielding yourself from good sex will make it easier to accept bad sex", I need someone to stick this statement on the front page of G@G, so all the idiots would finally stop glorifying virgins for their lack of experience and their "faithfulness".

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  • How is it that these "experts" know this to be true?

  • Partially depends on your definition of boring. But in any case, you have covered 20 years, and it slows down for a lot of people after all that time.

  • I'm still in the tons of sex before marriage stage so I do not know. I'm sure things may chill a bit as we all get older but I look forward to a long sex life.

  • Yes...

  • It'll only be boring if you let it get boring.

  • Not necessarily

  • yes but not for that reason. After 10 years if marriage sex will be more boring whether you had a lot of sex or were a virgin-its been 10 years of the same same. Doesn't mean its bad-but it will be more boring.

  • I wouldn't know. Lol! Virgin over here.

  • It takes more commitment, creativity and effort to keep things exciting after a long time.
    You must fight taking each other for granted and to commit to keep dating, doing new things together and guarding against daily mundane routines.

  • They say humans find new partners exciting so I'd guess your experts are referring to that.
    Keeping it exciting and new with someone you've been with for years can be a challenge. Some prefer it that way though.

  • I look back on my sex life before I met my wife. A lot of ONS and a few FWB's. That sex was boring compared to married sex. With married sex you explore your partner physically and mentally and explore new things to try.

  • That's like saying if you ate bacon for 10 years then in the next 10 you won't. Oh you masturbated for 10 years, it's gonna suck in the future. That's some illogical shit. Your sex life will be boring if you make it boring. If anything you'll be better at having sex so you'll have a better sex life.

  • That is why, sex is always right and better after marriage, also sex should come after marriage, don't know why people insists on having it before marriage.

  • I hope you didn't get married because the
    " SEX "was good?

    Like all things in Life, repetition becomes mundane, ( boring) , that's up to the both of You to talk and honestly share what your thoughts are!
    Mix it up, plan playdates, come home from work with supper, ( not McDonald's? ) a good meal, go see a provocative movie, roleplay, etc !
    Dont cheat , because your bored, that's BULLSHIT!

  • Experts or not, they do not know. Everyone's sex drive and compatibility with their partner is unique.

  • Yes.

  • The so called experts don't get any sex because they are busy fucking up society with shitty info. Why worry about 10 years from when you get married when half of the marriages now are failing. But can they give solutions to that? Noooooooooo. Nothing is set in stone worry about today. Go out smell flowers be silly skip rocks. We put way too much pressure on ourselves worrying about the unknown. fuck the experts. Get the fuckn weather right. That would be a start. Sorry for the rant.

  • Why would it be boring?
    Instead, it should be more understanding exciting because you've had 10 years of experience and you have plenty knowledge of how to be very pleasing in the bedroom

  • The Bible is correct, after all.

  • Nope

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