If you were a Virgin, would you care if your partner is not?

[Anonymous]

If you love her/him too much but He/she is not virgin. Would you be obsessed about it? ( i do not refer to very religious people) apart from those, what do u think?

[ManOnFire]

When I was a lot younger that kind of thing did matter to me when I was a virgin, but definitely not now. And at my age, it would be extremely hard to find a woman who is one, unless she's in her early or mid 20's, and those aren't my type.

All I would hope is that she's just not a woman who sleeps with everything under the sun and has mostly had sex in actual relationships.

[Asker]

Yeah, but you were Virgin too. I am Virgin now so it is complicated. I can not find any man who is Virgin in my age too. That’s why i think maybe i have some experiences before serious relationship to endure his relationship :(

[Asker]

His relationships before :(

[ManOnFire]

It's not entirely impossible. There are plenty of virgin guys around your age, it's just that a lot of them hide that because the world judges them for it. A guy won't tell you he is one upfront but over time the more you get to know him and the closer he feels you are to him, then he probably will open up about it.

[Asker]

In where i live men lose their virginity before women. For example, they go the escorts by the age 16. But girls do not in this age. I know that boys who didn’t have girlfriends had sex before. But generally it is not easy to find a male Virgin who is ‘’25’’ do not misunderstand i do not judge anyone i am the one who is late for everything… of course there are many men who had sex with their girlfriend not escorts too. But i mean it is not easy to find him. But being 25 and not holding any mans’ hands is weird too. That’s why i feel bad.

[ManOnFire]

I see. I am presuming you're from somewhere in Asia? I have heard about what you're saying, yeah. And I'm sure it does hurt you because it's such a norm in your culture, but you shouldn't give up hope. I hate to advise this, but if it really bothers you to an extreme degree you could try to just have sex with somebody so you can be on the same page as the men, but I really don't recommend that. I can tell you're a young woman who must obviously take sex and relationships and personal connections seriously, and I do understand that.

[Asker]

I do not know i feel so bad. Some women do not care but i care too much. I feel overwhelmed, worried and bad. I don’t want to express myself false. If a man has too much sex and i am ‘’nine’’ I feel weird. I do not know if am right or not? Maybe because i am inexperienced i feel prejudiced. I live in Middle East. Of course there are many girls who had with their boyfriends before but because i am shy person i could not get any boyfriend too. If i have boyfriend and love him to endure his past i must have at least a bit past experience. I feel bad about feeling myself bad too :( i am complicated.

[Asker]

Not nine i mean ‘’none’’

[ManOnFire]

I understand that it's a concern, but try not to let it get to you too much. I think even if you met a man who is already experienced that he wouldn't have a problem with you being inexperienced.

[Asker]

But i have a problem with it, so i care, unfortunately :(

[Berethor]

Yes, virgin girls are the opposite of sluts, so they tend to have more value.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/NatureAdoresAVirgin

[Anonymous]

It wouldn't matter but it would be pretty sad if they had a lot of partners. Sad because even though you are virgin, it still isn't special because they have fucked the world.

[MelonSoda]

I'm one and I do kind of care, but only because I'd feel awkward as hell having like no experience at all and this dude is giga Chad in the bedroom with the door locked.

[Asker]

I would care too but i have no hope to find someone like that.

[Idontwantausername1]

I'm 22 and a virgin and I would not care if my partner was a virgin or not. If she was than we can experience it together and if she wasn't she could lead the way. If you really love/like each other I feel like it would not matter at all. At least for me it wouldn't.

[Asker]

So for example she had partner before you but you love her so much she is caring, sweet, good girl would you marry with her? You are Virgin but she is not.

[Idontwantausername1]

Yes of course, idc if she is a virgin or not. That i love here and she is sweet and caring is so much more important to me.

[Kaneki05]

I would prefer them not to be a virgin. So i would care as in been happy.

[Asker]

Do you marry with her if you are Virgin and she is not?

[Kaneki05]

Well there is no point waiting for marriage since i am not religious. So doubt i would be a virgin by that point. I just see it more as i would rather be with someone who knows what there doing so there is only one of us awkward. Two people been awkward would just be awful i would imagine.

[Asker]

Would you decide you marry? Would be the right question. I understood thank you for your answer.

[Kaneki05]

I would like not to, just due to my thoughts on traditional things been bad. But I think it's also one of those things i could be convinced into depending on situations. Really would just have to talk to the girl who would want to marry me about that.

[Dargil]

I wouldn't want her to be down on to the wear indicators, but if she were not, it would go easier. She would be "broken in", so to speak.

[Asker]

I could not understand. So, if she wasn’t but love her so much would you care?

[Dargil]

Sorry. A little flippant humor. No, I would not.

[Asker]

Haha actually my English is good but i couldn’t understand sorry 😂

[275153]

Nope.

[Danny_dan92]

No I wouldn’t care

[Asker]

If you really loved her, but she will be your first but you will be second or something wouldn’t you care? If you are in serious relationship?

[Danny_dan92]

It would be an honor

[Asker]

I am Virgin if my boyfriend is not i will not say anything or judge but i think that if i really love him and it comes to mind How can i get over it. I do not know if it is normal or not but i just wondered

[Danny_dan92]

If what is normal?

[Asker]

Thinking about it.

[Danny_dan92]

About what?

[Asker]

Because i haven’t had any relationships and if i love someone and if he had many relationships before i would think about it and feel bad. But it is not about judging or accepting him i would just feel bad. That’s why i think that i would experience something before getting into serious relationship to feel this feeling less

[Danny_dan92]

There is nothing to feel bad about

[MysticDevice]

I wouldn't mind. Back when I was a virgin I was dating a girl who was not. I kinda wanted to lose it to another virgin but that just didn't happen. I lost it to this girl instead and I'm actually kinda glad. It was less awkward and tricky cause she knew what to do.

[Asker]

Would you marry with her if she was suitable for you?

[MysticDevice]

Quite possibly. If I felt she was the one for me

[Wise4myage]

No, not at all. I girl I lost mine too wasn't a virgin and I didn't care one bit.

[jeremy_09]

One religious girl we did every single thing possible except actual sex and one night I was pressing my penis against her pussy and rubbing it and pushing and pushing for the longest time, it went in a little bit like just the head and we were both so turned on and she let me cum right there I know some of my sperm must have gone in but she just would not let me put my penis in.

[kellytheman]

No my first time I had sex the girl was not a Virgin and it was kinda helpful cause she was teaching me things

[Anonymous]

Yes when was a virgin i successfully found a virgin guy.

[Anonymous]

No I wouldn't care at all. Asking as they didn't have high expectations until I was tj gain experience then all would be knag. Wkrb them being experienced I thik it could make things easier on me as I have aniety and other stuff added onto that first time nervousness

[Anonymous]

I would rather date a fellow virgin.

[Asker]

I would rather too but it is impossible to find so either i will die alone or find anyone who is not 😔

[Opinion Owner]

Don't give up. We might be small in number, but we are out there.

[Anonymous]

I am a virgin and I want to find a virgin.

[Asker]

If you can’t, and you love him? Finding the male Virgin can be the hardest thing.

[Opinion Owner]

There are a lot more do to dating apps and hookup culture.

[Asker]

Yeah but you know men love that culture so much

[Opinion Owner]

That is why I am looking for a virgin.

[Anonymous]

Not really, my first wasn’t a virgin but I was and she was 18 and I was 21 not much you can do about who you choose to be with when you really like them, you have to accept their past, my generation most girls had sex by 16 and even now a lot do

[Asker]

So you loved her really? I mean can you get over it? I mean i am Virgin and i will not judge anyone but i do not know How i feel

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I loved her, we lasted a year and a half, not bad for a first relationship. I’ve never had a virgin to this day but now it’s too late because there are none near my age even though I would date much younger