If your partner makes you a very unexpected and out-of-the-blue sexual request, how do you get comfortable with it?

If your partner makes you a very unexpected and out-of-the-blue sexual request, how do you get comfortable with it?
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  • That happened with an ex. She'd never mentioned that she wanted to try anal and some harder bondage, then one night after a bottle of wine or five, she told me she wanted me to do it. I didn't, because I thought bad idea when she was really drunk. About two or three days later she fessed up that she'd wanted to ask for ages but wasn't sure I'd be up for it. She wanted me to use a condom (for hygiene) for anal and off we went.
    It's not a particularly 'exciting' sexual request these days, but it was from her, she was really prudish when we first got together - strict upbringing, churchy, father was a headteacher at a local grammar school etc - boy did that repression end up coming out! Always the quiet ones!

  • I had a girlfriend that wanted me to eat M&Ms out of her asshole. I would put them up there one by one and then she would squat over my face. Every night was like Halloween.

    What does she want you to do?

    • I'd prefer to not go into much details since we are into really specific stuff, but last night she proposed switching roles and try some variants. Usually she's dominant one and the "aggressor" so to say.

    • ohhh, you need to decide if you want to be part of that. Me, not so much

    • She said that she wants me to "Taste the Rainbow" so I have to pick up a bag of skittles for tomorrow night :)

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  • Way before we got married, my husband fantasized about having another women pleasuring us both in bed but he never ever asked. However, I always suspected he'd like to try a threesome. So, I took the initiative instead. He was genuinely stunned that I did it. The goal was to please him. It turned out that I loved it as well.

    • woman*

  • You don't seem quite keen on your current partner are you?

    • It's not that I'm not keen on her, I'm not just very keen on sex stuff. Especially now that I got my new job, and that's what's on my mind most of the time.

    • Then talk to her she should understand

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  • I prob won't. Im pretty vanilla. Not sure if i fully understand the question

  • Honestly depends On what it is. Really deprnds. Either way I’ll need time to process. And I may say no.

  • I've probably already said "yes" before she's done speaking, lol

  • Depends on the request, but I'd like to try anything new, as long as it doesn't harm me or is too painful to handle.

  • Too broad. There are some things I’d be willing to try, some that can start slowly and work up, and done that are absolute nos.

  • Depends on the request

  • Such as...

  • A miracle and very much welcime

    • Welcome

  • That would depend on what it is.

  • Well i will discuss it and will do it to please him

  • What’s the request? I might be game that very moment.

  • depends on the request

  • I'd check to make sure it was my wife.

  • I may need a couple of days to think about it. And I may decide I do not want to try it.

  • Be more specific

    • It's a general question, for example a new activity or switching roles

    • If it was something nasty, I dont think I could find a way to be comfortable. However a reasonable request is always welcomed

  • Depends on what she wants...

  • Like what?

    • Something unusual

    • As long as it didn't involve my ass or something probably I'm not getting pissed on and several other hardcore things

    • Dress up BDSM something mild sure

  • It depends, what kind of request are we talking about?

  • Usually i already have pants around my ankles. 😂

  • It depends how bizarre the request is.

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