Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Guys, in a relationship, what do you think when you are perving on other women?
Anonymous
Of course I know there are better looking women than me. Of course I know that there are women out there that my boyfriend would love to have sex with if he got the chance. Of course I know that my boyfriend would wonder what big breasts feel like and such. And Of course, I know that he would never leave me for anyone else because he loves me. I know all of this, so why am I still so insecure? Whenever I catch him looking at another girl, I tell him I'm going to the gym in tight leggings and a sports bra as apposed to the loose sweats I usually wear (something he DOES NOT want to happen). So he doesn't perve on other girls when I am around because he doesn't want me to do that. I perve on men too. I do. If I see a group of shirtless, sweaty construction workers I'll salivate at the mouth. But then I don't think about them either, and I don't think about them naked and I don't wonder about what it would be like to have sex with them. I would still choose my boyfriend to have sex with any day of the week. If I knew my boyfriend thought like this when he looked at other women, I wouldn't have a problem. But this is where men and women differ, I think. I see my construction workers, and I think they're hot. Nothing more. When men see a sexy girl, their brain goes to sexual thoughts. The evidence lies in the ease of an errection. They get turned on. Guys, is this true for you? These are my thoughts, and these are the reasons I become such a harpy when my boyfriend looks at another girl, or porn, or an actress. If I knew he was only perving in the way I do, then that would be okay.
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What Guys Said
(20)Just because we think about sex doesn't mean we'd actually do it. Give us more credit than that. You're acting like you're more holy and pure but you just said you salivate when looking at other men.
Just because we may go one step further in our thoughts doesn't mean our actions change. They're both thoughts.
I have been with the same person for 13 years so with that being said it's only human nature to look. Not everytime he looks he's thinking how sex would be with that person. You think he does but I can assure you he thinks as you do. Errections for men are easy to get unless you have erectile dysfunction. I'll be honest I can get hard just laying next to my partner. I think you are thinking for him and almost assure you he thinks as you do.
that i'd hit it...
At my age, I usually think 'I wonder if she's a nutjob controlfreak too'.
I wouldn't be doing that. Why should I?
You really blowed my kind! I think my girlfriend is in the same situation than you, just because you helped me to understand my girlfriend better I will try to make you understand your boyfriend, as far as I know I most man have same instinct, reactions and desires, I know how hard is not look at a sexy girl she is walking besides. We love good looking bodies and we can even dream about them but you are safe, unless you don't care about yourself anymore and your boyfriend complains about it. yes we are so sexual but we all have common sense and we know what is the difference between what we can watch and what we can have. For me as long as my girlfriend stay in shape and sexy I am so happy. Even if I was dating a super model I would still look at other girls, it's just nature we don't do it because we are comparing or thinking about cheating. You can learn what kind of girls he watch more often and you will see that maybe is not even the type of body is more like a style, the way they dress or the way they walk or talk is similar. You don't need to change yourself but is always good to know your parent preference. No matter how many girls he look at, if he loves you you will always be the most beautiful one.
I have a girl on my bus I have a girlfriend and she was showing me her clevage so I whipped it out and mouth fucked her and titty fucked her hard and then I fucked her pussy until she came about 5 times then I throat fucked her again until I came in her mouth she was crying because I was so big
And let me guess, you then went onto your Xbox Live account and told all your fellow 12 year old dude bros how you totally nailed her mom afterwards, right?
I'm a little confused at the following;
"I see my construction workers, and I think they're hot. Nothing more. When men see a sexy girl, their brain goes to sexual thoughts. The evidence lies in the ease of an errection. They get turned on."
Nowhere else in your post did you mention that when your boyfriend looks at other girls it means more than simply him thinking they're hot. How do you know that it is?
Because I think this is just something all men do. Yes, we have porn and stuff for women, but the majority of it is geared towards men. It's rare to see a porno where there's equal focus on a hot guy. We have endless dirty magazines. Just listening to a male conversation is proof enough. My boyfriend shows different signs when he sees a hot girl. Sometimes it will just be a quick glance, but say if we're alone and relaxed watching TV. A hot actor will appear, and I just look. A hot actress or hot scene will come one, and his breathing slows. He zones out to it. He goes quiet. A few times, he's even seen a hot girl on TV and then immediately turned to me and said, "Let's go to bed," wanting to have sex. It's turned him on enough to get his blood flowing.
And how is that different from your "I'll salivate at the mouth"?
That was an exaggeration. I think they're hot, but they don't get me in the mood.
That makes sense. Men are sex driven, women are more driven by emotions. Your guy does not *choose* to get turned on. It's simply in his nature. Also don't forget that he asked to go to bed with *you*, rather than "sorry hun I need a few minutes to myself in the bathroom".