Is asking for nudes or sexually provocative pictures appropriate? What makes you ask for these?

[Katerina_Belle]

So I post on my private social media quite a lot and it will show some skin depending on what I wear - now I’ve never posted pictures in a bikini or anything similar - mainly I’m either in my working out clothes or wearing a nice dress kinda thing.

Now I’m having an ongoing argument with this guy because he asked for a picture of my cleavage and I got offended (like wtf do you guys really do this and think it’s normal?)

I said to him:

“It’s cheeky and disrespectful of you to even ask me that given that we’re not romantically involved”,

and his response is:

“Your pictures show your cleavage so you can’t be annoyed at me for asking”

Like wtf? None of my pictures shows off my chest, but being a girl with a well-endowed chest I can’t hide it and I shouldn’t have to, I genuinely don’t understand how anyone can justify this?

“Offending” picture attached below:

[TonyV]

Well we do see a little bit of cleavage, but know that dosent matter, he is being inappropriate. I dont know how guys feel comfortable asking some random girl for those kind of pics. I just asked my friend if I could see another pic of her hair do, she had it done up noce for something, but that's it, that's the o ly pic request I've ever made.

I dont get how some people think, like hypothetically, I know you haven't butt even if you did something extreme like post a topless pic, (I know you didn't it s just an example) you dont have to show anyone ever again, there not intiltled to more similar pics just cause you did it once. Hell if your a guys girlfriend even he dosent get to see whatever he want whenever he wants.

That guy is just a jerk.

[chris4fun]

Its not cool to ask for nudes but remember a lot of people believe if you dont ask you won't receive and because there are some women who will send the pictures they ask for to receive compliments or what ever reason guys will continue to ask. If guy could have every woman's phone number and just do a huge group text asking for that stuff they would. Just because some would say yes. And that's all that matters. The no doesn't matter he's only responding to you to try to change your mind. He doesn't actually care about you.. by the way thank you for saying no and being a respectful lady. Wish there was more like you.

[archiz]

Omg what an self righteous ass.
He is wrong you are right.
Tell him what you get if what you see on my profile, you're no one special to me to send you private pics for your own satisfaction.
And please next time when you talk to me, trying using your head for a proper convo instead of your dick.
So offensive I can't believe he is dumb enough to say that.

[Katerina_Belle]

Oh, I was fuming! He actually tried to pin it on me. I did put him in his place and he said "oh" - no from him apology whatsoever. After I said to him "It’s cheeky and disrespectful of you to even ask me that given that we’re not romantically involved” He then asked me out to go for drinks with him, then I said I don't think we're on the same page about this and it's best to leave this here. Then he sent me a dick pic and said let's just have fun. I told him to f∪Ȼǩ off and blocked him.

[archiz]

Excuse my English I was in a rush😂

[archiz]

Disgusting piece of shit

[Katerina_Belle]

Ahah I understood everything you said, you’re alright! But yes it’s scary to know that even people you know have intentions are like that 🤦🏻‍♀️

[archiz]

It's good you blocked him Anyone that bothers you like that, don't waste time on them... just block them instantly.

[Luna1998]

If im in a relationship, I would hate if my guy disrespect me in any ways. Respects is require in every kind of relationship to be able to keep it going. Asking for nudes is fine as long as he asked them with respect and make sure to keep them to himself.

[Daniela1982]

Where would we be without a couple of "nudes" questions being asked daily on GaG? What else could we possibly ask about?

[Fairyluna]

Couldn't say it better than @liz_thorne Lool!

[Liz_thorne]

Guys like this are cringe and have an IQ as high as room temperature.

[Katerina_Belle]

Room temperate in the winter with air con :)

[Liz_thorne]

Room temperate but their room is a walk-in freezer

[Katerina_Belle]

😂 they're all pricks, the lot of them 😩

[ohshee]

Even tho I might think about it for 1 second I never ask to see nudes and in your picture there I'm more interested in your eyes lips and skin. And hair lol

[ZackBan]

Its a thin line that's for sure.
Not completely appropriate but at the same time not offensive beyond forgiveness.
I'm not saying send nudes to whoever asks but don't assume that sending nudes as a shameless act that you'll regret for the rest of your life.
The right person would eventually deserve them and you'll know who that person is because that person won't even need to ask.

[BlueScorpio]

it's inappropriate, it's weird guys still actually do this online. Most men with common sense know asking a girl for nudes online or through text will get most of them blocked.

[Katerina_Belle]

That exactly what happened to him. Blocked. It's borderline creepy that guys normalise this behaviour.

[_Ved_Dev_]

No way is it appropriate. And you shouldn't only get offended rather you should beat the shit out of such people publicly/privately or really/virtually whatever possible. For these are perverts who make beautiful people feel insecure to the level that they lead to believe that they'll be judged for everything they do. So beat the shit out of em and say that the fuck I'm beautiful and the fuck i won't even throw my shit at your face.


All if he's not your boyfriend. If he is then please find a better person.

[wankiam]

you should have just blocked the guy... you dont have to accept sexual harassment and thats exactly what he was doing

[Dragonstarterplus]

Congrats, you were looking for attention and now you're getting it, enjoy to your hearts content

[CarlosWoods]

One more jerk in the world.

[Dargil]

In an ongoing relationship, yes.
As an invitation, no.

[Drumlin2001]

I don't ask for them.
Whar two consenting adults do between themselves is appropriate to them. If they want to send nudes thats their business

[sheikalana]

I think that's immature and stupid and I feel harassed whenever some random guy asks me for nudes.

[elizamichale1]

Whattttt? Really? He really says there's cleavage on display in that pic wowww
Honey u just got to ignore such guys coz it will never stop n u just have to do n act as you feel comfortable

[Makeushiver]

It depends what you mean by appropriate. There are many girls on the internet that have the same exhibitionist/voyeur fantasies that guys have and the anonymity gives them a chance to indulge that. I think it's pretty lame to ask for things like that immediately but converstaions can turn sexual quickly and then it is a bit more appropriate.

[Katerina_Belle]

Yeah that's the thing, I was not even flirting with this guy and then out of nowhere he thinks it's okay to ask pics like that like wtf

[Grond21]

He just has low standards and he thinks he can guilt trip you into lowering your standards

[Katerina_Belle]

Exactly how it is

[_SOARER]

Guys are creeps on social media... why is this surprising?

[finallylettinggo]

You are a beautiful woman and some men are overconfident disrespectful a-holes so unfortunately this will happen time to time. There are women that do stuff like this to men too and some people even enjoy sending nudes to people. If this bothers you the best thing is to just block them and forget about them. It's not appropriate but unfortunately there isn't a lot you can do. Sorry for your experience and i wish you luck in future interactions.

[genericname85]

no, it's not appropriate. but i guess the goal of asking for it isn't "to be appropriate" xD

[RHK36]

It's not appropriate to ask and that's not even a good way to ask. I think if I ever felt the need to ask it would depend on the relationship we had or her personality. I generally just receive them without asking.