Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Is casual dating a nice name for using people for sex?
Anonymous
So I've been seeing a guy for a couple months. Dates and having sex and talking basically everyday. Every time we hangout he seems he's really into me and doting, but then when i bring up being exclusive he wants to only casually date and says he doesn't want a relationship. What should I make of this?
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12 46Nah... in my experience, "casually dating" is a nice way of saying "I don't have any real sense of stability in my life, and I don't want to feel like an asshole when things change, and I break our connection off without warning." Which... honestly... it's not great, but there is definitely a time and place for it. I know that I'm at a point in my life where what I really want is to have a romantic and playful connection with someone without expectations of a longer term thing. It doesn't sound like he is using you at all, at least from what you have written here. To me, it just sounds like he likes and cares for you, but isn't in a good enough spot to have an actual relationship.
I’m ganna be blunt. If your not dating to find a future spouse. You are being an exclusive prostitute without pay. Yo boy is a hoe, he might even be even screwing other women. Hope you not offended.
Yes ur right
I was in a similar position with a guy I was very attracted to. He is 46 im 48
it sucks doesn't it?
The problem is that I still like the guy. I mean I know what I was going to get involved with and I really did not mind, because we were alreayd mature adults and I knew he did nto want a relationship and keep being single as that is what he wants. He does not liek marriage or the drama of a serious relationship, but he wants what most guys want the sex.
and I was aware of his intentions of being just casual, in a sense of seeing each other only from time to time for sex, but even if it was casual for me in order to feel more comfy around teh guy or relaxed the 2 times I had sex wsith him, before the sex we went out and go eat something catch up and talk, like friends, but iand in thsoe both tmes he did not midn doing it and he had a good time, we laugh, e tc but he wanted to go for a 3rd round with me in December and once again I susggested him to go out first, it seem this time he did not want to do it, he did not say it to me direclty but I sense he just wanted sex this 3rd time and no eating. I assume and it is my assumption is that eve we were casual we did not ahve to go out for meal first. In my opinion teh fact that you go out with a guy only for sex by having a good tiem together on a bar or restaurant eating something it means we are hving something formal or we are in a relatonship , eating doe snot mean anything of that. But I guess this guy assumed it was. So odd right? So the 3rd time never came but I was always up to see him I never said No to him in any moment. he came with his own conclusioin of me for theh way I reacted.
No, because "Using someone for sex" does not exist. Stop saying it.
He just wants sex.
Seems self evident, doesn't it? He's "loving the one he's with", and when it's you, he's into you. He just doesn't want it to be "only" you. When people "casual date", which we used to call "nsa - no strings attached", BOTH parties are supposed to be in agreement they want it that way, from the start. I don't know if you had that discussion. At this point, it's irrelevant. You have to decide if you can accept things as they are, or get out and find something exclusive. You have the ball, don't pass it off to him, he doesn't want it.
He’s got a thing for someone else
u think so?
There's nothing to make of it. He was upfront and said he doesn't want a relationship. That's not going to change. So you are either ok with it or you're not.
I was in a other boat. Casual dating but without the sex. Basically she wanted to wait until a relationship for sex but was just having fun dating me. Nothing serious, just dating. Aka casual dating meant free meals for her. That was the end of the casual dating with her.
thats hurtful...
No, it's not 'using' people. He's being 100% crystal clear and honest with his desires. You should be grateful he's telling you exactly what he wants.
You're in a relationship
Without the label of one
I GUARAN FUCKING TEE IT
Id move on
It should be clear that he just wants sex from you.
He fucks other women, or at least wants the option to do so. He doesn't really care about any future with you. You're a fuck buddy. Sorry.
Depends on the people interacting
½ and ½.. Casual is for people who lack commitment. in your case, sounds like its a booty call
well we do go on dates too
sounds like trouble to me
He cannot won't do commitment
Yes, "dating" seems to clearly mean "fucking like banshees".
Yes he is just using you
damn
So you've been together for a couple months and he doesn't want a relationship? Yo WTF, he's just using you. So END it asap.