Is he going to be mad that he made me come but I didn‘t want sex?

[spacystacy]

I didn’t want to let it get this far. We were in his car and the makeout session caught me in the moment but right after I regretted it. So much that I was trembling. Needless to say I‘ve been used just for sex by men in the past and it traumatized me.

But I didn’t tell him that. I told him that this happened too quickly for my taste. He wondered whether he‘d made a mistake, acted in the wrong. I said no. I said we went too far beyond my comfort zone but he didn’t do anything wrong. I said I could‘ve stopped it in time.

He didn‘t appear angry at all but is he going to be mad that I‘m sending him home with blue balls? We‘ve been dating for a month now and he already shows affection openly in public but still …

[godfatherfan]

So you lied to him. You don't say how long you have been together. but if you are at a point where you are getting into sex or skimming the surface of sex, you need to have a conversation and tell him. He at least needs to know the broad stokes if you don't want to get specific. It is seriously not fair to him. If he finds out later, and it was me, I would immediately dump you for making me feel like shit for no reason. If you don't trust him enough to tell him your story, you should not be with him. Or at least you shouldn't be doing anything that puts you in the situation you were in. So leave it in your pants until your ready, or tell him your story.

[Drew-1990]

I don't think you did anything wrong and I don't think he would be angry at you. But I do think you need to have an actual talk with him if you've been going out for a month and let him know why you're going slow. If you tell him the truth and he is an actual good guy, he'll be more than willing to wait for you. But he deserves to know so he doesn't think you're not interested.

[Koneko911]

I'd be mad personally. Not because I didn't get sex. But because you waited during something to only after tell me I made you uncomfortable. You're a grown women, if I'm doing something and you think it's going too fast or you dislike it you know how to talk and express that. Not express it only after we're done so now I look like a dick who made you uncomfortable when you could have easily told me during to stop

[summiter]

He sounds like he understands ur situation. Do u plan on trying sex again? Maybe just have fun getting naked and stick with fingers/handjobs or oral? I'm sure his "blue balls" got emptied as soon as he got home and masturbated... that has happened to many guys.

[Billlewis]

I don't think he'll hold a grudge over something like that He's probably forgotten about it already.

[normalice]

Probably a little but its the sort of thing men are used to.

[AviatorTom]

You got caught up in the moment and enjoyed what he was doing to you. Nothing wrong with that. It would have been nice, though, if you helped him get off too. If you didn't want sex, fine, but there are other things you could have done for him. Him leaving with blue balls and not complaining is a sign that he likes you, and that he's a good guy. Consider yourself lucky.

[RavVid]

I'm sure he is disappointed and probably frustrated but if he was going to be mad I think it would have been at that time

[bowenw]

I'm sure he survived and will be back.

[DarkWinterNights]

He’s going to wonder if he did something wrong, or was too forceful, or any number of other things. You should have been up front with him about it. Now he may be uncomfortable around you and start looking for an out.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes he’s not going to feel happy

[MrDaveAPSI]

Can't let your past define you. Remember it, but, don't let it define you

[Luckycharms12]

You cum

[elaphe]

I would be open with him and explain your situation. With that being said, I have had a similar experience. I made a girl come with head but when I asked her to return the favor, she told me it was gross. I was like, thanks a lot! That seemed selfish.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t be surprised if he stops talking to you. When I read this in my mind I’m thinking of she had sex w him now she’s going to accuse him of rape. Chances are he may feel the same, like this could come back in him. So part of him may feel panicked. I don’t think he’s going to be mad, he’s more worried.