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I'm a feminist but I don't see any rational reason why a woman should have to sit at home all day cooking, cleaning and changing diapers. I don't care if it's your personal decision. I understand when women are forced to be housewives or when they need to do it out of necessity and circumstance. Like if a girl was not given an education and was married off to an old man when she was 12. Or like when I was a kid I knew this lady who was a housewife because her daughter was disabled and needed to be taken care of 24/7. That's fine, it's matter of circumstance. But when someone lives in a liberal society, they've had all the tools they need and they still chose to be a doormat. I mean, WTF is wrong with you? Also, I strongly believe that if a person, any person male or female, has an education like if you're a qualified doctor, nurse, teacher, etc. that it is your moral DUTY to leave your home and serve your community.
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18 32My Mother was a housewife but she certainly wasn't a doormat.
Yes it is.
lol you're brain washed.
Yes, I believe that it's bad to look down on housewives. What I believe you are missing is that many feel that their first and only DUTY is to their family, their only DUTY as parents is to their children; it is their job as parents to make whatever sacrifices they need, or whatever choices they need for their children's futures. If a woman, or a man, decide that it is in their family's, their children's best interest to be at home, that is their choice to make. The point of feminism is/was to promote the rights of women so that they may choose what it is that they wish to be in life. Many didn't want to just be mothers, didn't want to just clean all day, didn't want to be seen as lesser citizens than men. That is all a good and right to fight for. However, that does not mean that some women don't enjoy that they can a provider for their families and take care of their home environment as a housewives. Some men would and do choose to do the same if they can. That IS equality, that IS feminism. The right to make the choice to be whatever it is that you want to be as a woman, the same as any man. Not everyone wants the same. Not everyone needs the same.
If you believe that everyone should be working together at their maximum capabilities to better humanity or better the state that's not feminism. That's a different ideology all together.
I'm a Marxist feminist.
Clearly then this is not an argument that we will ever come to some sort of agreement on. I can respect the visions Charlotte Perkins Gilman, Margaret Benston, and Peggy Morton (to name a small few). I believe that their arguments that women should not be forced into the domestic sphere were correct. However, I feel that to say that women cannot/should not choose to become housewives ignores free will and the democratic rights of choice. No woman should be forced to simply be a house wife. I believe that their should be shared domestic responsibilities in home environment. I don't agree that their should be a wage for domestic work. I feel wages are earned from an employer based off the perceived value of your work. As such I would see a housewife or househusband as "Self employed."
Women will never be free without economic freedom.
I believe there is still a huge economic inequality in the US based on sex. That gap needs to be closed. However, "Economic Freedom" comes with the choice to pursue education and employment opportunities of your choosing. I feel that men and women have, for the most part, those same freedoms offered to them. That is not to say that women are not still held back by sexism in the work place or in the culture.
Lots of housewives are the ones that control the household finances. Mother might not be making the money but that doesn't mean they aren't the ones pending it.
Feminism cannot work without communism. We all need to be thrust into a level playing field. Women around the world are still victims of economic backlash.
I disagree. Feminism did not work in communism either. Are you honestly going to say that women are treated equally in Cuba and treated equally in communist Russia? In a perfect world, perhaps. But this is not a perfect world. Feminism needs strong educated women of all back grounds to fight for women's rights of choice to work. It doesn't need another ideology. It should work in any ideology that promotes free will or free choice.
should have read, "... were treated equally in communist Russia..."
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Fortunately, I'm not a feminist and I don't give a crap about what they look down on or their ideology.
It makes no sense... so you obviously don't want kids then? Because that's what you're going to have to do for your kids... fathers also of course, it goes both ways for both genders.
But it's your belief and opinion, suit yourself.
anyways.. looks like you clickbaited me into here as you dont have an actual question.. you just wanted to rant.
i know of a college educated woman who stopped working in her 40s because her husband's business started to take off. she became a homemaker. n w/ their house, it's a full time job. she enjoys entertaining people, cooking w/ food her garden yields, and managing the $. they were also hardcore into democrats. watchin' rachel maddow, jon stewart, etc.
i'm yet to meet someone has an MD that chooses to be a homemaker.
So if any woman chooses to be a stay at home mother that means she's "not doing what's best for the child" but instead is a "doormat"? Even though she chose to stay at home because that has her desire? ?
They have the right to choose
A feminist who does look down on housewives. Why? Because these women are better than her. Wow what a surprise. Mind blown!
Lol you "don't care if it's their personal decision" and that says it all really.
You're selfish, much like most feminists.
You're going against what you claim to stand for.
If a family has a kid, if by your logic they shouldn't stay at home, who should look after the kid then?
Because some women have a drive to do those things? An operations manager in this store I worked quite her job after she had her 1st child so she could be a stay at home mom. If that's what she genuinely wanted to do and found that to be more fulfilling than sitting at a desk all that then who are you or any of us to judge her?
Does no one belive in free will and freedom of choice in the west any more? :P
What do you suggest make women leave the house at gunpoint? A lot of women choose to stay at home at their own free will.
Looking down on someone is always bad
Sometimes one has to look down to even see them.
Yeah. You shouldn't feel superior. Feminists are out if line a lot.
I don't think people really care what you think all that much...