Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Is it bad to not want to date a girl because she doesn't like sex?
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I'm going to break things off with this girl because I saw her post on twitter that she makes men wait months and treat her like a queen to "earn" sex. To me, that sounds just as selfish as me saying "earn my affection with sex."
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I think I've learned a valuable lesson here. I will not be contacting her again. Ever.
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What Girls & Guys Said
40 82that does not mean she does not like sex it means she wants a certain level of respect, unless would she means by "queen" is materialistic which is bad.
definetly something not right about that because she puts too much on herself quite bigheaded. Social media though is the killer of relationships. If you didn't see her post that you wouldn't break up with her
Wow yeah that’s not right. Yes I’m a woman and yes I want to be treated like a Queen, well not all the time 😩 But hell my man will get treated like a King 🤴 this ain’t no one way. That’s why relationships don’t even get a chance to even start. It’s to much “Me, me, me”
No, a lack of mutual desire is a perfectly good reason to end a relationship (or to not start one).
well the question is different to what you described. and i would date a girl who don't like sex longs if she lets my get it somewhere else and especially at least so i don't die a virgin lol. the girl in the description tho she likes to be treated like a queen so really that's up to you if you like doing that and don't mind her been selfish. Me i would find that hot but not really good for a relationship unless if it was just a pure foreplay thing.
End it if you aren't getting out of the couple what you want. Millions of women out there to choose one. Don't hang on to someone just because you have been together for a while but aren't on the same circuit. End it so you both can find someone with who you are both compatible. Especially being young as you are with hormones leaking out of every pore.
Run, run really fast, don't look back no matter what you hear!
But seriously, you will be jumping hurdles for sex for years only for her to leave you for a woman or a 'better' horse... I mean man. Unless she means she is reserving herself for a man that proves he'll treat her right, and she needs to learn how not to package that like something that would send a normal man packing. (p. s Go now! Ity not worth the risk!)
It seems very immature to me. Can't blame you if you break it off with her.
She is not girlfriend material. Don't feel bad.
Not 'bad' or 'good'. Just be with someone who gives you what you want. If sex it is the way you want it, find someone who gives you it your way.
No. Absolutely your choice for whatever reason... from color of hair to not wanting sex. By your description it sounds like yes she withholding as manipulation but if you’re into her, why not just ask. Maybe there’s a dramatic history there or whatever else. But if you’re not that i to her yet, then move on if you feel that’s right. We all have intuition for a reason.
It's not bad at all! Listen to your feelings!
*Sex is not a commodity and is not an obligation that a girl acquires because she is in a relationship. It is valid for a girl to establish a stable, exclusive, ongoing relationship before validating it with sexual intercourse. That does not mean she should not "walk the bases" to keep a guy interested, but that last step is worth preserving.
However...
"her post on twitter (says) that she makes men wait (for) months and treat her like a queen to "earn" sex."
* Her statement is clearly disingenuous toward relationships and if that happened to me, I would show her the door.
No, it's called being a human. Dump her.
She can make suitors wait for months and treat her like a queen if she wants; but what does she bring to the table that makes it a mutually satisfying relationship during that time? I hope she doesn't expect you to forego dating other women during that time, as the point where sex starts is usually the point where the relationship is considered to be mutually exclusive. Before that point it's casual, and neither person really has any right to expect the other not to be still shopping around.
She probably just doesn't want to be having sex with every guy she finds attractive/dates, she wants to make sure the guy is invested in a relationship with her before she has sex with him. It probably just means sex means a lot to her and nothing to do with her not liking sex or expecting too much of you, it's not wrong to end the relationship as you clearly have different values but don't be so rude about it.
I swear all these 'pick me' ass females on here xD
Do you think women owe you sex for existing? or for taking them on one dinner? Maybe even three? There is absolutely nothing wrong with waiting to see if you have a future with someone, before jumping into bed with them. Did you ever consider the fact that maybe she just places more value on physical connection than you do? Having patience and self control does not = not liking sex. Earning physical intimacy through showing respect, loyalty and treating someone right shouldn't be such an offensive concept to you people. Please do break up with her. I hope she finds someone who doesn't think treating her right before plowing her is too much to ask.
She's a dumb bitch.
@6suejsjsj And you're a pig with entitlement problems. Your mother did a horrific job.
Ok? Someone saying to you that you have to earn sex is a nice personality trait for you?
@6suejsjsj Yes. If a man told me he wanted to get to know me better, in order to see if I am worth sharing that physical connection with by proving that I am loyal, respect him and value him, I would 100% wait as long as it took. It wouldn't be a chore either :) sex isn't just sex for some people. It doesn't make them arrogant or manipulative. It means they are selective on who they let touch their bodies. I am the same and Im glad I waited.
That’s an important compatibility thing! If not having sex ever is a dealbreaker, you two need to see different people.
Obviously any woman with abit of self respect for herself isn't gonna have sex with a guy until she knows he's good and will treat her well. Earning her trust.
But i think using sex as a reward is wrong and makes for a superficial relationship. Also doesn't mean she doesn't like sex if she's making you wait, just means she doesn't need it straight away in a relationship.
@glitterfairy16 thats a pretty good answer! how long do u think guys should wait until they make a move?
@MarkyMark77 probably a month, just so you can get to know the girl before rushing into things.
@glitterfairy16 yeah that makes sense. can we chat more about this?
@MarkyMark77 of course , what is it you wanna talk about , do you want advice on something?
@glitterfairy16 yeah can u follow me so i can chat?
@MarkyMark77 we can chat here i don't mind
@glitterfairy16 yeah but its easier to pm. can u follow?
@MarkyMark77 okay but please promise me your motives are for advice and nothing more. Its nothing personal but I've had to deal with a lot of creepy men on here and im just trying to be safe.
@glitterfairy16 ok np
@MarkyMark77 okay i will add you
If having sex is a requirement to you then you're obviously not made for each other and you should be honest with her and move on.