Is it bitchy to dump my boyfriend because he's unemployed?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He was laid off a couple of months before we started dating. It didn't bother me at the time. 1.5 years later, he's still unemployed and not doing much to change that. Our relationship is great and the only issue is his unemployment. This means that he's more defensive as time goes on because of his ego and he sometimes is unnecessarily testy because of that. It also means that I pay for everything and we can't really plan a concrete future together because his finances aren't stable. I hate to be that girl who leaves because of money, but I can't support us both forever and I have given him 1.5 years already without nagging about the job. How long do I have to give him? It just feels so wrong to dump someone because they're broke.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

its not bitchy its smart. you should never have begun dating him in the first place, you knew he had no job. he's lazy unmotivated AND has a nerve to be testy and egotistical on top of that too? omg!!! if you are gonna be dating a broke nigga he better be the most romantic seductive man ever, not making you pay for everything and having an attitude too. there is nothing wrong with judging a guy based on money. I bet he wouldn't be dating you if you were broke, then he wouldn't have anyone to support him (think about that). 2 broke people won't work unless welfare is involved bc someone has to pay for the other one.

[Anonymous]

Yes, IMHO it is a little bitchy, but you're also making the right decision. Your future is way more important. You can't just eat love, buy things with love or pay your morgage with love :p
If he really loves you, he might gonna try to fix everything in order to make things work out again between you two :)

[Neverwrong05]

Help him get a job, does he have any qualifications?

[Asker]

I've tried. He hates all of my ideas, gets mad at me, tells me it's condescending to just tell him how I would do things etc.

[Neverwrong05]

Dump him.

[e92brah]

depends how old he is and why he's unemployed. if he's unemployed because he's just lazy and not looking, dump his ass

[Asker]

we're both 25. He doesn't really look for jobs. Like one or two applications a month MAYBE. and he signed up for a agency to look for him too and since then has done nothing.

[e92brah]

talk to him first then if nothing happens dump him

[Longblackveil]

I think it's great. Hopefully it will motivate him to get off his ass

[Longblackveil]

Your not really dumping him because he's broke are you? I think your dumping him because he's not doing anything to change that, right?

[Asker]

well both, if I'm being completely honest. I'm tired of paying for 2 people at every meal and buying two movie tickets and two concert tickets and two drinks every time I go to the bar. At first I didn't mind because when you're in things together, it'll all even out eventually, but it totally hasn't. Not even close.

[truthbeknown]

Love doesn't pay the bills. He is using you and proving he is lazy and uninterested in paying his share. Sounds like a road to disaster. Dump him!

[ilovchipmunk]

I think you make a very sensible choice unless he's a disability or cripple sth.

[BertMacklinFBI]

that's the first valid reason to dump him depending on circumstances.

[CommieKiller]

I've never understood how all these unemployed guys get girlfriends. Does he have an acoustic guitar? Because I know plenty of guys who match this description 100%, and they all have acoustic guitars...

[front2back]

I'm surprised you put it up with it for longer than 3 months.

[rUinSAYAN]

you shall not be his bank..
that's not what a relationship stands for.

[StevenMK249MadMan]

I think good on you motivate that dude he may come back to you with a job and thank you for it too

[Anonymous]

If he's not doing anything to change that then you're right to leave. he won't change and will try to make you think he will if yiu leave. Just keep moving.