Is it inappropriate for a girl in a new relationship to keep a male friend around that she had sex with?

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I think it’s highly disrespectful and inappropriate. What about you?

MicroViewer · Accepted Answer

Why don't we open our Bibles to Ephesians 5:3 where Paul preaches against fornication, which is against God's will? So, let me start by reminding our GILFs here gathered before us today that we shouldn't judge, but instead lead a life with the promise of love and righteous authority because we know what Jesus said in John 13:34-35, "A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another." And can I get an Amen from all these righteous folks who aren't engaging in unholy, sinful affairs that go against God's teachings, like sleeping with PAWGs outside of marriage? That leads only to greed and prideful downfall, as warned in Proverbs 6:32, "But a man who commits adultery lacks judgment; whoever does so destroys himself." So let's pray for forgiveness and guidance from our Lord and Savior, Christ Jesus. We must not deny God and submit to the lustful flesh for temporary pleasures, so heed His words in Luke 16:15, "What people value highly is detestable in God's sight." Let us abandon such filthy temptations and aspire to be more virtuous, like our Savior. May we all repent and turn away from our wicked pasts of sodomy trolling and seek salvation. Amen.

Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

I think it is inappropriate. Unless the significant other is fully aware and accepts this as just part of your past (they won’t) it then requires a concealed fact and, in most people’s mind, an omission of fact is the same thing as a lie. Starting off a relationship with a lie is a horrible foundation to build on. Add now the fact that the ability to hang out with your ‘friend’ means the thin line between now inappropriate, but once normal, behavior between you two is very dangerous to ground to tread indeed. A bad fight with the girlfriend/boyfriend/Spouse, maybe a little booze, or just being in a emotionally vulnerable place and huge mistakes can happen easily that can be life altering.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It is pretty inappropriate in most cases, saying most because there are always exceptions to the rule. If you’re still close friends with someone you did the dirty with where you’re talking to them everyday etc,  especially  if it is recent, that is just disrespectful to your partner. Actually you shouldn’t be talking to another guy every day all the time when you’re in relationship either lol even if it is platonic

wiltingrosepetal · Accepted Answer

Depends on a lot of factors. How recent was it? Did the girl cheat on her last partner with him? Have either of them had genuine feelings for each other? How many times did they hook up?
If it was just a drunken mistake one time four years ago when both were single, who cares. The new boyfriend has no reason to feel insecure. Though, the girl should definitely put up a few extra boundaries with her friend

Jbear27 · Answer

I think it’s inappropriate to keep him around. If the new boyfriend ever finds out it’s going to look really bad.

petitedollbabee · Answer

I think it depends on when that was and how their friendship has stayed since. If it was years ago and their friendship has continued purely platonically since, then I see no problem. But if she had sex with that friend right before meeting her boyfriend, and the friend still has sexual feelings towards her, then yes it’s disrespectful.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

To me, it sends a message that the girl is not really interested in a serious relationship with the new boyfriend.

madhatters4 · Answer

if they are platonic friends then it is fine. if they primarily just have a romantic connection and no friendship beyond that then no she should not keeping hanging out with an ex hook up

Red_Arrow · Answer

Depends on the girl's feelings, and how the new guy feels about it. I know of girls that have had sexual relations with a guy, then went into a new relationship and and remained completely true to her new guy. I was invited to the wedding of a girl I was intimate with and we remained friends.

molonski2 · Answer

Well , I do that all the time , so I'm a serious double standard guy if I say its wrong , but I'm also kinda with you on your opinion also , in that , I understand what you are saying.

rachel776 · Answer

if she's not still having sex with him i don't see what the problem is 🤷‍♀️

nice-girl · Answer

Totally inappropriate. In my opinion, it is inappropriate to have any kind of male friend when in a relationship.  It serves no purpose and it can really damage your relationship

ZackBan · Answer

My ex stayed friendly with me post breakup and eventually started dating.

I was fully over her and even then we came close to hooking up (her cheating) a couple of times

Glad to say we never did but it's proof that once you're with someone new the old lover needs to go

Billlewis · Answer

I don't think that's the case at all. If she's that close to him, I'd feel terrible if I told her she couldn't see him anymore.

Gent207-2 · Answer

It depends on a number of factors namely: longevity of relationship, parameters and quality of friendship.  For instance a five year ago one night stand with a respectable friendship is okay.

METALHEADi · Answer

💯% with You

Naruse · Answer

yeah it's fine if they're friends. If I fucked a male friend would I have to stop being friends with them? I feel the same way about when girls stop boys from being friends with girls they dated in the past, just seems like insecurity. Like if you trust your partner it's not a problem.

SongBird3 · Answer

he's not her friend. he's her back up

Miristheiss · Answer

Yes. If there is a commitment then that other guy needs to go. No guy should commit to you if you expect to stay in contact with ex lovers. This is just relationship basics.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes that’s disrespectful for sure , she shouldn’t be getting into a Néw relationship with anyone until she has moved on from an ex period

Dargil · Answer

Nobody has any reason for a "side relationship' If you need that, do the cuck a favor and head for the door.

JacobJordan · Answer

People you have had sex with should be treated the same way you treat exes... as if they don't exist. If you didn't stay with them then it was for a reason

Tim2nice · Answer

It wouldn’t bother me but then again I have a high tolerance

sheikalana · Answer

It is inappropriate and disrespectful towards your new partner. He won't be happy to know you still keep that guy around.

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