Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I made a question about this topic. 150+ people shared their opinions. Didn't expect that lol. Some of them expressed negativity on men valuing female virginity.
They even called such men misognynists (people who hate all women)
I am an abstinent virgin. I want my FUTURE non virgin husband to appreciate being my first man. It turns out those people are against men appreciating female virginity which means they dislike the idea of my future husband appreciating my virginity.
Some questions
1) who is compatiable with me on this stance? (I value my virginity)
a) the man who appreciates being my first b) the man who doesn't care about being my first
2) What should his views about my virginity to be for you not to view him negatively? (I want him to value my virginity)
Look if I value saving myself for the man I will love then isn't it logical that I would want him to appreciate being my first man too?
Why is it not okay that a man appreciates what his virgin girlfriend does?
Is it irrational that I want my future husband to appreciate the fact that I saved myself for him?
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What Girls & Guys Said
9 30Not at ALL irrational. It would be a wonderful thing for your future husband, and he'd be a fool not to appreciate it
Yes, that is wildly irrational.
What should I want instead?
You can want whatever you like, and appreciate your own purity in whatever way you'd like but can't expect others to value it.
Others? I expect that from my husband. Me- I rejected all the men who approached me because I wanted to share intimacy only with the man whom I love and who loves me. Him-ok. I don't care about it at all. This sounds fine to you?
Yes it is
🧐 ok. I assume this would be rational -me- I am so happy that I chose you to be my first man. Him- I don't care that it is me not another man Me- Thank you dor thinking what I value is worthless. You truly love me
My only opinion is
If there is a sexual problem between the two of you.
Finding it out on your Wedding night is not the time or place for that.
Have you read nt question?
Yes and I appreciate how you feel. This is just my opinion based on the knowledge I got from some friends of mine that felt the way you do and got burned.
Is it irrational that I want my future husband to appreciate the fact that I saved myself for him? And almost all my acquaintances and family members were abstinent before marriage not they are happily married. My example>your example It is lame to try people unless you find the best fucker. It is a boring life to have no lust for your partner
I have the utmost respect for you. It sounds like a real treat for the lucky guy. I just don’t want it to ruin your dream.
You won't ruin anything. Don't worry. I will marry the man I love. That is the only man I want to be intimate with Why should I be forced to have other sexual partners? Is it right? Testing partners to see which one is the best sexual match sounds creepy to me.
Good for you.
What are your thoughts on a guy cheating on his girl just because he's not sexually satisfied?
Cheating is wrong. What is the reason why he is not satisfied?
Maybe because he used to fuck a lot of different types of girl before and is not into monogamy.
Then why did he marry a monogamous girl? Or why did he even get married?
He married monogamous girl because he wanted to fuck her.
So badly? Lol
Yeah! I have seen a guy marry a girl. He got her pregnant 3 times and made her abort then he divorced her.
What marriage has to do there? He could those things without marrying a woman. I am sure your story is a lie
He wanted to try marriage. The girl was his girlfriend and a virgin (he was the first one to fuck her).
He finds out later that marriage is not for him.
Try marriage? Lol When people want sex they try one night stand
He was already getting the one night stand. The girl wanted marriage and I have seen the girl. She's 10 times more beautiful and sexy than you. Even her sister is sexier than you.
Plus, she was in early 20 back then and he was in early 30.
Ok. I don't think I'm beautiful. And why did he divorce her if he wanted her so much?
The girl wanted a baby and when she got pregnant the 3rd time, she was really forceful so he divorced her.
He saved her then. How could she marry a man who doesn't love her? Did she have her baby?
She got abortion. She is not dumb to be a single mother.
She is dumb for marrying a trashy man. She is dumb fof not divorcing him. Shw is dimb for killing her baby.
She married a man who she knew had fucked girls before and was able to fuck girls after marriage too. She knew that his values were different from hers. Yet, she married him.
Ok but did he value virginity? Lol i know why you are making up things about her
I am not making things up and don't know if he did. All I know is that he was the first one to fuck her which is kinda hard to believe but it's possible as she was from village background.
In what country was it? She must be still very special for him to marry her when he could have one night stands
In India. I am India fyi. And he was fucking her before marriage too. Like I said, they were dating/fucking.
Okay. Nice story
It is true.
I think it's a bad idea that you are saving yourself
GET OVER IT
Why would I want to have sex with someone I am not attracted to? Isn't it wrong to force me to do what disgusts me?
Because it's not always about looks
Are you talking about sex with love or what? I'm confused.
Both
If there is love then marriage. If not then nothing
There can be marriage without love
In my case? Impossible
Yes, in your case
Like I said impossible
Nope
I better die celibate with no kids than have sex without love
Yikes
Yikes is sex without love 🤮
not really
I feel disgust for that idea. How is it not gross to have sex with someone you feel no desire for?
That's just how some people roll. You can't just hate someone for what they do
I don't hate anyone. But I do feel moral and physical disgust for some type of people
that's called hate
Hate means I want bad things to happen to them
no, you are repulsed by them, that's hate
I said what I said
and i said what i said NOW GET OVER IT
I don't feel anger nor do I have evil wishes for the people I abhor
if you don't like something, you hate them
Now not liking something about someone means hating them? Then hate is not a bad thing
hate's always a bad thing why should people hate people. that's how wars start you need to learn to accept people for who they are... and not hate them for it
I abhor immoral people. And I don't fight with them. I only avoid
Like i said hate, is wrong
Avoiding them is wrong? Not wanting to date people like them is wrong?
Yeah Because you're judging them
Yes I do judge them. I have the right to have standards.
Yes, and that's wrong what you have
Not wrong. I have high standards
No, it's def. wrong GET OVER IT
Doesn't matter if it is wrong. They are immoral and I judge them.
Yes it does matter And you make me sick
Do whatever makes you happy I guess, but don't be disappointed if he doesn't care that much
I will be dusappointed deeply. Why would he think it's meaningless to have chosen him?
It's not irrational
no, its not irrational.
I think, he should be happy and you should be appreciated.
No but he should do the same with you ;)
Lolll
Your comment made me snicker.
Its not irrational its very rational. Cheers for saving it so long
Yes, as a guy I would expect the same.
And it is not irrational
I value virginity too that's why me and my boyfriend are saving ourselves marrige
I would very much appreciate that of my future wife.