Is it more pleasurable to orgasm or watch your partner orgasm?

I was surprised by the results of my other poll (1) in which many men said they would rather their partner orgasm than them. Is it because they would feel guilty otherwise, or do they genuinely find it more pleasurable to watch their partner orgasm?

So, how about you personally? Do you find it more pleasurable to orgasm or watch your partner orgasm?

(1) When engaging in casual sex, do you care about whether your partner orgasms?

Is it more pleasurable to orgasm or watch your partner orgasm?


It's much more pleasurable to orgasm
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It's more pleasurable to orgasm
Vote B
It's more pleasurable to watch my partner orgasm
Vote C
It's much more pleasurable to watch my partner orgasm
Vote D
They're equally pleasurable
Vote E
Neither are pleasurable
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I don't have the experience necessary to answer this question
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  • It is much more physically pleasurable to orgasm, but it is more psychologically pleasurable to make my partner orgasm.

    My last partner was a nymphomaniac and a compulsive masturbator, and had been doing so several times a day for years, but I was her first partner. She had gotten so used to her own intense routine, involving multiple sex toys (and porn), that she was unable to orgasm from my having sex with her. I only could get her off from fingering her and her telling me what to do, or if she used her vibrator while we were having anal. It was definitely frustrating because I could not last long enough to give her the stimulation level she had gotten used to, although she said that she was aroused by my mere presence which was nice to hear.

    She said that she preferred making (and watching) me cum, as she could always get herself off whenever.

  • Of course it is immensely pleasurable to orgasm. But there is something extra, super special, in helping my partner reach levels of arousal and to orgasm a number of times. To leave her exhausted by pleasures. To give her, maybe 20 orgasms and to be part of that happening. That is the best. And she then brings me to mine after. Perfect...

Most Helpful Girls

  • Don’t get me wrong having an orgasm is a wonderful experience. I enjoy it each time. But to cause my husband such pleasure. It sends goosebumps across my skin. I love watching his expressions, his body tense & feel his orgasm inside me. It makes me feel powerful & sexy. I’m happy to be able to make him feel that way.

  • I don't see how watching someone have an orgasm is pleasurable. Unless there is another meaning for pleasure. To me, It is obviously more pleasurable physically to have my own orgasm. But watching my partner have an orgasm does look hot though and turns me on. But I wouldn't say it is pleasurable lol

    • pleas·ur·a·ble pleasing; enjoyable. I assume in this case it's emotional pleasure

    • Aaaah that makes sense to me now haha

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  • That's a good question. I think it's more pleasurable when my SO orgasms. Usually I continue with what i'm doing to him until he orgasms, stare at him when he does then lie next to him as if my job was done. It's hard for me to reach to an orgasm anyway, so i'd rather have/see him with full pleasure

  • It is very pleasurable to watch her orgasm and know that I was part of that. But sometimes my drive is so high that I just have to ravish and devour her body and the experience and make round two for her.

  • In my experience as a straight male, watching my girl orgasm is more pleasurable mostly because females have more intense orgasms than men and I feel like having sex more for her than myself, however giving my cum to her is more pleasurable to me than the orgasm its self.

  • Equally pleasurable

  • It's much more pleasurable if we both orgasm at precisely the same time.

  • The most amazingly sexual pleasure of all, for me, is to orgasm & ejaculate whilst my condom-less) hard, cock is insidw my, s

    • ... i inside my girl's vagina at the same time orgasms !

  • Honestly, there's pretty much nothing I enjoy than a beautiful sensual woman orgasming. Definitely more important she cums multiple times.

  • Both is preferred. Having an orgasm is more pleasurable physically.

  • love it allllll

  • watching her is a lasting effect... you can use that image over and over. It basically imprints in your mind. You can dream of her, you can have a wet dream of her, you can masturbate to her, and you can find hope in a hopeless time from her... For yourself it's basically just in the moment...

    I say watching her ya lol...

  • I really love when my boyfriend feels good

  • It's perfect when both orgasm at the same time!

    • yesssss

  • It's different, but pleasurable.
    It's hard to say.

    A full body, energy surging up and down your spine, down to your toes and borderline convulsing orgasm is damn near one of the best experiences of your life. But that's not every orgasm. Some orgasms are a quick, almost over and done with experience.

    But giving your partner that level of orgasm is amazing. Feeling her tremble like that, seeing her face turn red and relax in delight just makes you want to nod with pride. Like YEAAAA lol.

  • Equally pleasurable

  • It is both

  • I will go with equally because in sex both need to have orgasm

  • I prefer to make my partner orgasm. A focus on my orgasm just feels weird.

  • I love to organism but I also love my partners organism

  • There was an interesting study done, on what were the main sexual needs of men and woman. The highest for men was that their woman be sexually satisfied

  • I love doing it to my partner... 🥰🥰

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