Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Met this guy few months ago on insta. We chatted A LOT everyday. He was very interested in me. 2 weeks ago we finally met and we had sex. The sex wasn't the best due to the fact that i am not experienced (had sex 3 times so far). He knew this tho, i told him. He said i shouldn't worry. He actually treated me nicely during sex. After sex when we got dressed he said that we look so cute together and was just very sweet. Till here everything was okey tiiiiiilll my insecurity started kicking in later on that day via messges.
The next day he said he is busy and can't text much (he never did that). I accepted it, left him alone ofc. I then said if everytjing is ok, he can tell me if he doesn't want contact anymore. He said Im being silly and should stop. I stopped. He again said he's busy (yea righ..) i left him.
next day he didn't text at all. I then told him i wanna cut off contact with hin cause he clearly doesn't want me. He said okey. Then i said he couldve been honest with me, is accept it if he only wanted sex or if i was ugly and he doesn't want me anymore. He then said I shouldn't speak for him and got angry and said i was being clingy (which i wasn't, i left him alone) . I then texted him a lot and he ignored every message. Read it and didn't reply. This went on for 2 weeks. I even apologized few days ago, but he just left me on read. I also told him to block me, but he doesn't.
Then he saw it was my bday on my instastory and he wished me a happy bday. I said thank you. Since then he hasn't written me at all and he also doesn't watch my stories anymore.
is he really not interested anymore?
Is it normal for a guy to become distant after having sex?
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He actually messaged me after sex asking me if i was okey. And he also said that we should meet again and that he thinks im alright. But I think i kinda ruined it with my insecurity. He DID back off (very unusual of him) and then i got insecure and asked myself if smth was wrong with me. I politely told him that he can tell me honestly, I would accept it. Bit he said everythings fine and Im overthinking and we only met once. I left him alone since a few days. He hasn't reached out since my bDa
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13 37never trust chad
You should've listened to him. Spamming him with your messages is one thing, but at least listen to what he says. I understand he distanced himself because you're difficult to talk to (I used to be like you).
Regardless of what these inexperienced men tell you, YOU WERE VERY CLEARLY NOT JUST A HOOKUP
Everyone says I was a hook-up and i started thinking the same. So why do you say its not the case? I know i spammed him a little. But i also backed off A LOT. I gave him his space he needed. I haven't contacted him either. Im just letting him be. He knew i was insecure and not used to situations like this. If he truly cared and if i wasn't just a one night stand, he would be more understandable and have empathy. But instead he's acting as if i dont exist anymore.
If that were the case he would've never spent so much time talking to you and he would've cut off contact immediately after. He told you you're wrong about your insecurity, you made him part of your own problems and you didn't even give him space
I know I may have made mistakes too. But I asked him if everything was okey cause he became quite distant. Told me he's busy, told me he's tired, told me he's sleeping, just excuses not to talk too much with me. His behaviour changed completely BEFORE my iNsecurity kicked in. Thats why my insecurity started, cause he acted differently than usual.
I hit him up again, told him his behaviour is weird. He then told me he doesn't want me. We only saw each other once and Im already making such drama. What if we meet 3,4,5x then id make even more drama. Thats what he said lol. I told him starting drama is not my thing and he knows it, he simply didn't like me. Which is ok. I wished him well and told him to block me so i can't contact him again. He blocked me...
Yeah he is not interested anymore. That's weird he should have been up front. I am always up front to a fault sometimes but i want a yes or no so i can be good in staying with that person or move on to someone else. It's just not right what he did.
Once u have sex u figure out if the guy actually gives a shit bout u or not. Traditionally, women avoided this by not fking till marriage so the guy can put his money where his dick wants to be
You scared him away being so clingy. Sometimes a man just is at work or has family obligations. Chill. Better luck next time.
Dejavu...
I guess its Time to delete contact and pull away from him. As he's not meeting your emotional needs.
You deserve better
It was just a hook up. Give it up now and never message him again. It will make you look even more desperate.
Fuckkkkk...
Obviously he just wanted sex. Got it, and is not interested anymore.
But you're to blame too. You didn't give him a chance to get to know you. You met, and straight to bed. This is the reason why girls postpone sex even in relationships.
Umm. Two things. (1) You ARE a bit HYPER-ATTENTIVE.
(2) If you want him back, BACK-OFF!
Make him come to you!
I messaged him again. I bonbarded him till he teplied cause i wanted clearance and to move on. He told me he's not interested in me. He said that i was so clingy after we met once, imagine how clingy id get after meeting him mlre and more! Thats what he said lol. I think its just an excuse, he simply didn't like me. I also told him to block me, several times, and he finally did... What a prick, i actually hate him.
Listen! He was your 'first'! Most don't have a good 'first' memory; you did! Move on the 'Next' and hopefully the 'One'! Good luck!
Consider yourself lucky. He has not wasted time on showing you his true colors. I believe , having a girlfriend or a boyfriend is a journey to a marriage life, though others say we are just friends. But it's a journey and it's not the end of the road for you yet. Pick yourself up and move on, try again. DON'T SHOW HIM THAT YOU'RE DESPERATE, EVERYONE IS SPECIAL FOR SOMEONE IN THIS FREE WORLD.
Yes, I agree with you. I def learned from it. One moment i did bombard him with messages, but that was because he was being very distant. He kept on ignoring me as if i dont exist. I only asked him how he is lol. Then 3 days ago it was my bday and he Suddenly wished me a happy bday. i thanked him and we haven't contacted each other since. Should I block him or wait?
Block him fast. He is really a danger to a human emotions
People say, leave a huge room for disappointment in your heart, that way, when you get heartbroken, you are not hurt so easily.
Lol you hooked up with a guy from Instagram and youve only fucked 3 times. Wow
Yeah he became distant, you were just a hookup and he clearly knows how to talk to women since you were willing to give it up.
He sweet talked you into giving up some pussy and then he's on with his life, you should do the same
I know. I deeply regret it. I don't know why i did what i did. I just felt like we were on the same wavelength and he understood me. Actually never experienced that since Im a weirdo. I usually dont trust people that easily. I don't know how he did this... I feel very used even tho i ofc agreed on having sex. I just sucked. Maybe i smelled bad, maybe I forgot to to shave somewhere, maybe my pussy doesn't look good, maybe my boobs were too small, there's so many things... Its my fault.
Those are the players and im assuming he's good looking too. He knows just what to say to get a girl attached to them
And see you're clearly very self defeating acting as if you were the problem. maybe you were or maybe not. But what is ultimately clear is that you were a 1 night stand.
Bro, you don't know what you're talking about
@Wurdom Absolutely correct
Here you go... he just wanted sex you gave him easily and now he doesn't need to waste his time. He should be targeting another girl now..
And seriously at this age you are still this immature, like a teenage girl..
You let your insecurities make irrational decisions for you, instead of letting him have some space and get back to you. Sounds like you started getting pushy and telling him to leave you alone prematurely and now he (rightly) thinks you're a bit of a nutter.
No, he just wanted a hookup
Only if he's a player or sex was horribly disappointing.
Ofc the sex was disapponting. He knew i was not experienced. I didn't know what to di, i was also very shy and insecure. He knew all that. I told him. Ge always said its not a problem and i shouldn't worry. Right after sex he even told me that the more we do it, the better it will get.
Unfortunately your feelings are right,
Nevermind, just forget it and go ahead, u have to learn how to read the others minds and thoughts.
It's difficult but it comes with practice.
He's gone for good sorry
I think we was just after the sex , being distance in my opinion is he got what he wanted and is not interested.
It's seems he only wanted to have sex with you and once he accomplished his "Goal", he moved on. Sorry OP for what he did to you by leading you on but I don't think he cares about your feelings so you should move on too..
Sorry to say... He just wanted to have sex with you... If i think only the positive things... Then it may be like this... He thaught you are a hot sexy girl... He just has physical attraction towards you. In ur case u have feelings for him... So he is trying to stay away from you...